Beauty and The Buzz
Are You Free This Weekend? by The Average Guy
Matthew Boggs and Jason Miller have written a groundbreaking book call 'project Everlasting'. The book details the marriage secrets of 'marriage masters', couples that have been married 40 or more years. The guys were recently on the Today show where they revealed the secrets to a long and committed marriage.
We have been reviewing the secrets over the past few days and adding our thoughts and views on each secret to success.
When I was a young man, a boss told me to 'Take your wife away every six weeks.' That advice helped him keep his marriage alive as a powerful man in a town known to destroy people's marriages. Taking the wife someplace special was not the great advice. The kernel of knowledge that this man was giving me was to keep the romance alive in the marriage.
How do you do this?
Well, one of the things do is spend time together. Not so fast. I mean real time where you look into your spouse's eyes and listen to them. Listen to their hope and fears. Listen to them express their vulnerabilities. Listen to them tell you how important you are. These are the moments where intimacy is built.
Probably more important is to do it. Yeah, do it! Do it as much as you can. So many people in the United States, 15 to 20 percent of all couples, live in a sexless marriage. A lot more live in marriages where they are under-sexed. There is nothing more important than this area. It is where you connect in a physical and heightened emotional sense. My mother actually said that a couple can 'make love' all day long. I thought Mom was about to share some secret, but she was telling me that loving touches and hugs are showing love all day. Just calling to say I love you is showing love again.
Finally, just act like you're still dating. Dating is fun and so is marriage, but we burden marriage with expectations and issues. We seem to forget to have fun. Everything can be a problem from what color the paint should be to where to go to dinner. Just get a baby sitter and drive! Go somewhere. Anywhere. Just reconnect everyday with the person that you love.
Matthew Boggs and Jason Miller have written a groundbreaking book call 'project Everlasting'. The book details the marriage secrets of 'marriage masters', couples that have been married 40 or more years. The guys were recently on the Today show where they revealed the secrets to a long and committed marriage.
We have been reviewing the secrets over the past few days and adding our thoughts and views on each secret to success.
When I was a young man, a boss told me to 'Take your wife away every six weeks.' That advice helped him keep his marriage alive as a powerful man in a town known to destroy people's marriages. Taking the wife someplace special was not the great advice. The kernel of knowledge that this man was giving me was to keep the romance alive in the marriage.
How do you do this?
Well, one of the things do is spend time together. Not so fast. I mean real time where you look into your spouse's eyes and listen to them. Listen to their hope and fears. Listen to them express their vulnerabilities. Listen to them tell you how important you are. These are the moments where intimacy is built.
Probably more important is to do it. Yeah, do it! Do it as much as you can. So many people in the United States, 15 to 20 percent of all couples, live in a sexless marriage. A lot more live in marriages where they are under-sexed. There is nothing more important than this area. It is where you connect in a physical and heightened emotional sense. My mother actually said that a couple can 'make love' all day long. I thought Mom was about to share some secret, but she was telling me that loving touches and hugs are showing love all day. Just calling to say I love you is showing love again.
Finally, just act like you're still dating. Dating is fun and so is marriage, but we burden marriage with expectations and issues. We seem to forget to have fun. Everything can be a problem from what color the paint should be to where to go to dinner. Just get a baby sitter and drive! Go somewhere. Anywhere. Just reconnect everyday with the person that you love.