Beauty and The Buzz
Demystifying the Double Standard! by The Average Guy
Let me set the scene. You have just had the best date with the hottest guy you have ever laid eyes on. He is your dream man. You are starting with a little kiss on the cheek as he says good night to you. Your lips touch his and before you know it, you are in a passionate embrace like a couple of kids in high school. The windows are starting to get steamed up. How does this night end?
a. You invite him in for a night cap and rock his world.
b. You break off the hot kiss and tell him that you want to take it slow.
How this night ends should depend on where you want this relationship to go. See, guys have double standards. We are wrong to judge women by another standard, but we do anyway. If you made love to me on the first date, I would wonder how many others have shared a similar encounter with you. I would also start to think this is not a woman that I want to take seriously.
Society has set up this dynamic. Of course, since men control most wealth and power around the world and have historically done so, we set up and enforce the double standard. For example, have you ever noticed that promiscuous men are called 'players, Casanova, stud' and promiscuous women are called '*** and sluts'? Now, can you imagine a father proudly slapping his son on the back and bragging that he is a 'player' or 'stud'. Hell yeah. I've seen it. Now, can you imagine a mother introducing her daughter as '***' or 'slut'? Welcome to the double standard.
Now, back to the dream date. If you want this guy to ever call you again for anything other than sex, then take it nice and slow on that first date. Kiss him and tell him you'll be thinking about him. He will be thinking about you on the way home and trying to figure out when he can see you again. He will want to take up where you left off.
Oh, just so you know, as guys under 35 will tell you, we talk about you in pretty explicit terms. His boys will ask him about the date the next day. Do you want him to say, 'She's a nice woman. We just made out.'? Or, do you want him to say 'Dude, I had her barking at the moon!' Remember, we're talking about the first date.
So, if you want this date with the dream man to go anywhere serious, don't sleep with him at first. Try three dates and you will be safe. If he is serious about you, he will wait. We don't want to marry that girl that freaked us after a few drinks at a club.
But, if you just want to have a hot, wild night with 'the guy' then go ahead. But, that's all it will probably ever be - one or two hot nights. Then, he turns into the guy that doesn't call you again. If that's what you're looking for, go for it!!!
Let me set the scene. You have just had the best date with the hottest guy you have ever laid eyes on. He is your dream man. You are starting with a little kiss on the cheek as he says good night to you. Your lips touch his and before you know it, you are in a passionate embrace like a couple of kids in high school. The windows are starting to get steamed up. How does this night end?
a. You invite him in for a night cap and rock his world.
b. You break off the hot kiss and tell him that you want to take it slow.
How this night ends should depend on where you want this relationship to go. See, guys have double standards. We are wrong to judge women by another standard, but we do anyway. If you made love to me on the first date, I would wonder how many others have shared a similar encounter with you. I would also start to think this is not a woman that I want to take seriously.
Society has set up this dynamic. Of course, since men control most wealth and power around the world and have historically done so, we set up and enforce the double standard. For example, have you ever noticed that promiscuous men are called 'players, Casanova, stud' and promiscuous women are called '*** and sluts'? Now, can you imagine a father proudly slapping his son on the back and bragging that he is a 'player' or 'stud'. Hell yeah. I've seen it. Now, can you imagine a mother introducing her daughter as '***' or 'slut'? Welcome to the double standard.
Now, back to the dream date. If you want this guy to ever call you again for anything other than sex, then take it nice and slow on that first date. Kiss him and tell him you'll be thinking about him. He will be thinking about you on the way home and trying to figure out when he can see you again. He will want to take up where you left off.
Oh, just so you know, as guys under 35 will tell you, we talk about you in pretty explicit terms. His boys will ask him about the date the next day. Do you want him to say, 'She's a nice woman. We just made out.'? Or, do you want him to say 'Dude, I had her barking at the moon!' Remember, we're talking about the first date.
So, if you want this date with the dream man to go anywhere serious, don't sleep with him at first. Try three dates and you will be safe. If he is serious about you, he will wait. We don't want to marry that girl that freaked us after a few drinks at a club.
But, if you just want to have a hot, wild night with 'the guy' then go ahead. But, that's all it will probably ever be - one or two hot nights. Then, he turns into the guy that doesn't call you again. If that's what you're looking for, go for it!!!