Beauty and The Buzz
Do You Know the Secrets to a Happy Marriage? by The Average Guy
Matthew Boggs and Jason Miller have written a groundbreaking book call 'Project Everlasting'. The book details the marriage secrets of 'marriage masters', couples that have been married 40 or more years. The guys were recently on the Today show where they revealed the secrets to a long and committed marriage.
Over the next seven days, we will talk about the secrets and add our thoughts and views on each secret to success.
1. Commitment. These marriage masters are absolutely committed to each other. I'm not talking about the commitment of today. I'm talking that old school commitment. These people have the kind of commitment that last when the husband goes off to war or the wife doesn't lose the baby weight. They don't have an escape plan and aren't looking for one. The authors said that these people certainly have had their share of marital strife but they are looking are too busy looking for solutions to be concerned about examining exit strategies.
In today's world, we enter marriage with a pre-nuptial agreement and even do post-nuptial agreements to divide up our property in case we fail in the marriage. Some say this is just planning for the future. I say it is planning for failure.
Your mate needs to know that come what may, you are not going to leave. You don't have one foot in the marriage and one foot out of the door in a committed marriage. You can literally bet the bank on your spouse.
Today, marriage is anything but committed and permanent. It seems to be something that people are tied to as long as times are good. That's not a marriage. That's a fling. People forget what marriage really is. It is a life commitment made by two people to spend their lives together. They invite their friends, family and perform the ceremony with an air of religiosity. They make a promise to each other in front of all of these people and the God of their understanding.
Think of commitment in the context of your relationship with your child. You don't tell your child that I'll be your Dad as long as you don't hurt me or disappoint me. That would be crazy. Good parents are committed to their children no matter what. When I was a young boy, my Dad always told me that they would stand with me no matter what I did. They would always love me and protect me. He told me that he would be there for me even if I was wrong.
Commitment is tough. It is real and it's not for wimps. It's hard work.
Matthew Boggs and Jason Miller have written a groundbreaking book call 'Project Everlasting'. The book details the marriage secrets of 'marriage masters', couples that have been married 40 or more years. The guys were recently on the Today show where they revealed the secrets to a long and committed marriage.
Over the next seven days, we will talk about the secrets and add our thoughts and views on each secret to success.
1. Commitment. These marriage masters are absolutely committed to each other. I'm not talking about the commitment of today. I'm talking that old school commitment. These people have the kind of commitment that last when the husband goes off to war or the wife doesn't lose the baby weight. They don't have an escape plan and aren't looking for one. The authors said that these people certainly have had their share of marital strife but they are looking are too busy looking for solutions to be concerned about examining exit strategies.
In today's world, we enter marriage with a pre-nuptial agreement and even do post-nuptial agreements to divide up our property in case we fail in the marriage. Some say this is just planning for the future. I say it is planning for failure.
Your mate needs to know that come what may, you are not going to leave. You don't have one foot in the marriage and one foot out of the door in a committed marriage. You can literally bet the bank on your spouse.
Today, marriage is anything but committed and permanent. It seems to be something that people are tied to as long as times are good. That's not a marriage. That's a fling. People forget what marriage really is. It is a life commitment made by two people to spend their lives together. They invite their friends, family and perform the ceremony with an air of religiosity. They make a promise to each other in front of all of these people and the God of their understanding.
Think of commitment in the context of your relationship with your child. You don't tell your child that I'll be your Dad as long as you don't hurt me or disappoint me. That would be crazy. Good parents are committed to their children no matter what. When I was a young boy, my Dad always told me that they would stand with me no matter what I did. They would always love me and protect me. He told me that he would be there for me even if I was wrong.
Commitment is tough. It is real and it's not for wimps. It's hard work.