Beauty and The Buzz
Is Your Man Allergic to Commitment? by DDHG Editorial Team
Your man is great! He says he's devoted to you, he makes you breakfast in bed and even gives you foot rubs sometimes. But it's been four years and he seems to have no intention of making a solid commitment to you. Is your man allergic to real commitment? Here are three signs your man might be a commitment phobic and what you can do about it!
Diagnosis:
Distance Dyslexia '" he's got a common problem. Sometimes he's really close to you, is very attentive and oh so loving, but at the drop of a hat, he pulls away and keeps his distance. To him, pulling away allows him to keep some distance between the two of you, while making himself emotionally available for should someone else come along.
Cure:
He's afraid of a full commitment and you could end up wasting precious years of your life with a guy who's got one foot in the door and one foot out of it. That's not the kind of relationship any girl wants to be in. Ditch him and move on!
Diagnosis:
Too Many Choices '" Sure he says he's committed to you, but the minute you turn around, he's checking out his other options. Sometimes, he even works his magic in front of you, eyeing women when he's in your presence.
Cure:
He's checking out his options for a reason. Don't waste another second on this guy. You won't be able to get him to focus his attention on you alone, so don't bother trying. There are plenty of other men out there who can happily keep their attention on you and all you have to offer.
Diagnosis:
Cohabitation Conundrum '" You've moved in together. An engagement and marriage seemed right around the corner. That was two years ago and now he seems content just shacking up.
Cure:
There's an old adage that describes how commitment phobic men feel when they live with their girlfriends '" why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free. Living together before making a permanent commitment to each other can often stall your relationship. If you're in this situation, take your man aside and let him know that you need to be a truly committed relationship, not just sharing an apartment like roommates, but building a future together as a couple. Tell him that if he hasn't made a commitment to you by a certain date, you can no longer be in the relationship. Hopefully, he'll do the right thing and commit. If not, think of the break-up as a chance to find a guy who is really right for you.
Your man is great! He says he's devoted to you, he makes you breakfast in bed and even gives you foot rubs sometimes. But it's been four years and he seems to have no intention of making a solid commitment to you. Is your man allergic to real commitment? Here are three signs your man might be a commitment phobic and what you can do about it!
Diagnosis:
Distance Dyslexia '" he's got a common problem. Sometimes he's really close to you, is very attentive and oh so loving, but at the drop of a hat, he pulls away and keeps his distance. To him, pulling away allows him to keep some distance between the two of you, while making himself emotionally available for should someone else come along.
Cure:
He's afraid of a full commitment and you could end up wasting precious years of your life with a guy who's got one foot in the door and one foot out of it. That's not the kind of relationship any girl wants to be in. Ditch him and move on!
Diagnosis:
Too Many Choices '" Sure he says he's committed to you, but the minute you turn around, he's checking out his other options. Sometimes, he even works his magic in front of you, eyeing women when he's in your presence.
Cure:
He's checking out his options for a reason. Don't waste another second on this guy. You won't be able to get him to focus his attention on you alone, so don't bother trying. There are plenty of other men out there who can happily keep their attention on you and all you have to offer.
Diagnosis:
Cohabitation Conundrum '" You've moved in together. An engagement and marriage seemed right around the corner. That was two years ago and now he seems content just shacking up.
Cure:
There's an old adage that describes how commitment phobic men feel when they live with their girlfriends '" why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free. Living together before making a permanent commitment to each other can often stall your relationship. If you're in this situation, take your man aside and let him know that you need to be a truly committed relationship, not just sharing an apartment like roommates, but building a future together as a couple. Tell him that if he hasn't made a commitment to you by a certain date, you can no longer be in the relationship. Hopefully, he'll do the right thing and commit. If not, think of the break-up as a chance to find a guy who is really right for you.