Beauty and The Buzz
Secret #3 - How to Have a Happy Marriage by The Average Guy
Matthew Boggs and Jason Miller have written a groundbreaking book call 'Project Everlasting'. The book details the marriage secrets of 'marriage masters', couples that have been married 40 or more years. The guys were recently on the Today show where they revealed the secrets to a long and committed marriage.
We have been reviewing the secrets over the past few days and adding our thoughts and views on each secret to success.
3. Leave the baggage at the door. Can you imagine going around for 40 years carrying a suitcase? Can you further imagine that the suitcase gets heavier everyday? Well, that's what happens when you have unresolved conflict and resentment.
Matthew Boggs and Jason Miller got sage advice from the marriage masters on this issue. Some of them said that you should have the boxing gloves at the ready and be prepared to say what's on your mind. They encouraged getting things out into the open and having frank discussions. The marriage masters warned that carrying resentment is like carrying around poison. It will leak into the soul of your marriage and kill it.
Amazingly, resentment doesn't hurt the object of the resentment. Many times the person may not be aware that the other person is even carrying around any resentment or anger. But, you carry it, hold onto it and guard it like it is something precious. Over time, it ends up killing you.
For example, one day I was out at lunch and saw an old friend of mine. The guy that I knew was in good shape and struggling to maintain his appearance. The guy I saw at lunch was fat. I told him that I missed seeing him at the gym. He told me that he didn't like the guy at the front desk so he stopped coming to the gym. I looked at his bulging stomach and said, 'I guess you showed him!'
So, the point is that you should talk these differences out and when you can't do it alone, seek help. But, you have to work on a environment where everyone feels safe to discuss things and talk openly. The relationship has to one that is free of judgment. The parties have to trust each other.
The marriage master said that they found that going to marriage retreats were one of the best ways to work on relationship. If you simply Google the 'marriage retreats' you will see that there is no shortage of help to rescue marriages or give the marriage a helpful boost.
Make a commitment today to make your marriage last. Become a marriage master.
Matthew Boggs and Jason Miller have written a groundbreaking book call 'Project Everlasting'. The book details the marriage secrets of 'marriage masters', couples that have been married 40 or more years. The guys were recently on the Today show where they revealed the secrets to a long and committed marriage.
We have been reviewing the secrets over the past few days and adding our thoughts and views on each secret to success.
3. Leave the baggage at the door. Can you imagine going around for 40 years carrying a suitcase? Can you further imagine that the suitcase gets heavier everyday? Well, that's what happens when you have unresolved conflict and resentment.
Matthew Boggs and Jason Miller got sage advice from the marriage masters on this issue. Some of them said that you should have the boxing gloves at the ready and be prepared to say what's on your mind. They encouraged getting things out into the open and having frank discussions. The marriage masters warned that carrying resentment is like carrying around poison. It will leak into the soul of your marriage and kill it.
Amazingly, resentment doesn't hurt the object of the resentment. Many times the person may not be aware that the other person is even carrying around any resentment or anger. But, you carry it, hold onto it and guard it like it is something precious. Over time, it ends up killing you.
For example, one day I was out at lunch and saw an old friend of mine. The guy that I knew was in good shape and struggling to maintain his appearance. The guy I saw at lunch was fat. I told him that I missed seeing him at the gym. He told me that he didn't like the guy at the front desk so he stopped coming to the gym. I looked at his bulging stomach and said, 'I guess you showed him!'
So, the point is that you should talk these differences out and when you can't do it alone, seek help. But, you have to work on a environment where everyone feels safe to discuss things and talk openly. The relationship has to one that is free of judgment. The parties have to trust each other.
The marriage master said that they found that going to marriage retreats were one of the best ways to work on relationship. If you simply Google the 'marriage retreats' you will see that there is no shortage of help to rescue marriages or give the marriage a helpful boost.
Make a commitment today to make your marriage last. Become a marriage master.