Beauty and The Buzz
The Secrets of a Successful Break Up! by Tasha Cunningham
Remember the song With or Without You by U2? It's one of the best break-up songs of all time in my opinion. It's about having the strength to move on after heartbreak, something we've all had to face at some point in our dating lives. Most break-up stories I hear are pretty bad. One partner cheats. The other finds out and all hell breaks loose. There are those break-up stories, however, that don't end so badly. I actually know of some ex-couples who've remained friends long after a break-up. What did they know that the rest of us haven't figured out? They knew how to break up with each other the right way. Yes, there is such a thing as a good break-up and if it's done right, you may just remain friends with that person.
Break-Up Rules to Live By
1. When you feel like you want out of a relationship, don't procrastinate. Don't wait around until you find the next girl or guy and then promptly inform you current flame that the relationship is over. Pulling the rug out from a significant other will only breed resentment. Instead, ask your mate if you can get together to talk about the relationship. Pick a quiet place where you can both hear each other talk.
2. Spare your soon-to-be ex the 'it's not you, it's me' speech. Don't beat around the bush. Get right to the point of why you're breaking up and lay out your feelings. Give your paramour a chance to digest the fact that your relationship is over.
3. No second chances - at least for now. Don't beg for a second chance. If the two of you are meant to be in a relationship, it will happen. Agree not to talk to each other for a certain period of time. When that time is up, give your ex a call and see how things are going. Perhaps the time will help you both clear your heads and decide what you truly want. If, after that period of time, you decide you don't want to get back together, be honest and upfront about it.
4. Accept what has happened to you. It's going to be hard, but you've got to realize that you're going through a break-up to you. It's going to hurt and probably for a while. Just ask Jennifer Aniston. There's nothing wrong with that. Break-ups usually are painful. Accepting what happened and not blaming yourself will help you move on.
5. Pick up a copy of the book How to Heal a Broken Heart in 30 Days: A Day-by-Day Guide to Saying Good-bye and Getting On With Your Life by Howard Bronson. It gives you advice to get through every day of your break-up and make the pain go away in just 30 days.
Remember the song With or Without You by U2? It's one of the best break-up songs of all time in my opinion. It's about having the strength to move on after heartbreak, something we've all had to face at some point in our dating lives. Most break-up stories I hear are pretty bad. One partner cheats. The other finds out and all hell breaks loose. There are those break-up stories, however, that don't end so badly. I actually know of some ex-couples who've remained friends long after a break-up. What did they know that the rest of us haven't figured out? They knew how to break up with each other the right way. Yes, there is such a thing as a good break-up and if it's done right, you may just remain friends with that person.
Break-Up Rules to Live By
1. When you feel like you want out of a relationship, don't procrastinate. Don't wait around until you find the next girl or guy and then promptly inform you current flame that the relationship is over. Pulling the rug out from a significant other will only breed resentment. Instead, ask your mate if you can get together to talk about the relationship. Pick a quiet place where you can both hear each other talk.
2. Spare your soon-to-be ex the 'it's not you, it's me' speech. Don't beat around the bush. Get right to the point of why you're breaking up and lay out your feelings. Give your paramour a chance to digest the fact that your relationship is over.
3. No second chances - at least for now. Don't beg for a second chance. If the two of you are meant to be in a relationship, it will happen. Agree not to talk to each other for a certain period of time. When that time is up, give your ex a call and see how things are going. Perhaps the time will help you both clear your heads and decide what you truly want. If, after that period of time, you decide you don't want to get back together, be honest and upfront about it.
4. Accept what has happened to you. It's going to be hard, but you've got to realize that you're going through a break-up to you. It's going to hurt and probably for a while. Just ask Jennifer Aniston. There's nothing wrong with that. Break-ups usually are painful. Accepting what happened and not blaming yourself will help you move on.
5. Pick up a copy of the book How to Heal a Broken Heart in 30 Days: A Day-by-Day Guide to Saying Good-bye and Getting On With Your Life by Howard Bronson. It gives you advice to get through every day of your break-up and make the pain go away in just 30 days.