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Why a Break Up Doesn't Mean It's Broken by Kerry L. Gray
Girls and Guys,
Here's a little known fact: a break up does not mean it's over. In fact, a break up can be the first step to moving forward with your man.
Yes, that's right - break ups can move relationships forward.
It is through problems, roadblocks and obstacles to love that we experience personal growth. A relationship does not begin to grow until one partner experiences enough dissatisfaction and doubt to question the relationship. "Just what am I getting myself into?" means that personal growth and growth as a couple is beginning. When you understand this concept then you can see breakups in a new light.
Don't fight the break up! When your partner expresses doubt and concern that maybe your love is not real or you two are not meant to last, just listen and nod and do not react. Do not beg, cry, yell, or get upset in any way.
Smile to yourself and know deep down that this is a true sign that the relationship IS real and might have staying power. If your love wants to spend some time apart, agree and accept it. Take the high road and let him know you are a true friend, and want only his happiness (along with your own, of course!). Leave him alone for a while - let him spend some time without you.
It is one of the greatest gifts you can give him, because men equate longing with love. Begin planning your next encounter, and know that time is on your side.
You can use this concept to your advantage if you feel you are being walked on and taken for granted. Express doubts of your own, and request some time apart. When you decide to return to give him a second chance at love with you, you will find a much more receptive partner, willing to work harder at your relationship since he almost lost you!
A break up does not have to be permanent until you decide it is. A break up is a chance to let the relationship breathe and grow. Seldom does love move forward without getting the doubts and fears out in the open. The next time your love expresses those doubts, gladly hand him a break up on a silver platter, with kind words, a smile and a fond kiss farewell. Only you will know that it does not mean forever. -- Kerry L. Gray
Girls and Guys,
Here's a little known fact: a break up does not mean it's over. In fact, a break up can be the first step to moving forward with your man.
Yes, that's right - break ups can move relationships forward.
It is through problems, roadblocks and obstacles to love that we experience personal growth. A relationship does not begin to grow until one partner experiences enough dissatisfaction and doubt to question the relationship. "Just what am I getting myself into?" means that personal growth and growth as a couple is beginning. When you understand this concept then you can see breakups in a new light.
Don't fight the break up! When your partner expresses doubt and concern that maybe your love is not real or you two are not meant to last, just listen and nod and do not react. Do not beg, cry, yell, or get upset in any way.
Smile to yourself and know deep down that this is a true sign that the relationship IS real and might have staying power. If your love wants to spend some time apart, agree and accept it. Take the high road and let him know you are a true friend, and want only his happiness (along with your own, of course!). Leave him alone for a while - let him spend some time without you.
It is one of the greatest gifts you can give him, because men equate longing with love. Begin planning your next encounter, and know that time is on your side.
You can use this concept to your advantage if you feel you are being walked on and taken for granted. Express doubts of your own, and request some time apart. When you decide to return to give him a second chance at love with you, you will find a much more receptive partner, willing to work harder at your relationship since he almost lost you!
A break up does not have to be permanent until you decide it is. A break up is a chance to let the relationship breathe and grow. Seldom does love move forward without getting the doubts and fears out in the open. The next time your love expresses those doubts, gladly hand him a break up on a silver platter, with kind words, a smile and a fond kiss farewell. Only you will know that it does not mean forever. -- Kerry L. Gray
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