Empower Yourself
5 Secrets That Will Get Him to Open Up More! by Tasha Cunningham
Can you count the number of sentences exchanged between you and your man each day? That's not good. Your communication should be much better than that, but sometimes, it's hard to get guys to open up. Whether it's his male ego or he's just a pensive dude, we know it can be hard to dialogue with a cutie who can't communicate. Here's what you can do!
1. When in Rome, do as the Romans do. Is your man interested in football, art or fitness? Then you need to get interested in those things as well. Try this. Figure out what's going on with your man's favorite NFL team. Are they doing well? Does the team suck? Find out and bring it up the next time you're with your man. Watch how quickly you get your man's attention. Even better, the next time his favorite team is playing, surprise him with tickets or make it a date at home with popcorn and beer and watch the game on the tube.
2. Ask questions with care. Sometimes with a guy, it's all about how you phrase the question. Hitting him with questions like, how do you feel about our relationship, or how can we achieve more intimacy with each other, are not going to make him exactly loose-lipped. Instead try, honey, is everything okay? That is a more general question and doesn't have the word 'relationship' in it. That word often causes an unexplained communication breakdown in men. Shortly after you utter the word, they shut down and nothing else you say will get through to him.
3. Don't judge him. Men hate sharing something with their woman, only to be judged for it. Phrases like, that's not so bad, honey and I've done worse, make your man feel at ease and comfortable to share more with you.
4. Reveal yourself as well '" the good, the bad and the ugly. Mutual disclosure is a key to communication.
5. Let go of past grievances. True communication means being able to be present in the moment. A lot of people in relationships tend to hold on to something a partner did or said at a particular moment in the past. But remember, just because your man said something that was true for him a year ago, doesn't mean it's true for him now. And the same goes for you. He might be holding on to something you've said and isn't letting it go. That's going to lead to communication problems.
Can you count the number of sentences exchanged between you and your man each day? That's not good. Your communication should be much better than that, but sometimes, it's hard to get guys to open up. Whether it's his male ego or he's just a pensive dude, we know it can be hard to dialogue with a cutie who can't communicate. Here's what you can do!
1. When in Rome, do as the Romans do. Is your man interested in football, art or fitness? Then you need to get interested in those things as well. Try this. Figure out what's going on with your man's favorite NFL team. Are they doing well? Does the team suck? Find out and bring it up the next time you're with your man. Watch how quickly you get your man's attention. Even better, the next time his favorite team is playing, surprise him with tickets or make it a date at home with popcorn and beer and watch the game on the tube.
2. Ask questions with care. Sometimes with a guy, it's all about how you phrase the question. Hitting him with questions like, how do you feel about our relationship, or how can we achieve more intimacy with each other, are not going to make him exactly loose-lipped. Instead try, honey, is everything okay? That is a more general question and doesn't have the word 'relationship' in it. That word often causes an unexplained communication breakdown in men. Shortly after you utter the word, they shut down and nothing else you say will get through to him.
3. Don't judge him. Men hate sharing something with their woman, only to be judged for it. Phrases like, that's not so bad, honey and I've done worse, make your man feel at ease and comfortable to share more with you.
4. Reveal yourself as well '" the good, the bad and the ugly. Mutual disclosure is a key to communication.
5. Let go of past grievances. True communication means being able to be present in the moment. A lot of people in relationships tend to hold on to something a partner did or said at a particular moment in the past. But remember, just because your man said something that was true for him a year ago, doesn't mean it's true for him now. And the same goes for you. He might be holding on to something you've said and isn't letting it go. That's going to lead to communication problems.