Empower Yourself
Don't Fall For the Wrong Guy Again! by The Average Guy
You've scraped that piece of crap from your shoes that caused you some much heartache and pain. You are free!
You've put him on Dontdatehimgirl.com for all the other sisters to see. Now what? You seem like you are ready to move on, but let me give you a little advice.
In a quiet moment, maybe on the way to work or home with the radio off, consider why the former relationship didn't work. Ask yourself and others what part you played in the failure of the relationship. Those that tell you that you did nothing are probably lying to you. Ask others. You did something. Nobody is faultless. Solve your issues so that you don't carry them into the next relationship.
Then sit down and list the things you liked about the ex and the things you didn't like. Be specific but categorize the behavior and not just what he did. If a guy treats waiters badly, he generally is insecure and needs to assert what little power he has. Insecurity is what you want to focus on and not the fact that he treated waiters badly.
When you start dating someone and you see the things on your list that you don't like, don't accept the unacceptable. Suppose you were formerly dating a cocaine addict. Would it be okay to start dating an active alcoholic? Just because the substances have changed shouldn't make a difference because the guy is an active addict. Put addicted on your list of the unacceptable.
What happens to men and women is that we will date the same person over and over again. By this I mean we date different people with all of the same issues. For example, do you have a friend that dates only muscle bound men that she meets at her gym? The personality traits that cause these guys to be self-obsessed are the same in all of these guys. These traits will reveal themselves over and over again. Your friend will complain that all these guys only care about themselves and they are selfish and that working out comes before they do. All of that is true, but she keeps fishing in the same pond and is surprised she keeps pulling out the same fish.
By being armed with your list, you can go over it every few weeks and see if your new date is showing the signs that you saw in the old in your old relationship. If so, scratch him off and keep moving because you will save yourself and him a lot of time and heartache.
You've scraped that piece of crap from your shoes that caused you some much heartache and pain. You are free!
You've put him on Dontdatehimgirl.com for all the other sisters to see. Now what? You seem like you are ready to move on, but let me give you a little advice.
In a quiet moment, maybe on the way to work or home with the radio off, consider why the former relationship didn't work. Ask yourself and others what part you played in the failure of the relationship. Those that tell you that you did nothing are probably lying to you. Ask others. You did something. Nobody is faultless. Solve your issues so that you don't carry them into the next relationship.
Then sit down and list the things you liked about the ex and the things you didn't like. Be specific but categorize the behavior and not just what he did. If a guy treats waiters badly, he generally is insecure and needs to assert what little power he has. Insecurity is what you want to focus on and not the fact that he treated waiters badly.
When you start dating someone and you see the things on your list that you don't like, don't accept the unacceptable. Suppose you were formerly dating a cocaine addict. Would it be okay to start dating an active alcoholic? Just because the substances have changed shouldn't make a difference because the guy is an active addict. Put addicted on your list of the unacceptable.
What happens to men and women is that we will date the same person over and over again. By this I mean we date different people with all of the same issues. For example, do you have a friend that dates only muscle bound men that she meets at her gym? The personality traits that cause these guys to be self-obsessed are the same in all of these guys. These traits will reveal themselves over and over again. Your friend will complain that all these guys only care about themselves and they are selfish and that working out comes before they do. All of that is true, but she keeps fishing in the same pond and is surprised she keeps pulling out the same fish.
By being armed with your list, you can go over it every few weeks and see if your new date is showing the signs that you saw in the old in your old relationship. If so, scratch him off and keep moving because you will save yourself and him a lot of time and heartache.
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