Empower Yourself
How to Deal When Your Relationship Ends by DDHG Editorial Team
Breaking up is hard to do. Many psychologists even liken the end of a marriage or long-term relationship to death. A break-up is only a temporary bruise to one's heart, though. In time, it will heal. So how you can you speed up the healing process?
1. Take this break-up as a learning experience. Treat it as an opportunity to examine what went wrong in your relationship and what you could have done, if anything, to avoid it. If you played your part in the break-up, take responsibility for your actions and make a commitment to be on the lookout for that kind of behavior in your future relationships.
2. Stop thinking about yourself all the time. We all have a tendency to think about what we want, what we need, what's going to happen to us, who's going to take care of us, but you'll find if you shift the focus off of you for a moment and concentrate on another person in need, you feel better about yourself. For example, instead of getting wrapped up in the fact that you're not in a relationship, go visit a sick child in the cancer ward of your local children's hospital. Volunteer at a local library or visit a women's shelter. You get the idea. Seeing that the world does not revolve around you and your break-up has a way of putting things into perspective for you.
3. Stay positive. It's really easy to get down on yourself. But staying positive feels better, makes you look better and sends out groovy vibes to the cute you may run into at the bookstore!
Breaking up is hard to do. Many psychologists even liken the end of a marriage or long-term relationship to death. A break-up is only a temporary bruise to one's heart, though. In time, it will heal. So how you can you speed up the healing process?
1. Take this break-up as a learning experience. Treat it as an opportunity to examine what went wrong in your relationship and what you could have done, if anything, to avoid it. If you played your part in the break-up, take responsibility for your actions and make a commitment to be on the lookout for that kind of behavior in your future relationships.
2. Stop thinking about yourself all the time. We all have a tendency to think about what we want, what we need, what's going to happen to us, who's going to take care of us, but you'll find if you shift the focus off of you for a moment and concentrate on another person in need, you feel better about yourself. For example, instead of getting wrapped up in the fact that you're not in a relationship, go visit a sick child in the cancer ward of your local children's hospital. Volunteer at a local library or visit a women's shelter. You get the idea. Seeing that the world does not revolve around you and your break-up has a way of putting things into perspective for you.
3. Stay positive. It's really easy to get down on yourself. But staying positive feels better, makes you look better and sends out groovy vibes to the cute you may run into at the bookstore!