Empower Yourself
The Key to Successful Online Dating! by The Average Guy
Online dating has become very popular in this country. It's not longer viewed as the activity that only involves desperate losers. Many people who are involved in online dating are successful, dynamic people. They are busy. They are looking for like people. But, suppose people lie online?
What supposedly makes online dating so appealing is that you don't have to sort through all of the bad stuff to get to the good stuff. You are supposed to be able to sort through people by looking for the characteristics that you want. But what happens when you arrive at the date and the guy that said he was 6'3' turns out to be 5'3'? Even worse, he says that he's single and turns out to be married?
I am lost by this behavior. Do guys think that the woman won't notice that they are short? Don't they know that they will eventually have to tell the woman that they are married? Don't they think they will have to eventually tell the woman they've been arrested? Of course! It is a waste of everybody's time including the liar!
So, how do you deal with this? You should talk to the person on the phone first. You should ask the person all of the questions that you deem important. If height is important to you, ask the guy what suit size he wears, not how tall he is. If faith is important to you, you should ask about it but ask specifically. If working out is important, ask the guy how often he works out and what his favorite exercise is. Believe me; guys will say anything but it's up to you to ask the questions.
You should also do a little background research. Look the guy up online. In fact, look for him here. Use search engines and put his name in. Also, take advantage of public records which will give you divorce information as well as criminal record information. But, just because it appears that he is married doesn't mean that he is. He might be divorced, but the online information hasn't caught up with the change of events. What's required is that you use you common sense and ask questions.
You should also meet the person for a short, time controlled meeting. It should be at a public place. Think about Starbucks. That is a perfect place for a first meeting. Think of it as a meeting instead of a date. If you decide to go out with him again, you should get a home phone number. Call it right there at the first meeting in front of him. Tell him that a girl cannot be too careful. The answering machine message will tell you a great deal about him, specifically, whether another person lives at the house.
The second date should be on a weekend night and start late. Why? If he has a girlfriend or a wife, he cannot be out on a Saturday night at 10:00 pm without significant problems. If he is married, he will not risk getting caught to be with you on a second date. He will tell you that he can't do it. If you don't want to invest a Saturday night, then think about a Sunday morning. A Sunday brunch will test things. Guys can't get out of the house on a Sunday morning, dressed nicely without a major explanation. Ladies, use your common sense and protect yourself.
Online dating has become very popular in this country. It's not longer viewed as the activity that only involves desperate losers. Many people who are involved in online dating are successful, dynamic people. They are busy. They are looking for like people. But, suppose people lie online?
What supposedly makes online dating so appealing is that you don't have to sort through all of the bad stuff to get to the good stuff. You are supposed to be able to sort through people by looking for the characteristics that you want. But what happens when you arrive at the date and the guy that said he was 6'3' turns out to be 5'3'? Even worse, he says that he's single and turns out to be married?
I am lost by this behavior. Do guys think that the woman won't notice that they are short? Don't they know that they will eventually have to tell the woman that they are married? Don't they think they will have to eventually tell the woman they've been arrested? Of course! It is a waste of everybody's time including the liar!
So, how do you deal with this? You should talk to the person on the phone first. You should ask the person all of the questions that you deem important. If height is important to you, ask the guy what suit size he wears, not how tall he is. If faith is important to you, you should ask about it but ask specifically. If working out is important, ask the guy how often he works out and what his favorite exercise is. Believe me; guys will say anything but it's up to you to ask the questions.
You should also do a little background research. Look the guy up online. In fact, look for him here. Use search engines and put his name in. Also, take advantage of public records which will give you divorce information as well as criminal record information. But, just because it appears that he is married doesn't mean that he is. He might be divorced, but the online information hasn't caught up with the change of events. What's required is that you use you common sense and ask questions.
You should also meet the person for a short, time controlled meeting. It should be at a public place. Think about Starbucks. That is a perfect place for a first meeting. Think of it as a meeting instead of a date. If you decide to go out with him again, you should get a home phone number. Call it right there at the first meeting in front of him. Tell him that a girl cannot be too careful. The answering machine message will tell you a great deal about him, specifically, whether another person lives at the house.
The second date should be on a weekend night and start late. Why? If he has a girlfriend or a wife, he cannot be out on a Saturday night at 10:00 pm without significant problems. If he is married, he will not risk getting caught to be with you on a second date. He will tell you that he can't do it. If you don't want to invest a Saturday night, then think about a Sunday morning. A Sunday brunch will test things. Guys can't get out of the house on a Sunday morning, dressed nicely without a major explanation. Ladies, use your common sense and protect yourself.