This site is quite cool! I can't wait to explore! This is the best site ever for women! 2008-01-03 08:11:38 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F whats on my mind is the coming year and the changes i need to make in many aspects of my life.....new yrs resolution is to be focused on those things! 2007-12-26 08:16:03 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F I know who "he" is, just don't know the best way to approach him...... 2008-01-05 20:08:41 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F Out of a 10 year relationship that honestly did not start well.. He went and found someone else on a dating website.. it sucks as I loved and trusted this guy but.. it was a long distance relationship and truly difficult to maintain. It was turbulent and mostly on but sometimes off in 10 years. During one of the recent offs, I saw someone else. I was honest about it and he flipped. That's what honesty does.. He could have been cheating all along. Pluse, he was married for a good deal of it. Hes separated and not divorced.. I so want to tell this other girl..but, its like why bother. She will find out for herself. I'm no dummy , althought I feel like a damn idiot. I'm professional and 49 years old.. 2008-01-06 09:57:24 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F i would like to know why do man play games such as never knowing what they want even when it's sitting in there face everything they could want and more and then on top of that they leave u for trash men ya'll suck i think most men need to grow up and treat the classy women right . 2007-12-26 23:59:10 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F I discovered this site by accident and I love it. 2008-01-09 00:47:43 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F I was with guy for 5 years and when i tell you i did everything i could to make this relationship work. I dealt with some things i know i shouldn't have been dealing with,but i wanted him so much.At the time i couldn't see that no matter what i did he would never change for me change is something a person has to want for themselves and no amount of influence from anyone will help.We're not together anymore but at the time i thought i couldn't live without him.I look at the what i went through as a blessing b/c now i know how to not let a man treat me and not to except something just b/c i think i may love this person.I'm so young and still have so much to learn but one thing i can say to someone who may be in my shoes right now is that love can be so blinding but you know in your heart when it's not right no matter how much you want it to work you have to love and respect yourself before he can i know that sounds corny but it's so true. 2008-01-11 16:03:52 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F I was dating this guy. He was a pastor and a funreal director. He swept me off my feet. He knew what to do for a women. He also was a good provider. The problem is that he meet women on the regular and tell them a bunch of lies and give them what he thinks they want and make a whole bunch of promises to them, telling how much he loves them and plans to marry them. He will even take you to look at a ring. He will promise never to leave you.In within weeks he finds another prey. He will just all of a sudden leave you,making up lies about "he needs space to get his self together. He needs to go to therapy."LIES, ALL LIES. He will even include his children so that you will believe that he wants to be a family. LIES. 2008-01-15 13:58:26 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F Dated a guy for five years seriously, but never lived together. He was emotionally unavailable, most of the time, and was never forthcoming with thoughts- not a good communicator. We broke up six months ago over what I thought was that he could not decide if he wanted children. He's 40, I am 32. About three weeks after we broke up, he started sleeping with a 23 year old in his office. She, the 23 year old, has a boyfriend, too. All this time while we have been broken up, he has told me he still loves me and may still want to get married and have a family with me. Now I am left with anger, frustration, and a feeling that all I ever was to him was a security blanket. I feel like I've wasted my time, and never really knew him. I suppose he's just a 40 year old, immature, and confused man that I unfortunately stayed with way too long. Jeesh- all I want is to get through the day without thinking about this- and them! 2008-01-16 19:25:58 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F My story begins in 2003 when I met my "husband" we had Valentine's day as an anniversary....(dating), but married Oct 30. Rob is certainly sick. He walked out on me in the middle of treatment for Leukemia, (on Valentine's Day) he cut me off and had an affair, then after wanting his absolution for his sin, he continued to lie, tell me I was the only one if it wasnt me it wasnt anyone. He said he had a succubus demon on him. funny...i think the demon is HIM. he is already on dating sites...i cant even go on, ive never done ANYTHING to deserve THIS. 2008-01-17 11:29:17 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F i met Peter at Coles when I was shopping one night. He came onto me while I was shopping he worked at Coles. He told me that he was a gentleman who respected women and that he had nursed his wife with cancer at home till she died, which I must say impressed me a lot, We went out and he was like an octapus and on our first date he drank himself into obllivion and asked me was I a man!!!! Im blonde, petite 38,23,35, wear pretty clothes and have blond curly hair and am more feminine than you could ever imagine. I never wanted to see him again, however I ran into him some days later and after a huge apolpgy from him I reluctantly agreed to a second date. Which proved to be disastrous, He once again drank himself stupid and when I asked him why he had such a drinking problem out it came his poor wife was dying from cancer one of her carers whom I suspect he was sleeping with, gave him a lethal dose of morphine and said I'll leave you with this its up to you. He told me he injected it into her drip and went to bed in the next room leaving her to die alone because he was tired and needed to sleep.Needless to say I told him that I didnt wish to see him again and guess what I received countless crude filthy texts, which I have stored as I informed him that it was against the law and thankfully have never heard from grim reaper again. 2008-01-18 09:53:07 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F I was seeing a 30 year old man for 3 years. I'm 22. He apparently had a wife an three kids. He treated me so bad even though I did not know this. Called me names like fat. Slept around. He caught a STD and blamed me. I'm clean as a whistle. Found out there were strippers.Oooh, one time we were in the middle of sex and he said, "I want to have sex with a thinner woman"...I was so hurt. When I walked way he acted so hurtful. Twisted it around and basically made it sound like he's walking away from me. Found out he's still cheating on his wife with a family friend. Part of me wants to call the wife. But I dont want to get involved. He's usuing all the lines he fed me to her. I don't know why I feel so bad. Maybe because this man beat me into a pulp and it's taking forever to get my life back on track. 2008-01-21 03:50:10 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F I started dating a married man in Nov 06 and I too was married. At the time my me and my husband were so miserable that I guess this is I why I went ahead with an affair. I had never cheated on anybody in my life. I have since found out that my husband had been cheating on me for a long time. I don't have my Rose colored glasses on anymore. I feel awful for having this affair because of his wife. I know nothing of her except she's married to a snake. I want to tell her so bad but they have a child and I don't want to ruin her life or their childs life. It still stays on my mind though. Any thoughts on helping me get thru this would be great. I know eventually she will find out that he's been cheating on her for years and probably put him out and I keep thinking that will be enough for me just to hear it. What I learned from all of this is this, when you have an affair with a married man it's never a satisfying thing at all. I will never do this ever again no matter what. Thank You Denise 2008-01-21 05:12:10 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F IF YOU CATCH A MAN IN JUST ONE LIE, PLEASE KNOW IT IS NOT THE LAST. ONCE HE GETS AWAY WITH ONE, YOU WILL ONLY COME TO UNFOLD MORE AND MORE, UNTIL IT'S TOO LATE. MEN TAKE A FOOT IF YOU GIVE THEM AN INCH. THEY ARE HUNTERS AND WILL NOT STOP AT WHAT THEY CAN ACCOMPLISH-IT IS ALL ABOUT THE EGO. 2008-01-22 18:08:21 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F My husband and I have together for 14 years and married for 7 (8 this FEB) Recently he met a russian girl (I think its a scam) online and decided he wanted her to move in the house we once shared so he kicked me out right after the new year, I quit my job to take care of our 3 beautiful children and he knew I had no where to go and no job but still made me leave our home. Thank god my mom let me stay with her. He has my kids now and hardly lets me see them. I am so heartbroken and sad I dont know what to do. I dont have the money for a lawyer therefore I am screwwed. My kids have to go to school over there so I cant take them with me !!How could a person I loved and cared for for 14 years throw me away like a piece of garbage especially when I had 3 children with him. Now I heard he is bringing random girls to our house to sleep with WHILE my kids are there and we're not even divorced yet!!! How could he dump me for someone he's NEVER even seen!! Its so not right!!! 2008-01-23 00:20:20 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F Dear ladies, Hey ladies, It is 2008! We need to evalute ourselves. And Quit letting these men get away with murder. I was in a verbally abusive relationship for many years thinking that some how this man would change. I did everything for this man and my family. But that didn't matter, he still didn't change. I blame myself , not him because. I should have known better. But once again I was thinking with my heart and not my brain. We have to learn to be more assertive on things we bring into our lives.And all the trash we let walk in and out of our lives. If it smells like garbage throw it out! Because most likely it is! I Learned to love myself, and I will never let anyone else. Abuse me in any kind of way! 1vegas 2008-01-23 21:25:55 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F I dated this guy for about 2 and a half years. He was a cop. He told me how much he loved me and all kinds of crap like that. I found out that he was married and had lied to me from day one. I left my husband for this guy and got treated like some *** off the street. I was so upset! If you want to know the whole story just let me know and I will definately tell you.This is good if you are into some good stuff and if you have the time. I have over two years worth of stuff to tell you. 2008-01-23 22:04:52 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F For 10 years I stayed away from dating and raised my son by myself. I finally decided to try match.com. I met a lot of really nice guys and some are still friends on match. I wasn't on there for long. I only dated 2 guys seriously from match -> The one I'm going to tell you about who can go to hell and the one I'm with now who I adore. I met the first guy Andrew on match and I could not believe how perfect things seemed. I was crazy about him and he seemed even crazier for me. He had told me that he was already divorced. We only went out for 3 months but I was crazy about him. All of a sudden he starts acting weird and tells me that he "doesn't feel anything for me". I was heartbroken. I found out he lied and had just had his "master hearing" for his divorce. I got back on match and wound up meeting someone even better. We now have a 5 month old son together and things could not be better. Now I think back to how hurt I was with the first guy - hell with him - I got something better now! I would never be as happy as I am now had I stayed with him. Yay for me for once! 2008-01-24 10:22:37 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F Ladies it is so difficult to sleep knowing that you have been used. i loved him so much and it was two years and then he dumped me. He only married me for his Green Card. Wanker!!! Keep an extra sharp eye out for those English guys in Los Angeles they are leathal. They will say and do anything to get what they need...especially if they are in "the industry". He has many English friend's that would always shock me how quickly they would suggest marrage to their gilfriends. Their is one red headed guy named Adam C. that is wicked. He proposed to two different girls in a six month period of time. I happen to know that he is dirty down stairs so look out! 2008-01-25 06:26:05 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F I have been with this man for a little over 5 years and we have 3 wonderful kids together, but our time is over and done with, thank God. Jay is very verbally and emotionally abusive - and for most of 2005-2006, physically abusive (even while I was pregnant), but at least that finally stopped - and I frequently get called a b!tch and a h0e and he tells me I'm stupid and weak and a coward. I have absolutely devoted myself to him and our kids and try to do everything I can for him (example: even though we're extremely poor, I saved several paychecks in a row and bought him the 52-inch HDTV that he desperately wanted for Christmas 2006 and then a state-of-the-art printer/scanner/copier/fax for Father's Day 2007, got nothing in return and very little gratitude to boot). I don't go out, rarely even talk on the phone unless it's to him, keep the house clean, singlehandedly take care of all our children with virtually NO assistance from him (which is very hard, as they are all still in diapers), give him massages and cook him dinner, give him sex whenever he wants it, day or night, try to keep myself looking good, AND work a full-time job overnight so that our kids don't have to go to daycare, although he does little to help watch them during the day so that I can get some rest. Despite this, I am criticized constantly and insulted, even when it's supposedly "constructive," and told that I can't make it on my own (I did for two years before we moved in together, so I don't see why I couldn't now) without him and that I'll probably never find anyone else because I'm overweight (I've kept on about ten pounds after our four-month-old was born) and I have three kids so nobody will want me. 2008-01-26 17:48:30 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F When people don't value honesty, a lot of times they will not value loyalty. Watch what you tell them! They will not only tell others, but they will embellish to make you look worse. Their loyalty is fleeting, and because they are insecure people, they will find solace in confiding to whomever is in their favor at the moment. 2008-01-28 16:47:05 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F My Husband well then boyfriend. He treated me like crap and he just never listened to me or would not talk to me. He was very reserved about things. Like when we first started dating he was married I was fed up with it. I left him and got pregnant with another man. He was devastated. But that is what he gets. I'm glad that I made him feel that pain. To make a long story short I miscarried. I also got dumped by the other guy. Little by little I started to miss my boyfriend. The way he made me laugh you know the happy times. I felt guilty for leaving him. We decided to work things out. We now have two children and are doing extremely well. 2008-01-29 19:44:29 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F There's a new breed of male out here in the world today and he's labeled a sociopath, he has no conscience so he won't care about your heart, trust me there's plenty a woman before you that won't even attempt to warn you, they appear to need you and we as women fall for the madness, Oh he need's me....Yeah Right, you'll move in a the drop of a dime and you will soon realize that you are being played........Sex, not making love, Demands, etc......Somethings not right and you are correct, something is not.........there's always someone to take your place, he need women in order to make it and trust me that is exactly whom he uses Sociopath beware, if you ever run across any women who don't know Jesus you may lose your lives. 2008-01-30 16:40:19 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F When dating a new guy, always meet his mother. All the guys with mental problems insecurities and more usually have mothers that are not nice once you get to know them. Besides, it helps to know their mom as that way you can have one more friend and you can find out more about him. Examples: Boy 1: A child of a mixed family and a mother who was overly promiscuous even after kids, he found himself sexually repressing himself to the point of obsession. His mother usually ignored him for the younger children, leading to clinginess as he begged me for attention. His mother also lied to everyone she could in order to get her way, and so, it was no shock when later he stole over $1,000 from my grandmother and tried to lie about it (and we never got the money back). Boy 2: His mom was a DRILL SERGEANT! No joke. I should have ran when I heard that, but I didn't. He turned out to yell with little or no provocation and often resorted to violence when frustrated... Just like his mother! His mother also had poor housekeeping skills and later on I found out the hard way that he did, too. 2008-01-30 18:29:34 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F wat's on my mind is that boys always see girls as sex objects......example if they find you atrractive walking along hthe street they said wew she's so hot iwill have have her juz like those sort of things.......guys find themeselves as god gift to women but i doubt that 2008-02-05 00:49:00 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F I would love your thoughts on plastic surgery! I've been thinking about it for a while now and am now at the point in my life where I want to find out what will me me happy with me. I have had body issues for a while and it was brought more to the hurtful light when my X from hell made comments that in the first time in my life made me look at myself as unbeautiful even incomplete as a woman. I dont know it feels like to be hot in sexy underwear or a bikkni or just to feel hot! If getting rid of a belly from hell will asist me to get closer than I need to make it happen! Ive lost alot of weight I went from 225lbs to 172lbs and counting. Even with trainer I was told that my pouch wont go anywhere in less I have it removed. I have looked into it and have compared the good and the bad and just want the ugly gone 2008-02-06 02:22:06 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F HAPPY VALENTINES DAY CINDY, AND MARIBEL :o) 2008-02-08 12:52:21 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F Book recommendation: "When Your Lover is a Liar, Healing the Wounds of Deception and Betrayal," by Susan Forward, PhD. Pay particular attention to chapter 4: Sociopaths. Good luck! 2008-02-09 18:14:56 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F men can only hurt and deceive us as much as we allow them. WE are smart, strong, and beautiful women...don't be treated as anything less. I know I won't allow it. Lesson Learned. 2008-02-11 21:39:02 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F Love the site! Very uplifting for women to finally stand up for their own and not be fooled by players around Toronto - so many around and they are the sweetest talkers like Andrew !!! 2008-02-14 07:00:19 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F Be safe when meeting dates....always get as much info anout them as possible through conversation (or e-mail if you met online) then go to the Clerk of Court website for the area where he lives/works. Here you will see if he has been married, divorced or has domestic violence issues. You'll need to check the site from where he lived prior as well. As always....check this site for your prospective date, too! If I had done these simple (and totally FREE) things I wuld have saved myself alot of heartbreak, abuse and money. He cleaned out my bank account so now I am struggling and he lives the life of Reilly! Be safe ladies! Happy Valentines Day! 2008-02-14 13:57:12 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F Cupid must be a drunk..... Cause his arrow always misses me :( 2008-02-14 18:17:19 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F dont allow a man to emotionally rape you. be good to your self. do things for yourself that you want a man to do. tell yourself things that you want a man to tell you. yes, it is nice to hear it from the opposite sex, but he will only confirm what you already know so you won't be blown away with his words. first and foremost, pray for the mate/husband you desire and don't be afraid to WAIT for God to do the rest. God has your best interest at heart. 2008-02-17 04:02:23 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F I just really hope every women here understands the signs of a sociopath and psychopath. These men have no conscience and will harm anyone for there own good in all ways. I wish more women were aware of these scary men who know how to charm and be decietful all in one with no feelings or conscience of what they do. I read these stories on here and it's just no wonder we don't trust men. 2008-02-17 17:54:06 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F Cheating is something that not only causes a heart to ache but a feeling of being betrayed. If you have been cheated on it is by someone who is a talented deceiver. A con artist. It is not only men who do this but women too. I see some thoughts on here that say the victim (the one who is being cheated on) knows thy are being cheated on and should have done something sooner...but.... Not always. The cheater is usually very good at what he or she is doing and knows all the ways to hide it. Especially chronic cheaters. So, forgive yourself for being cheated on. A cheater will blame you for thier problem. It is hard to understand why people dont just say 'hey, i am dating and dont want to get tied down to one person' ...instead of lieing and cheating on someone. If married../.get a divorce. Sounds like alot of work to be a cheater. I have more fun being single, dating and being honest with those i go out with. And i go out alot. Good times!! Fun times!! Love to laugh and enjoy life. Just cant see how cheaters can have that kind of a good life since they always have to hide the truth and lie. Be glad you know that person is a cheater. You aren't with that person anymore. Life is better that way. I read one time that everyone deserves to be somebody's special someone...a soul mate. I agree. Dont settle for less. The cheater is a dime a dozen. As you can see by the number of posts on this website. If you havent met that person yet...have fun in the meantime and do it without lieing or cheating like the people posted here. 2008-03-03 00:52:14 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F Ladies, do not settle. I know it's difficult at times to find a decent man. I know many of us are not looking for perfection, but that does not mean we should have to deal with the many "losers". Finding the right man for you should involve some though from you. In a journal write down the 100 things you are looking for in man. The items don't have to be big accomplishments. Many should be the little things than please you or make you happy. Try it ladies, you deserve the best. 2008-03-09 17:42:50 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F After finally getting the courage to post my "warning" to womenkind about the man that messed me up emotionally, and physically, I feel a relief I just can't believe! I have spent years getting over it, getting my life and sanity back. Thank you for this site!!! 2008-03-11 04:41:32 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F I was feeling pretty bad about my break-up..I took it hard and really thought he was the love of my life. Reading everyone elses stories makes me feel better because im not alone..someone does understand how I feel. 2008-03-15 15:03:56 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F Listen to your gut; don't ignore initial misgivings. If it seems too good to be true, it probably is and you're probably getting the bum's rush. But just remember, if you ignore a bad gut feeling, you'll pay for it in the end. 2008-03-17 10:00:55 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F My husband kissed me everyday, told me how much he loved me, before he went to his girlfriends house. I Just had that feeling one day so I followed him. He was self employed, but I never understood why until later that he self employed, so he could hide from the IRS, State Of New Jersey Board of Taxation, The Office Of Child Support Enforcement, Higher Edudaction Defaulted Loans. His first wife and children lived in the projects. He never paid any child support. He was a liar and a charming cheater. If a man is not loving and caring for his own flesh and blood what will he do for you in the long run. The mistake most of us ladies make when we suspect/know our men is cheating is letting them know we know. We do know weather we see them with our own eyes or not. we know. It's that thing that we experience, somethings not quite right. Anyway, once you realize he's cheating, you have control over the situation. He is so busy doing his thing he won't see you making exit plans. Since his credit was shot and everything was in my name, I sold the business, informed IRS, State of NJ, Child Support Enforcement, and higher education of his whereabouts. Beleive me when I caught mine, I changed employer, my cell number, rented another apartment, and moved while he was working and out doing his thing. I hadn't seen or talked to him until the day of our divorce. Cheat on me once shame on him, cheat on me twice, shame on him. Recently I ran into his first wife, she thanked me for the few child support payments she received before he quit his job again. He hasn't changed, he met some unsupecting young woman who won't question why none of his children will see him. Who needs help with the rent and children and moved in with her. No matter how much you love, keep your head, protect your heart, control your emotions and your money. 2008-03-17 19:16:41 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F I have been dating my sons father for the past couple of months now. It has finally ended. THANK YOU GOD. When we was living together he was a sweetheart. Then he changed. The monster that he is came to surface. I became a ***, hoe, no good for nothing, and everything else you could think of. Even though I was faithful and did everything I was suppose to do, that didn't even matter to him. After I gave birth to our son, he became even more verbally abusive. He would tell me things like, I was a mistake, won't no man want me because I have two kids and all sorts of nasty things like that. I finally left him for good. The little time that we have been apart, I have accomplished alot of things on my own. I got a house, (while his *** is living in a piece of trailer), I have a two cars,(while he is complaining about his truck), I work two jobs, and my kids are taking care of. AND YES, I BROKE HIM OFF FOR CHILD SUPPORT. He is a woman hater. It's killing him to see me doing well and I enjoy every minute of it. NOW IM KNOWN AS THAT INDEPENDENT CHICK. JUST LIKE THE SONG SAY.I GOT MY OWN HOUSE, I GOT TWO CARS, TWO JOBS WORK HARD AND I KNOW THAT IM A BAD BROAD AND I AM ON IT! 2008-03-18 21:29:36 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F I let my heart take control of my mind, body, soul, emotions and love for myself. I ignored all the obvious sigms amd believed that crap he said. I LOVE YOU. I knew better but I wanted it so bad that I convinced myself it was true. Ladies follow your mind. If you think somethings going wrong, it most likely is. Listen to your frien ds. It hurts but it will save you a kit of heartache and embarassment down the road..3 2008-03-21 12:54:42 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F I happened to come on to this site by accident somehow...or maybe divine intervention.. I have read many of the stories already and can identify with so many of the issues that some of the women here have described. I have come out of a marriage / relationship that has many features of sociopath written all over it! I believed lies, was abused in so many ways , had my self esteem stripped away and was cheated on.On line dating...one of his favourite pastimes I found out 3 weeks after we were married!I wasted almost 5 years on this sick individual. Seeing the back of him brought me the greatest relief...I wasnt imagining things...I wasnt going insane! That was almost nine months ago and I just want to encourage all women out there that you can make it. Just believe in yourself and your worth and in time you will heal. The best time in my life has been about the last 5 months...I have found me and I am loving me and my life and all it has to offer. I am happy and at peace and that is all I ever wanted for my life. You can have this too. You will be ok...I know it and believe it for each and every one us! 2008-03-24 01:29:35 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F You are not alone....we all notice warning signs after the fact. No one can tell you when you are in the relationship but isnt it funny how much comes out when you end it. I wish I noticed sooner but live and learn so with evey experience we learn and grow and it makes us better for the next one!! 2008-03-31 10:57:29 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F Ladies, Listen to your brain. If something doesn't feel right, your probably right. About two years ago, I dated a guy name larry. I knew damn well that he was no good for me. At the time, I just wanted someone to love me. I ignored my better judgement and moved in with him.I left my job and family. What a big mistake! To make my story short. He stole my money,cheated on me with other girls. Then, I found out he had three kids! I had no idea! He had three kids that he didn't take care of. If only I would have listened to myself. I would have avoided so much heartache. 2008-04-01 02:28:14 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F i liked the article about the 5 guys you meet at a bar... but they forgot about one other guy you meet at a bar... the bartender! 2008-04-05 12:34:29 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F My husband and I was childhood sweethearts. After 20 years we reunited with the help of a friend and got marriage 2 months later. That was 6 years ago. I would have never thought in a million years that my husband would cheat on me. I started getting these exetremely high cell phone bills and did some investigating. I call this particiular number only for some chick to answer the phone. I told her my gripe was not with her but I wanted to know what was going on. She told my to ask him. He lied of course and told my some ridiculious story about who this person was. I am so hurt more than anything. I feel like I dont have anyone to talk to and to top it off I am 8 months pregnant. What a bastard. 2008-04-05 22:21:29 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F I went to the community board today and I was looking for a topic to discuss. When I looked at the listing of topics, I noticed that the topic with the most postings was the topic cheating. There are almost 500 postings for this topic and it really saddens me. I realize that cheating will always be around, but when are we as women going to stop allowing it to happen. I read the article on The 3 Reasons Why Men Hate Monogamy. First of all, lets not put all men in this category because there are some very good men out there. The reason why SOME men hate monogamy is because they are selfish and immature. It takes sacrifice of the heart and soul to become monogamous with a woman and many men aren't ready for that sacrifice. Also, some of us are to blame for why some men don't want to be in a monogamous relationship. The reason I say this is because we don't believe in it ouselves. After all, some of us know that something is wrong in the relationship, but choose to ignore our instincts. Better yet, some of us not only know our men are cheating, know who he is cheating with, yet allow it to continue thinking that either things will get better or "having half a man is better than having no man at all." A man will only do what you allow him to. Its time to WAKE UP LADIES!!!!! " I would rather grow old alone than to have another fake-***-wanna-be-worthless man" 2008-04-05 23:10:39 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F I just found out that my good friends boyfriend has been looking for girls on eharmony. The scary thing is that he has an STD and doesnt tell girls that he has it!! It makes me soOooo angry that hes putting other women at risk!!! Im thinking about telling the girls on eharmony what hes up to. I found them on myspace but I dont want him to blame my friend. 2008-04-06 21:28:23 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F Unfortunately, I met the "old" guy described at the bar scene. He was looking for a victim, I mean a younger girl to be his arm candy (and his sex slave) but as old as this fu$@er is, he sure knows how to play the games of the players! I'm sorry I ever met him!! What scum he turned out to be when I found out he was with me and many other women at the same time. 2008-04-07 23:50:02 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F I dated this guy for 2 1/2 years, and we were "talking" for a total of 4. We had our shares of ups and downs, and why I didn't let go of him sooner was beyond me. Every time I tried to break away from him, he'd practically beg me not to "give up" on him. I had introduced him to one of my best friends not too long ago, and they became very (oddly) close. I stopped talking to her because I found it disrespectful that she was allowing him to talk to her more than me - another red flag coming from him. Anyways, I forgave her because I can't stand having drama in my life.. So with him moving back down from school I figured I'd "settle down" and try and work things out since he wouldn't let me move on. My heart was finally ready again... When he moved back down, I tried SO hard to talk to him and tell him that I wanted to work things out. He kept pushing it off and whatnot, all the while hanging out with this best friend of mine. Long story short, he's now dating her after both of them lied to my face about whether they liked eachother or not when I confronted them numerous times... Let's just say the day I found out, I grabbed everything he'd ever given me in the 4 years and burned it. I took pictures and videos of my burning escapades, of all the pictures of me and my best friend and me and him being shot to flames. I know it sounds kind of harsh, but it was definitely liberating! Girls, don't ever ignore your gut feeling.. It's always right! That's why they call it a girl's intuition! 2008-04-13 20:29:56 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F I get so frustrated by women who consume their daily lives with thoughts of finding "Mr. Right." First of all, there is no such thing. Everyone has flaws, you just have to find someone who has flaws that you can handle. Secondly, the more you look, the harder he is to find and the longer it will probably be before you find him. I have found it much easier to just enjoy myself, be independent, HAVE FUN, and let what happens happen. It's much more gratifying that way. You don't build yourself up only to be broken down by rejection or just plain crappy guys who weren't even worth your time anyway. BE CONFIDENT! If you aren't confident in yourself, it's harder for a man to find you attractive. Girls who are the insecure types are the ones that you see out throwing themselves on guys because they think that for that 30 minutes (max) that they hook up with a guy, they're special. They hold onto the hope that maybe, just maybe, that one night stand will last longer than one night. Never happens ladies. Don't degrade yourself that way, you're better than that. Don't let guys treat you like a piece of meat. If you can't respect yourself, at least keep up your reputation for the sake of being a woman, for the rest of us out there who don't present ourselves that way. 2008-04-15 01:38:57 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F Men who break up via text LAME 2008-04-15 19:37:08 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F I dont know anymore, I dated a guy for year, granted a yr is not very long, but it was long enough to get to know each other and for me care for him....but he was always so back in and forth w/me.. one day he wanted to be w/me and he would talk about us being together for the long run, and then 2 days later he wanted to break up.. and then we would then he wanted back together again... this last for a yr.. made me crazy... I just dont understand why he acted like that... and why he is making such a simple thing like getting my stuff from his house so hard 2008-04-18 00:00:16 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F The man I was married to for 25 years cheated on me and his 2 kids. I left him and my life has been great ever since. I did not realize how miserable I was until I got a taste of what shoud be. I am telling you all this because I want women out there to know things are better then what they seem sometime. If you have a relationship with someone who is taking advantage of you, using you, belittling you, making you feel self concious about yourself, then drop them.There is someone better out there for you. I was wasting alot of years trying to please someone else. Now I am looking out for myself. I feel loke a new person. I never knew what it felt like to be so satisfied both mentally and sexually.... WOW Dont give up girls. Believe in yourself 2008-04-20 21:46:48 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F ok ladies i have a little problem......i have been with my fiance for almost 5 years and were getting married in 2 mothns and yes i am very happy.......but we did have a small break in our relationship about a year ago and the person i was with while we were apart is married but i didnt know till i had already slept with him but thats not the big problem. The big problem is that eventhough me and this other person dont "date" anymore we still talk every now and then as friends nut i still havae feelings for him but i really love my future husband but lately i been wanting to have sex with my ex just one more time and i keep telling myself it's just so i can get him outa my system but i know im only lying to myself. i have no idea what to do anymore. need your feedback NEW YORK!! 2008-04-21 16:32:55 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F There are so many sad stories. It seems we can all value our worth and dignity and still end up going through some foolishness with men! To me they all seem to behave this way. They all cheat and they all lie. Please don't assume I am bitter but they haven't proved me wrong YET! Not one single solitary time have they proven they don't embellish beyond belief, lie, omitt information and cheat!! 2008-04-22 10:10:59 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F I will need him to submit fingerprint cards, please put his eye up to the Retina Scanner, I will need to prick his finger and get a blood sample, and I need three personal references with valid I.D.s so I know they are who THEY say they are!!! GOOD GRIEF!!! 2008-04-22 12:02:58 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F i do not know how I found this site, but I am having a real problem with my boyfriend. i have been living with him since sept.2007 he is still married but getting a divorce (whenever)! he has been verbally abusive as well as physical. I found a password for match.com a couple of months ago and looked on line and there he was WITH THE PICTURE I TOOK OF HIM!! when confronted, he stated it was because he wanted to see if i was looking on there for guys and if i was checking up on him. Since that, I told him no more computer in the house, he is now off match, i think!! my problem is, I owe a lot of money for various things and can't afford my own place! He has a way of bringing me back into his twisted life and I fall for it everytime, then I find something else out! What is wrong with me that I can't move on, I take very good care of myself, have had ALOT of boyfriends, and consider myself to be attractive. The longer I stay with him, the more of me will disappear! Someone give me some advise, i really need it! 2008-04-22 20:44:22 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F I have never met a guy like this in my life.. I would just like to give some details about what he would do through-out the relationship.. He's going to stay single forever.... haha -Makes lists on his computer as to what I'm doing wrong and reads the list to me (several times) -Didn't do anything for our one-year anniversary.. I watched him eat Chinese food and study. -Complains about EVERYTHING (apparently the world is against him) -Doesn't inform me that he will be leaving for the summer until a couple weeks before he leaves even though he knew about it before. -Doesn't care if I cry -Refused to buy condoms (I was without sex for about a week because he said I should buy them) -Thinks he's the hottest thing on the planet (he's obviously not... Not hot, not cute, but he's not ugly) -Doesn't get along with ANY of my friends. (like he's at war with them or something) -doesn't know the meaning of romance, because there was no romance in our relationship. .. Lets just say that the night of our anniversary came and while he was eating chinese food and studying, I got heated and went to a local bar.I sent my bf at the time a text saying how upset I was that he didn't do anything for our anniversary and he had the nerve to tell me that he wasn't going to try and to call him when I was ready to talk. I ended up going to the bar and meeting a cute guy and we exchanged phone numbers.. .. The next morning I received numerous, texts, emails, and phone calls from my bf at the time. He finally wrote me a message entitled " we need to talk" Here it is: I am sick of this not talking to me crap. its not accomplishing anything. if you are mad then talk to me about it. i cant take this stupid drama *** and you know i don't deal with it. i am done with the dramatic nonsense. it is accomplishing nothing. so here it is: i am going to assume that there is no drama here and if you are not talking to me it is because we are no longer going out. i look forward to hearing from you soon .. Umm apparently we are in elementary school again. Homeboy needs to pick up the hint. He showed up at my apartment and was banging on my door for a while. Meanwhile I hid in my closet texting people and pretending I wasn't home. I haven't spoken to him since that day and it has been about a month. Don't let your relationship end up like that.. He's an idiot! !!! 2008-04-23 11:56:00 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F Well, I don't know what it is about me that attracts men who are unavailable. The most recent one, I did not think was the settling down type, but I did not think he was a cheater. We had the most amazing weekend together and we have had great sex, and just the other day he tells me that he has a girlfriend. I cannot say that I am hurt because of him having a girlfriend, but I feel it stems back to all of the men I encounter with girlfriends, and or wives. I know people pride on themselves, but I promise all of you I swear I am not priding on myself when I tell you that I am a very beautiful woman, I am intelligent, I stay in excellent health, I have a great body, a great attitude, funny, charming, and the list goes on. All of these great things I am told by my friends, strangers on the street, people who love me and hate me. I suppose I should at least get the chance to meet a man in my life who I don't have to hope and pray that he chooses me. Every time I meet a guy who ends leaving me because he is in a relationship or interested in pursuing a relationship with someone other than me, I feel as if I am a survivor of deja vu. 2008-04-25 01:36:29 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F Well i was dating a divorced man for about 3 month. We never had a fight and we never had a bad thing to say. He told me that he loved me and that he cared for me and even took me to georgia on a vacation with me and my kids and his kids. then one day he just told me that he was done with me. but then it was like the next day he was with another woman and that woman is married. So i thought about it and i really think that if he had loved me and cared for me then he would not have done what he did so i really think he wanted sex and that is all. He break my heart and my kids heart. But i did see his kids and they are very angry to. His kids are older so they really know that there is something wrong with this. I talk to him and told him that he was going to hurt his kids more then he could ever know. Because they are going to see home he treats woman and then they are going to think that that is allright behavor to do. He told me he is going to self distruct and i told him if you are going to then do it alone but i know that he is thinking with the little head not the big head. so i am still confused on what happened but i am going to move on with my life and not look back. 2008-04-27 19:59:51 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F I've been dating this amazing guy for almost a year, were really good together, and am very happy with him but.... during the christmas holidays he had to go to africa for business, and I got a little drunk on new years and kiss a guy that my boy friend suspected I was dating in the past and now my guilty conscious is kicking in and I feel like telling him about what has happened in new years because we just got engaged, and I think in relationship honesty is the be best police perhaps.... 2008-04-29 08:14:42 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F As I read these sad tales I can only think about how many truly nice guys there are out there who would appreciate a good girlfriend. I have so many male friends who are out of luck in the dating world. This is mostly because they are shy. They see nice girls get hit on by slick talking creeps and wonder what they did wrong. Girls! Dont go for the guy who walks up and talks to you somewhere! Those are the guys who walk up to everyone, think about it! Those guys are the players! Avoid them! 2008-05-01 13:08:36 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F I was directed to this site becauseI have been seeing someone for the past 11 months in Atlanta who has now transferred to another area of the country. He claims to be a widower and having been a widow myself I tried to be supportive and understanding of the situation. My fear is that this guy will do just what he did to me in his new locale. He will draw you in, get you to empathize with him, promise a relationship and when if things get serious make excuses and run. God only knows how many times and how many people he has done this to. I just believe it has to stop somewhere. 2008-05-05 07:36:01 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F I was seeing a married man for 3-4 months. He kept telling me he wanted to leave his wife but needed time to work out how to do that with the smallest disruption to his kids lives. After his wife discovered the affair, he broke off with me immediately, worried he would lose his kids. Now I think he just wanted me for sex, but he still claims he loved me. I really hate him for pursuing me, seeing me while his wife didn't know, then breaking my heart. I am now receiving hate mail from his wife also, just to make things worse. What an ***. 2008-05-06 08:35:12 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F I am very grateful for this website. Right now, I am going through a hard time after my boyfriend broke up with me on Saturday afternoon on my voicemail. I dated someone who was immature and without goals for the future. He lied about his sexuality! I am worried if I caught any viruses from this man. It still hurts me but I know I will heal. After reading profiles of other people's experiences, I learned I am not alone in this. I feel more empowered. 2008-05-06 15:24:59 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F Hi, i am dating with a guy from almost 1 year. Before starting the relationship only, he gave me an idea that he is not going to commit... SO in that sense he was not like other guys.. After this also we started meeting and have good time together... now i feel sometimes myself guilty. I feel why i moved forward when i was knowing that it isnt going to be long lastiong. but that time i thought of perhaps i could change the mind of that guy with my attitude .. didnot succeed...........:(....... now the situation is like any time he could give a news of that he is getting marriged .. i cant belaim him also becaz he told me all this before only........ 2008-05-10 01:00:39 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F I am hurting. I had killed myself not to crash emotionally about my exhusband and it turns out he has been a busy man! He is on the website we had met on plentyoffish as absolutebestguy. the man put me $6,000 in debt because he wanted a restaurant and for rental cars. It gets me sick because he talks about how he likes to kiss. he always told me he did not like to kiss, he would barely give me tongue. it kills me thinking about how i gave my everything for this guy and he is basically nothing but a con artist. Ladies and gentlemen, last he told me he did not have a job, but yet his ideal date was taking the woman to a romantic restaurant. I remember when we went out I did most of the paying. This freaking hurts because writing it down makes me realize how stupid I was to go along with this and I pray to God that there is a good guy out there who is not like this. 2008-05-10 02:08:26 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F add me to the list of thinking someone loved me for over three years. was with him almost a year before i found out he was still very married but then i continued on so i guess i had it coming. but he is alive and well and still very much online. if you are from either alabama or georgia watch out for him. he did not do anything other than feed me lies and break my heart but he is very good at that. usually picks some nice lady that is either newly widowed or divorced. claims he is into body building but still waiting on his body being built. 2008-05-10 15:16:26 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F hi. i'm a single mom and am dating a guy that is so good with my daughter but really seems like he is not ready for the whole family thing like he said. guys are so freaking confusing! 2008-05-12 16:53:33 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F add me too. my ex lied about being married. the truth didnt come out until his mother in law called me, then he confessed. claimed he was seperated and was getting a divorce as soon as possible, she lived in another state. after i decided to take him back he came to visit me ( he recently moved to be closer to his sons and in turn his wife) things were good. he told me it was over with her before we met. swore up and down the papers for an offical divorce were filled. then two days after he left he just completely stopped talking to me. he didn't answer my calls, my texts, emails nothing. it was not until i called his friend that i found out that he was okay...and that was just his cowardly way of ending it! He promised me so much and delivered none of it. I gave him many things, but most of all i gave him me and my heart and he crushed it. I'll never be the same, and forever will be suspicious. that's the worst part. ive completely given up feeling like there are trully good men out there 2008-05-12 18:49:21 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F I just wish more women would know about this site. Any time I meet a guy I come on here and run his name...see if I can find anything....not too many women in my city know about it and it would sure save alot of heart ache and stress if more people added the terrible men they were with. Leave all these assholes single and lonely. That's what they deserve! 2008-05-13 21:05:17 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F i found out about this website while watching the evening news today. i am going through a divorce i was with my husband for seven years...we were only married for the last two years. he fed me all of the lines that i heard the women speaking on the news cast. he had all of the manipulative characteristics and excuses as well. he has now started a relationship with another unsuspecting nice caring trusting individual. we women need to be extremely careful because men see us as vulnerable for their pickings. they pray upon what has been given to us innately by the creator...we are caregivers...nurturers...mothers...naturally loving...etc. we must also remember there is a prison population out there filled with these twisted individuals and they get released into our society everyday and their lifestyle in or out of prison is to lie manipulate and use women. many of us fall for it. it isn't because we're stupid it's because of the things that i stated above. the cold part about my situation is that my husband's 72 year old mother is part of his scam...a family affair. look out girls because you don't know how deep the wickedness really is. these people are out to take you for all you've got and leave you high and dry. 2008-05-14 01:25:07 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F Hi. What a brilliant site! Have just read about it in a magazine and here I am. Just did a search on a rat i dated for nearly a year and he isnt mentioned by anyone else. Hmm. Wish he had been. It would have saved me wasting a lot of precious time on him. Think this is a cool site and will hopefully save some women alot of heart ache. 2008-05-15 11:56:53 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F I've never really had a bad boyfriend, just indecisive ones who break my heart by making promises they can't keep. 2008-05-16 03:12:49 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F I've been with a guy for 3 and a half yrs. He has been married twice before. We got engaged after a year and should have got married in 2006 but ten weeks before the wedding he claimed I had changed and called it off. He has proposed a number of times since but I don't know if I would go there again! He is a perpetual liar. We have split up about 4/5 times and each time he advertises himself in the local personal columns as soon as he can. After he cancelled the wedding he appeared in print after just 4 days! Everyone wonders why I keep going back (I wonder that myself!) We recently had another set back. Again he advertised himself and I found out that he told all the women he chatted to that his last relationship ended 5 years ago!! Having got back together last week, he's now keeping it a secret from his family/firends. He had an operation yesterday but because his sister is looking after him he is not keen for me to visit. How do I enter the rat on the system!!!! 2008-05-16 07:34:04 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F Why should you trust at somebody you have not fully known and understand. The family background, his education and everything about him including his relatives. If your purpose is just to befriend there is nothing wrong about that, but to become intimate is another story. We social animals and want to meet people in all walks of life, to interact intellectually or in manner that suits our interests. To fully give our trust to the person we meet without background check may put us into disadvantageous situation and even risk our life in certain conditions. Always be careful, Good Luck. 2008-05-16 22:28:52 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F I think this website is RELLY GOOD because it lets smart condfodent women relize that not all men are god and nice like THEY think they are!!! We dont know dangers of men becuse they get them young and dumb that way they can cheat on there wifes or just have them to have becuse they are young and fresh out of collage.Also, they will takee advantage of you! Another thing is BOY ARE PIGS!!!! I know this because ive had it happen to me before. Stacey and jolene 2008-05-17 12:13:33 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F As probably one of the probable 10 guys that frequent this site I must say that it is a lot of fun and the articles are very insightful. The "friend" of my ex put me on here and it has been a slander-fest on me for the most part. I think telling what happened is one thing but dont go so far ladies as to divulge personal/ medical information and stuff told to you in confidence. I think that is the most distressing thing about this site. Other than that it is alot of fun. 2008-05-17 23:27:08 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F I'm a 36th year old female who was dating 42year old man for 2 1/2 years. After my 36th birthday I decided to end the relationship because I felt this relationship wasn't going anywhere. It seemed a lack of communcation and him following his grown, but very married friends. A now 45 year old man with no children and somewhat a momma's boy. I figured if he has been this comfortable with being by himself this long with hardly no mindset of wife or children then he is going to continue to stay this way. He did explain to me that women from his pass always ended the relationship with him and even cheated on him. Once the relationship came to an end for me I began to see things that I could not see during the relationship. He did have some good qualities, but once I ended the relationship he started to stalk me. In addition to playing his mind games ....I saw a childish side come out of this man that I never realize or maybe did not want to accept. I had to change my work number, my cell phone and tell him that I would file a restranging order on him if he did not stop this behavior. Now when I look back at this person all of the signs where there in the beginning of our relationship and truly free a year later from this man. I now take extra steps to learn and listen to guys I go out on dates with and if I see something that isnt pleasing to me......I RUN. 2008-05-19 10:54:31 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F but im a 22 year old mother to my beautiful 6 months old son! well i caught my ex cheating on me when i was 4 1/2 months pregnant and i told him to stay away from me thats i didnt want anything to do with him!! beacuse he was stressing me to much and i cared about the babys well being befor anything eles i wanted to have a healthy child! and thank god his is just perfect! so i went threw my pregnancy without him he never *** cared never was there and his son was born and this is his first and only child! he hasent came to see him dosent call me to ask how his doing dosent help me with him! Has never met his own son!! thats a shame huh im so hurt and i cant take the pain anymore of what hes doing to my son!! he dosent deserve this! what a pig his 27 and im 22 i would have though he would have matured! and his parent havent even asked to see there grand child! he has a dna appt... on the 16th and didnt even show up and i talk to his parents a few weeks ago! and his dad said lets get a dns test and will go from there!!! and his idiot son dosent even show up!!! and the his dad tell me his son aint gonna be there or do *** for my son he has a girlfriend and is moving to another state! father like son! i didnt tell his parent i wanted his son to be there for his child i was asking there if they wanted to be in there grandchilds life! i donno what to do!!!!!! 2008-05-20 21:43:59 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F A few years old I met a guy online and we became good friends. I was already in a relationship when i met this guy and he knew it. Well after being friends with this guy for 3 years I tried to break this off. He put my personal information online along with my pic of my house and address and phone number online. I called him to have him remove the site and he laughed at me and Said NO. I had him arrested for aggravated Harrasement in the 2nd degree. He also wrote a e-mail to the animal control officers in NY about my dogs. Next,He sent a few other e-mails to other places. WHAT A FREAKING MORON. 2008-05-31 23:54:09 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F This is my first time on this site and so far I think it's alright, though I haven't found any slander about guys yet...but I'm still looking. Honestly right now I don't really have all that much to complain about though I've definitely had my share of jerks in my life. I'm only 20 and I doubt anyone posted anything on here about him, but I am slightly curious to see if my ex bf, who's a total pig and dumped me via a message on facebook that told me to look on my myspace blog and through a comment on there ended it after 7 months. But anyways, that happened just over a year ago and my new relationship is 100x better than the last. I truly love this guy and he honestly loves me and is we're best friends :) I know it's weird, but he's a christian, in fact a 'pk' and waiting until marriage and all that good stuff so he's actually hinted at the idea of us together forever which I LOVE. Basically, I'm in love and he's ridiculously amazing, I just wish I could see him right now (we're 2 hours away cause of summer break). Thats all I've really gotta say, oh and heck yeah Obama! 2008-06-03 23:14:57 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F Hi Ladies! If someone would have said to me a week ago I would have never believed it........The moment that you realize that you don't need the thing/person/feeling that you felt you couldn't live without is AMAZING!!! This stems from a guy that i have been "dating" for a while, its not a real relationship but one that just satisfies a need. It was the greatest thing this evening when he was here and it finally clicked in my head that I don't need this unreal romance or this thing that was "entertainment" without strings. It takes quite a while for that click to happen and I might feel differently tomorrow but I know that I am one step closer to only caring about the ones that care about me! 2008-06-04 22:47:54 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F About a year and a half ago I met this guy and we began to date. He left for Afghanistan shortly after (voluntarily). I was there for him all this time, sending things, making calls, etc. We had our ups and downs, but we got through them. Basically I found out, through his e mail, that he's been sleeping with multiple women and cuddling, makig these women fall head over heels for him. And the pictures of the women are horrible. They are not even attractive. But what's so funny is that when they leave Afghanistan they still write him and tell him that they miss him, etc. I am so enraged right now. I basically put my life on hold while he was there because I loved him very much. Now it's over and I'm broken. By the way, when I confronted him about it I was brushed off like I, or oiur relationship was nothing. This made me even more angry. I honestly can sit here and say I hate him and what he did to me. 2008-06-05 13:08:45 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F why am i still single 2008-06-10 00:24:18 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F HEY ALL THIS SITE IS SO COOL. I THINK IT IS A GREAT WAY TO GET OTHER WOMENS OPINIONS ABOUT THINGS NOBODY TALKS ABOUT. CAN'T WAIT TO SEE WHAT YOU ALL THINK. 2008-06-11 10:27:11 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F I talk to this dude, in the past he always hide his cell phone when I'm around. So, I figured out his voicemail code, and I listened to his voicemails. He had different females leaving messages saying to they want to hook up with him, and one girl said that she were supposed to be spending a 3-day weekend together but something came up. So, I confronted him about it, he says its females calling for his cousins. I'm like, what kind of female is going to leave an intimate message like that one or a"I Love You" message on somebody cousin's phone. That's crazy to me. Anyway, I tried just being friends with this male but its kind of hard for me to be friends with somebody you love. And he's constantly calling me, and saying that he love me too. I feel like this, if you're going to cheat just be honest with me. Let me know, so I can move on with my life. It's too much diseases going around, and I'm not trying to catch anything. Anyway, he's doing the same thing again, and the problem is I dont trust him because of the past. I don't know what to do. 2008-06-11 14:47:44 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F I'm one of the women who cheated with a married man, well it wasn't like this one was married but he and the woman did have kids and share a home. He would leave my bed and go to her, I did this for seven years. But I learned that if it wasn't me it would be someone else, now I understand how the woman who had his children felt because he did the same to me with another woman, and the same to her with another woman. I don't think this man will ever find happiness. I hear he is with another woman now again but I really think he loves the kids mom but doesn't know how to be a real man. I'm sorry for the part I played in his life at that time 2008-06-11 15:56:21 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F It doesn't matter how much you(we) do....i guess the time to worry is when we stop doing it all together. There are only 2 kinds of people: givers and takers. if you are a giver, then learn also to let go completely of whatever you give in life - no matter who it is (or if they actually deserved it). As i said, worry when YOU LET someone hurt you so badly that it changes YOU; I'd rather just complain about it anyday.....i already know i will continue to be a giver...the best i have control of, is to just pray that the next one will be more than just a taker. 2008-06-12 16:48:42 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F Never date men on the internet. I did that and I fell in love, thought he was the one and I was completely wrong. In the end he turned out to be a completely different person than what I thought he was. I thought he was nice and intelligent. He ended up being very mean and cruel to me and my daughter.Biggest mistake I've ever made 2008-06-13 08:35:10 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F i've recently become a single mum, my ex doesm't even come to see our girls. My first ever boyfriend is wanting to get back together, but his religion doesn't like drinking, smoking or gambling. All of the things i enjoy. What do I do, I still have feelings for him, they never stopped, but my life has changed soooo much since we broke up ten years ago 2008-06-13 12:06:48 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F I love this site first of all! ♥ Next, I really feel there are any "set" rukes to follow when single and dating... The most important thing for me is to make sure I am happy (or at least neutral) and that I am doing things on my terms. That gives me all the reassurance I feel I need. When the right guy comes along things will flow naturally. Right now I am really having fun just exploring my options and not being too serious about any males. Yet I am honest and I am not leading nayone on.... I am doing it my way...and it feels GOOD! ☻ 2008-06-13 12:31:05 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F I'm 26 years old and my best guy friend and I became intimate late last year. We both discussed how it could risk the friendship but we were having so much fun it didn't matter. A month into it he got a job overseas and before he left he expressed that he didn't want things to get serious or to start a relationship with me. I agreed more so because he was leaving anyway. It was hard times while he was gone but now he's in town visiting and old feelings have rised to the surface. But it's one-sided. He's avoiding me 2008-06-19 10:47:32 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F I've been seeing this pretty great guy for about 9 months. He talks about moving in together and how he can't wait and wants to get married and all the rest but he has yet to say to me that he loves me. Sometimes he implies that he does and other times he says he getting there but he has never said "I love you",, sometimes when he's been an *** he asks me if I still love him and of course I say I do because I have told him before that I do love him but in a more casual way so as to not make him feel pressured to say it back.. We've been spending alot of time together and things appear to be going really well but I don't understand what the problem is and he's not the kind of guy to talk alot about feelings. I can see us being together for the rest of our lives and he says the same but just can't say those 3 words. I've brought it up a couple times and he says not to worry, that he wants to be with me and grow old together,which is nice to hear, but I'd really like to hear him say he loves me. I don't say it often because I don't want to put pressure on him to say it back if he doesn't mean it, but I would really like to be able to say "I love you " to him all the time because it's how I feel. I just don't understand how he can say he wants to move in together and grow old together if he isn't in love with me. 2008-06-20 13:21:00 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F Tomorrow was to be my wedding day. I was played like a Stradivarius. The red flags were abundant. I just considered him hard working and shy. He told me he loved me and asked me to marry him but we just never made any wedding plans. Then last Thursday, June 12th he simply stop calling. He does not answer my calls. At this time of my life I must live the rest of my life alone. I have so much to give. I am so kind, giving, and loving. Now no one will get anything from me ever again. 2008-06-20 21:14:08 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F I need some help I have this guy that is amazing I mean he cooks, cleans, helps me with my three wonderful children and brings home the bacon. But I think I am still in love with my ex aka baby daddy. I am so confused about it, I have this wonderful man that there is no question that he loves me, and then I have this other man that isn't so great but I can't let go completely. I have for the past 4 years been trying so hard to get over him but I just can't figure out how. I know that for my sake I should just continue this jorney with this new man in my life, I mean we are engaged to be married and have been living together for 3 years now. But something just happens when I see my ex or talk to him that I can get control of. My ex since he as seen that I have moved on (at least as far as he knows) and have this new man and we are trying to create a nice family has been showing a lot more intrest in me and the children. I know that is because he wants what he thinks he can't have but I find myself thinking that maybe he really does realize what he gave up and does honestly want us back. I am torn and need some serious. 2008-06-21 16:29:47 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F I'm so confused. I love this guy to death and when we do talk he tells me the feelings are mutual. Yet at the same time he is the "pimpish" type. There is always some chick texting him or sending him messages on myspace. He always tells me that's nothing and I love him so much I let it go. Now I've noticed that he will go periods of time without talking to me. He recently relocated so we are miles apart now and I am trying my hardest to trust him but I call him, he tells me he will call me back, but yet all night passes by without me getting a simple text message nevertheless a call. I don't know if I'm overacting but I feel neglected. 2008-06-22 03:10:17 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F I'm worried that i won't be able to get over my ex. for the first time ever i actually felt a real connection with someone. i thought i was suppose to be with this person, and i was totally wrong! i can't trust my own judgement. he met someone else right after we broke up. that's the worst part. He was a very special person in my life. I know he will only think of me as one of the many women he has dated. 2008-06-22 17:39:53 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F I have been married for the second time for 11 years to the coldest,laziest,most self centered man I have ever met. He has been verbally abusive for years.He also withholds affection. Well, anyway, he has ruined us financially because he is BiPolar(I didn't know it until recently) I finally fell into a deal to buy a mobile home from owner and moved out. I pretty much left him everything,just to get out. Well,it has been 3 weeks and I just found out he is on at least 3 internet dating sites. It doesn't bother me about that part; what bothers me is I have put every dime I ever earned into bills,payments,child support for his 3 kids ect. Now I am on a fixed income(I have Lyme Disease) and he is paying for dating sites and doesn't give me a dime. He is also lying about himself, what a caring, compassionate person he is. The man is a pig. I am going to try to find a lawyer who doesn't charge tons of money and hopefully get a divorce. Well, this just made me feel better, thanks for reading. JuneLydia 2008-06-23 20:04:17 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F I am losing my mind! I broke up with my boyfriend of 5 years about 2 years ago. He lied to me and I felt really hurt at that time we had a lot of other issues as well and it was better to move on..well i havent moved on. I moved on with my life but my heart is still back with him. I cant get over him no matter what i do. I think about him all the time. I want to be with him but I am afraid of hurting him again or him hurting me. I felt like my life was empty and my heart was full when we were together and not my life is full but my heart is broken and empty. There are a lot of things that we needed to work on and many reasons why we shouldn't be together but i cant get my heart to move on..You can't help who you fall in love with but what happens when your head says its stupid but your heart is holding on to him for dear life..I NEED ADVICE 2008-06-23 22:07:26 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F I just don't know if I should tell my ex's wife that he was sleeping around on her while they were engaged (the whole time they were dating actually). I don't think its supposed to be me. I think he should tell her but I can't get it out of my mind and I'm afraid if I don't no one else will and then he'll cheat on her too when it could've been prevented..or if I do tell, he'll just tell her I'm bipolar and can't get over him and I'll end up with a restraining order against me. I don't have any peace about the situation either way. 2008-06-25 06:17:20 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F well my ex and i broke up about a month ago when someone from his past came back and was the "one that got away" i am very much inlove with this man... and one day i run into him and i look hott and he is all over me telling me how the relationship isn't working... so now were talking again and i am just so confussed.... 2008-06-25 18:04:04 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F My ex-boyfriend started going out with someone barely a week after we broke up. I am confused; I still love him, but I don't want to get hurt. We broke up because we just had too much going on at the time and we couldn't juggle work, home, and each other. Things have slowed down a bit and I really want him back. I just don't know if he wants me back. When I saw the at the mall last week they looked like they were in love with each other, but when I saw them a few days ago while eating lunch with my friends they looked like they were in hell. If they have a good relationship and are really in love I don't wnat to break it up, but I want him back so much! I need help. 2008-06-26 05:07:48 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F I need advice... We have been dating and intimate and growing into what I thought was a really promising relationship, but then--in the middle of a romantic getaway weekend--he springs on me that he doesn't feel the same way about me that I feel about him. He says that he has been really trying to have those same feeling for me because he knows that I am genuininely falling in love with him, but he just isn't falling in love with me no matter how hard he tries. He loves being with me and doing things with me and wants to keep seeing me, but he just thought I should know that he doesn't feel that way about me. Ouch. And we're no spring chickens: I'm 41, he's 47. 2008-06-27 08:23:54 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F I've been seeing a guy for the last month. He has a partner who he lives with and has no intention of leaving her for me. I am a strong independent person, and cannot believe that I've been suckered into such a situation but whenever he calls, I'm always jumping to go and see him. Now I saw him yesterday and he said he'd call me today, he hasn't and I know it was just a line. It's very emotionally draining for me to be on edge all the time, and its affecting my relationships with other people as I turn down going out because he said we'd go out and then doesn't call. I have built a wall up around myself when I'm with him because I'm unsure of my position. I can't understand his behaviour and don't pretend to. I went into this with open eyes, and now am tied up in a situation I have put myself in. I can't vocalise these thoughts because I am relatively happy when we are together and don't want to "mess things up" just in case I make a mistake. Help. 2008-06-27 18:06:57 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F This past weekend was the day that I was supposed to get married. It has been 6 months since I spoke to the man that I thought was suppose to be my husband. I loved this man with every cell in my body and gave him my all but he so easily walked away from me never to return. I thought this weekend would be very hard for me but instead it turned into a weekend of praise, thanking God that I did not marry him. I loved myself this weekend. I pampered myself. My friends and I went out to eat to a very nice restaurant and went to the spa. I believe we women give men too much power over our lives. If we do not have a significant other in our lives, many of us think of ourselves as inadequate. This is not true. Although it is nice to have someone, we need to learn how to deal with being alone and being OK with it. I believe an attitude likes this, will attract a good man that is serious about a relationship. I really miss the man I thought to be my husband. Our relationship changed me. It made me weak for a moment but strong for a life time. I deserve the best and it is obvious to me now that he was not it. 2008-07-02 21:03:48 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F Well, my situation a bit different. I am lucky enough to be married to a decent, faithful man for 19 years with two nice kids and I am in love with another decent man, who correctly told me that his relationship with his partner is very deep and carrying and he is not intend to have anything else with anybody. I've only touched his hand and nothing more. But I want more. I love my husband and have great sex with him and I've never had sex with anybody else in my life. Why I like another man for the last 6 months I don't know. So, girls, sometimes when I read your stories I would like to be in your places. I want to have sex with the man of my dream just once and remember it for the rest of my life. Sorry for this romantic rubish. 2008-07-03 14:58:42 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F I just broke up with my son's father this past saturday. I was with him for 4 years, we broke up once before on our 3 year mark and he was so easy to walk away before. I was the one who was stupid and allowed him back, beliving him when he told me I was the one for him. 2 weeks ago he was soo in love with me and all of a sudden he just said he didn't think it's going to work out and left and hasn't called or even talked to his son in 4 days. Before this I can honestly say that he was a good father and a loving boyfriend. i'm not going to let him have this power over my feelings, or beg him back. 2008-07-03 17:13:00 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F ok this site is so good.need some advice asap!!!!!!my fiance and i together for onlya year on our weekend away (only this weekend just gone ) caught him messaging another girl.i rang her confronted them both to which they both admit they had fancied each other in the past .it had not yet lead to cheating physically not even calling but the messages were implying he thought being with her once would help him get her off his mind and they were to catch up.Heclaims he doesnt know why he didit he doesnt have any real feelings for her.he is inmelt down mode right nowbut we are still talking he said he has made the biggest mistake of his life and wants to see a conceller not to find an exuse but to be able to give me some sort of explanation and for himself because he doesnt know why he did it when we were happy.normally i would tell a mate in this sit to run for the hills but he isnt a player sort he is a real boy and very immature still (we are 25)i dont know help please every one tells me run or completly forgive to move on and i dont know if i can do either. 2008-07-03 20:39:37 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F I am a Army wife, my husband came home from Irag two years ago, he moved to another state and divorce me because I deserved better last year. I haven't seen him in two years, he keeps calling home and telling me how much he misses me and loves me. I recently found out that he is dating someone and she has no idea what he is doing. I think this is wrong for both of us, should I tell her what is really going on, I have asked him when he calls and he deines it and claims he loves me, misses me and wants to come home to visit soon and there is no other woman just me his wifey. Help need advice 2008-07-07 07:34:52 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F the guy that i am seeing has not been faithful to me. back in march he got busted. found out he was seeing me a four other women. the entire time he had been saying that i was cheating on him and that he thought i had an addiction to men and that he does not cheat ,but he was the one with the problem i have been nothing but faithful. well come to find out i am pregnant and i gave him a chance to do things with me the right way. i am have been very stressed and i have gone to the hospital a few times. the first time after i went i told him a didnt want to have sex because i hadnt been feeling well. he messed up again he called one of the girls that he had cheated on me with and tryed to get her to have sex with him..but she didnt. when i found out from her the next day he said he figured i was behind it and i had been telling her to call him. we stopped talking again and for the sake of my baby i gave him yet another chance. im tired of him still saying im cheating if i dont answer the phone in the middle of the night. or if i breathe a little to hard on the phone he says im having sex while talking to him. i only deal with him because of the baby on the way but i dont no how to cut him off. im hurting and its hurting my baby. i cry everyday and im an emotional reck. 2008-07-09 15:33:16 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F Hi i am a new member on this site. I am having problems. Let me just make this long story short. I am a mother of six beautiful children. I have been married for seven years. I filed for a divorce with this man because he has cheated on me several times and was mentally, emotionally, and physically abussive. Any how i got tired of being a fool. He was incarserated for a year and a half. When he was locked up i still looked out for him financailly. But, i end up meeting this nice guy. He cooked cleaned. He helped me with my kids. We began having alot of feelings for each other. I let him move in with me and everything. My husband got out of prison. He started a lot of mess. He said that he changed and he wants the marriage to work. My friend moved out of town back to were he is from. He said that this to much for him to bare. My husband has his own place now. He says He cant afford it on his own, so now he has a women living with him that he says is his friend. Still my husband says that he doesnt want the divorce and that he is sorry for doing my wrong. Now my friend is being shitty towards me. I love him so much I want to be with him. I am just a little scared because i know i really messed up. What should i do give my husband a chance because i do love him, but not like before. I am in love with my friend, but i am so tired of proving myself towards him. I am so confused!!!! 2008-07-13 23:52:33 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F I am happy to say that I feel safer, saner and happier than I had in quite awhile now that I am single again! Relationships can be great, but unfortunately most of them are NOT. I love the single life. I dont go out all the time anymore like i used to when single, i am just enjoying my independence, my friends and my freedom! 2008-07-17 05:59:23 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F I met my husband in 2006 and we were married 7 months later. I believed this man was my soulmate. We had a great relationship. I loved him dearly. About 4 months before our first wedding anniversary, he started changing......sleeping on the couch, not wanting sex, pulling away emoitionally. I am not stupid.....I know these are signs that he is having an affair. But, I refused to believe that because he was so good to me and we were so much in love. But, one week after our anniversary, he told me he didn't know if he wanted to be with me anymore, and he moved out. That has been over 2 months ago. Since then, he has given me several excuses as to why he left. But, I found him on match.com just a few weeks after he moved, so it is obvious that he wanted to run around. But, since the seperate and pending divorce, he has become someone I do not know. He texts, emails, or calls me everyday just to say mean and hurtful things. He has done things in my life to try to destroy me or make things very complicated for me. It has come to the point where I had to have a PPO issued against him. I just don't understand how someone could change so drastically or why someone would want to intentionally hurt somone. 2008-07-17 10:51:58 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F I am a 37 year old now single woman. I never been maried. I have been in long term relationships. Well, I have been seeing this guy since October. I found out he was cheating. But he hide it real well.He was still sleeping with me. Well when i found textes in his phone from another woman of course I called her. She just hung up on me. Well,when i started to get nast he threaten me with PFA's. What a man! The thing I am having trouble with is letting him go. If any other man would have done what he has he would have been gone. There is just something in side me that won't let go. And I don't want to go to jail. I mean he wasn't that great in bed but that didn't matter because I loved him so much. Can anybody help him on how to get over him. It seems all I meet are losers. 2008-07-17 12:47:52 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F So please tell me if I am wrong. My boyfriend of a little over a year was on facebook talking to girls. I asked to use his computer, which he gave me permission to do so and when I went to check my facebook he had not logged out of his and his page popped up. There was a runing message between him and a girl form his past. This womna is married wiht a child and she contacted him to tell him she was not into her husband anymore and wanted him ect.....Well as i read on My bf asked for some pics of her getting friendly with her "new firend" since she is no longer having sex with her man. I feel that if he is getting pictures of women naked or in sexual acts with toys or other people that is as bad a cheating. I can handle the playboy magazines but not the people he knows and has access to if he went back home. Am I wrong for feeling this way...should I look at this as he is not cheating and he did nothing wrong....HELP!!!!!PLEASE!!!!! 2008-07-17 15:22:34 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F I AM VERY FAMILIAR WITH CHEATING MEN...HAD LOTS OF THEM IN MY LIFE..ALTHOUGH IT TAKES ALOT FROM YOU WHEN SOMEONE THAT YOU LOVE HURTS YOU ONE THING I HAVE LEARNED IS THAT YOU ALMOST ALWAYS LEARN FROM THE EXPERIENCE AND WALK AWAY A SMARTER PERSON...LOTS OF MEN WILL COME AND GO IN OUR LIVES LADIES BUT THE ONE THING WE WILL ALWAYS HAVE IS EACHOTHER...SO LETS STICK TOGETHER LADIES AND SHOW THESE MEN WHOS RUNNIN THANGS...LOL... 2008-07-17 21:09:58 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F To piggy back of 3 Things Guys Should Never Tell a Girl ( To the Average Guy) I believe in honesty to the core. Therefore, if a guy has something to tell me, he better tell me up front 2008-07-20 01:38:03 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F I am in love with this man that has been my best friends for several years. We grew close and when he asked me out, it was amazing. I was , and still am, head over heels for him. Us two and our mutual best friend did everything together, until I found out that this friend liked me. Hoping to save our friendships, I suggested that we (the boyfriend and I) take some time off... Now the best friend has dumped me as a friend and started talking badly about me unfairly. He is demanding and immature and I no longer am interested in being friends with him. However, I am still desperately in love with the boyfriend, who doesn't want to get back together with me. It's been awhile and I still can't get over him. I'm pretty young and I want to move on, but at the same time I feel like I might have lost my soul mate. I still cry about him alot and I'm worried about what will happen with us and this best friend, who wants to hang out with the boyfriend and not me. Anyone with advice is a huge help...... I miss him so much. Thank you 2008-07-20 02:15:50 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F After reading many of the stories on here, I think that a lot of women know what is best for them, but they don't want to do it, because they are afraid to be alone. You don't need a man to make you feel like a complete, whole person. I think we as women are lucky to have this thing called intuition, and I thank God that I've listened to it. My intuition told me that my man was cheating on me, so I did a little sneaking around, and you betcha, he was pursuing another woman. Stupid me at the time forgave him, went back together for a little, then I knew that I just wasn't happy. Women- you need to do what makes YOU happy-you have to be selfish and put yourself first! Make a life for yourself, don't depend on a man to do that. If he left you or cheated on you- he didn't deserve you in the first place, and you're better off without him! Theres a man out there that is going to treat you the way you want to be treated. You deserve to be in a happy loving relationship with mutual respect...and don't accept anything less than that! 2008-07-20 18:46:46 http%3A%2F%2Fdontdatehimgirl.com%2Fadd_thought%2F