Trial Separation

Q. My husband and I were high school sweethearts, and we've been separated for 8 months and at the beginning of the separation it seemed like he didn't have a care in the world he didn't call me or come around, but now he's coming around and trying to make time for me, do you guys think that he had someone else at the beginning and things didn't workout or do you guys think that he felt like he had to catch up because he felt like he was missing something and I'm also curious as to why he doesn't want a divorce, is it because he wants his cake and eat it, too?

A. Girl, please do not take this man back. When he was separated, which technically he still is, he was messing around with other women. You will never know if he slept with them, was emotionally unfaithful or just went to strip clubs every night. The point is, now that he's had his fun, he's coming back to you. That would be up to you to take him back if you wanted to. The problem is you will also never know if he's still seeing some of the women he was with when you were separated while he's trying to get back together with you. Your best bet is to cut your losses. If you never heard from your husband the whole time you were separated, he's not the man for you. Do you think he simply stopped having sex for the 8 months he was away from you? Don't give him the opportunity to have his cake and eat it too. -- Queer Eye For the Straight Girl