kmwarner
Joined: 30 Jan 2009
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 Posted: Fri Jan 30, 2009 8:45 am Post subject: Advice please?! |
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| Okay, so I need an outsiders opinion. I have been with this guy for almost 3 years now, and been married to him for almost 2 of those years. We ended up separating for a while, and it's been almost 6 months, we still see each other every week, and talk to each other almost every day, and we want to make things work between us. Well, when we first separated, he went on a vacation trip the both of us were supposed to take. But since we were mad at each other and having a lot of problems, I decided it best not to go. Well, there is this one chick who I can't stand. I was friends with her, and then I stopped being friends with her because she was talking trash about me to my husband, and trying to get us to divorce so she could have him. What a *b*. Anyways, so he goes on his trip, comes home, I ask him how it went, and such. He never mentioned anything about having HIS friends up there, cause it was a family trip. So a couple of months later, I was looking through his pictures on his computer.. and there were pictures of the *b* and his on THAT trip him and I were supposed to take. Not only that (yes I admit I was snooping, but again, we were having problems already), so again, not only did he lie to me about that, I found an online conversation he had had with her, and he was telling her how much he missed her, and was lonely, and wanted her in his bed with him. OK.. we are MARRIED, and yet he's telling that to some other chick?! Not ok right? It gets better.. so we were starting to work on things (this was before I had found out about the trip and conversation) and we were messing around, and he has caller ID on his cell, well it starts going off, it was her, and answers it during our "messing around (to keep this clean)"! I couldn't believe it! So.. moving on.. since all this happened.. a couple months go by and I decide to give it another chance, because I can admit that I wasn't perfect during that time, but I told him about what I had done. Thanksgiving comes around, and I call his sisters house (that's where he was staying) and I am really good with peoples voices. The stupid *b* answers the phone and proceeds to fight with me telling me "oh you two aren't together anymore, he's not with you, he's with me now so back the *f* off!" I confronted him about that, and of course he made up some lame ass excuse that his sisters friend sounds exactly like her.. and since his sister hates me, she had her friend do that to me to try and get rid of me, forcing me to get a divorce. So I asked him to get a divorce. I was infuriated. I signed the papers.. and waited a couple weeks. and he came crawling back to me saying he was sorry for everything that happened, he wants to work on things, stay married, move back in together, and so i asked him that if he really wants all that to happen (cause I admit, I'm a sucker for this guy, I really do love him more than anything even with all the stuff he's done, I may not trust him 100% but I still love him 100%), that he needs to do one thing, stop talking to that dumb *b*, erase her number, block it, just completely removing her from his life. Soooo... here's what I need an opinion on.. should I proceed to try and make things work? Should I bother trusting him? I love him.. but I don't know if I can ever truly trust him again. It has been the root of all my stress for the past few months.. I would like to spend the rest of my life with him.. I just don't know if it's a good decision or if I will regret it. |
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