am i wrong or is he wrong? plz tell me....

krockrchic · Joined: 07 Apr 2008 Posts: 1

I had been dating this guy for the a few months. Everything was going great... we had such a connection. A connection that people only dream of, he was sexy, intelligent and funny... all the things that you would look for in a man. But he broke up with me just the other day for this reason: in the long run, things would not have worked out. You see, I have a son which he said was fine...i was also married before...which wasnt a problem for him...or so he said. All of a sudden, he tells me that things wouldnt have worked out because he wants to be number 1 in my life and he is number 2. He cares for me and such and wants to be with me but cant because he doesnt care for me as much as he cares for himself... Now, we had invested a lot of time and effort in this relationship during a short amount of time.... my heart and my world is basically shattered at this point... is he being selfish? am i wrong? is it just a cop out? or is he saving me from a bushel of heartache down the line? i mean....my heart is done at this point. I'm basically ready to end it...cause I felt like he was the one for me... totally...
His name is Tameek Henderson...if you come across him...smack him for me.

square813 · Joined: 25 Jul 2006 Posts: 246

any man who wants to be in front of your children is not worth the heartache no matter how good the two of you are together.

1. KIDS

2. everything else

rosebuttons · Joined: 04 Sep 2007 Posts: 145

He is being selfish and unfair. You are best to move on to someone who values you and your child. I know you invested time with him, only a few months but arent you glad you found out now what kind of guy he is? it is much easier to move on. Its ok to be disappointed but your future with him would have been all about him and nothing else. I think he was breaking up with you anyway while trying not to look like the bad guy. He is saving you from a lot of bullshit down the line. Good luck to you.

Sexiredd · Joined: 09 Apr 2008 Posts: 2

catscalw · Joined: 15 Mar 2008 Posts: 124

I agree with almost everything that's been said here, particularly that to belive that he should come before your kids is nuts. I'm a guy, and I don't have kids, but even I know that motherhood is probably the strongest bond in the universe.

His explanation is just a bit too convenient, too neat, too predictable...did he know that you had a son going in? This guy sounds like a bit of a player.

I'm sorry you've been shattered.
I've been there.
It's hard, but it gets better.
I promise.

sincitymom · Joined: 29 Mar 2008 Posts: 1

Sounds alot like my story. It's the best thing and the right thing to pass on this lemon. You shouldn't even think about sticking around, your child deserves better don't you think and you also. Your just wrapped up in all the good stuff, the past, and what if's. Don't let it all fool your heart, be smart!!

Sweety22 · Joined: 10 Apr 2008 Posts: 1

Some men will never commit to a woman who have another mans children.