AVOID!!! Bill Nipper (bill_billy_billiam@yahoo.com)

[snicklebunny]

I discovered this site about a month ago, and have been agonizing about posting here. I feel stupid, embarrassed and ashamed, but I see it would be a public service that this man be put in his place.

He discoverd me a few years ago through profile searching on Yahoo Messenger. We chatted and got along well, commiserated about our marriages. Time went on and I was separating from my husband and I thought he was separated/separating from his wife. I would have never knowingly been with a married man... but I now know that when a man says he is separated... RUN the other way.

I was so preoccupied with my marriage coming apart that when I met this man on-line, he seemed to fit exactly what I was missing in my life. We chatted about everything, I thought he was being honest with me, I asked a lot of direct questions and he gave me straight answers(or so I thought). I now also realize from reading the posts here about him that its all part of his game... I was sooooo played, and for so long too. I actually cared for and worried over this man, boy was I stupid.

I really hope that who ever reads this decides that he is a bad choice and that he really has no care for anyone else. I was so blind to everything, and naive too, wow to admit that here ugh

I have learned alot in the past 4 years sice my separation. Women have to be careful about who they pick and date. I wish at the time I was a little more wise and if hindsight was 20/20 I would have avoided this smooth talker lilke the plague. There is so much more I could say, but it is really tough for me to write this... I am just proud of myself that I got this out, and if anyone has questions about this 'man' I will answer honestly and truthfully... I DEFFINITELY want to save someone else from feeling the way I do right now.

[Darln766]

Hi please PM me. I understand you being played and not knowing, dont worry, we were all played.

[Darln766]

Thanks for posting..you confirmed my suspicions about him and a 'sexual' affair...I never ever thought he had someone on the side for almost 4 years though! This is just so very hard to swallow..I suspected that he was sexual..but never ever dreamed of finding this out! He kept you a good secret..I knew he was IMing and had secret emails and meeting women...but besides the one he was meeting in hotels that he met from work..I didnt know he had you on the side ..and for sooo long and that he did all the same things with you as he did me! I have such a knot in my stomach now. The man I THOUGHT I knew as my loyal and loving husband who LOVED me is a CON-ARTIST!!! I feel so CONNED! HOW did he keep you such a secret all those years..when everthing else he did slipped for me to find out? I feel so stupid and taken advantage of ...and since being confronted on this ......his excuse was that even though he had everything with me and NO complaints and was VERY satisfied...he STILL wanted MORE...a part of his 'mental problem/urges' that he can't control, he says. More attention, more sex even though he had all that with me! He was a different man when he left our home. leading a different life! I am in SHOCK still! Cant believe the man I loved and who I felt loved me did all this...and after he heard everything that he has done he feels as if he's hearing about another man and not himself....like an 'out of body' experience - A BIG problem! Says he didnt and doesn't think of consequences past the NOW part of when he does something and after doing it...he pushes it in the back of his mind to not think about it. This is unreal! He says sex to him has no emotional attachment ..its just the act of sex, he connections to any feelings for the person involved..he's just 'in the zone' to feel good..no difference of who's its with... he does all the same things...the caressing, kissing, hugs and all that he does is just how he does things...nothing special for any one woman..... its all to get to his end result of HIM feeling good. Says his women 'friends' now (since we are NOW separated) are just that, 'friends' to hang out with spend time with and have some 'fun' with. Admits he will lead it to sex...but the 'friend' will still ONLY be a 'friend' before and after (there is no 'during' since he separates sex from any emotions ..at that time whoever he's with is just a BODY), no new feelings are involved just becuase he had sex with his 'friends'. I just cant believe all this and that he admitted it (couldn't deny it anymore!) ..I knew he must have been having a sexual affair..but STILL never wanted to actually BELIEVE it! now its been confirmed and yes it hurts VERY much .....but closure for me to know I did the right thing and go with my gut and NOT believe his lies and kicked him out for a final time!!!! He was STILL acting innocent to me ...and holding to his 'lie' that he never had sex with anyone but me...even up to the first part of this month (MAR09) when he STILL put on his moves to seduce ME!!! Im feeling SO sick and NOW have made an appt to get tested since he also admitted to unsafe sex!
Im actually beginning to think I was inlove with his hands and sex rather then HIM himself..since I lived with him..I got to see the real personality traits he shows once he knew he had me hooked ....but I 'felt' special when he 'touched' me...only to learn he does that to anyone he's with now...nothing 'special' about the person..just how he does it to get to his end result...Oh man! To outside people..was/is very sweet and tells them all they want to hear...would NEVER EVER think he is like this! Im in such Shock. Finding this out killed me...and boy was HE shocked when confronted by BOTH of us at my place yesterday!!!!!!

[snicklebunny]

You are very welcome, if this saves just one woman from getting tangled up with this 'man' than we did a very good thing.

I will never feel bad for exposing him for the liar and cheat that he is.