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double22dose
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 Posted: Sun May 13, 2007 3:44 pm Post subject: Being in Love |
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Is there a difference between saying I love you and being in love?
I was told by my BF ""I love you"" but don't be ""in love with me"" and then he tried to explain that there is a difference between the two.... saying I love you and ""being in love with you"".
He said he didn't want ""us"" to turn into a relationship and it did.....yet he says I love you with all my heart.
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He tries to explain... ""being in love"" with someone means wanting to be with you every day.
Living together, future plans, a whole thing that he doesn't feel he wants right now or that he can provide. Yet he loves me.
He was trying to give himself a year of freedom before getting involved with anyone again after the last relationship. And then I came along and he said he fell in love with me; it's a relationship that just happened. He was emotionally upset and crying while he was telling me all this.
I'm so confused... I want to be loved and in a relationship I'm in love with him. He says he is in love with me. Is there a difference between saying I love you and being in love??? Am I just, again, being politely told that he wants to others? |
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alleebug78
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| Posted: Mon May 14, 2007 1:12 pm Post subject: |
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Yeah, there probably IS a difference to some people. But it sounds to me like this guy is giving you the run around. Really.
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Jasmine 57
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Anyone can tell you they love you but that doesnt mean they are in love with you. You can tell a dog you love them but that doesnt mean your in love with them. He may just love you as a friend but you want more than he wants to give so either except that he says it or if you want more than that move on to someone that wants to be in love with you.
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Foundthebestman
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| Posted: Wed May 16, 2007 1:48 pm Post subject: |
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Pay attention to what he's saying. He cares for you a lot. He's trying to tell you that he doesn't think the two of you will end up spending the rest of your lives together in a nice way. I give him kudos for being honest with you. Where women go wrong is not paying attention to this and ASSUMING the guy will fall deeper in love and not letting go early on. That only leads to hurt. He cares about you and he sounds like a decent guy so just swallow your pride and accept that this love you feel is not being returned. It hurts now and will only last a while, you'll grow out of it and be happy you did. When you find the right one you won't be so confused, nor will he and you'll know it's for life.
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alleebug78
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| Posted: Fri May 18, 2007 7:48 am Post subject: |
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Well said
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