Being related to a giggilo

[sincereheart55]

Girls:

I never thought I would have the opportunity to tell a forum of woman about my relative giggilo.
I will not say how close, but close enough that he brought his victims home, and I would take the opportunity to tell them, run do not walk, he will take you for every cent you have in credit, cash and valuables.
He will wine and dine you and all his friends at your expense, and then he will leave you in the dust. He will buy big, beautiful, and expensive, and talk it up like he brought it.

He has had many victims, and they were left in financial ruins, of their own choice. They did not go into this blindly, not one.
I told ever single one of them, that he was a con-artist to woman, and that he would sweet talk them, and treat them well, but spend their money. His credit, is in the dumps a long time ago.

So, if you have good credit, do not let any guy spend your money. First thing, I have six sisters, including myself. If a guy wanted to take us out he paid. If Christmas came, he would get one gift reasonable. Not expensive,or rediculous, you cannot buy love. If he went all out,that was a good thing, he should. All my brother in laws, treated them like Queens, because they expected it, and acted like it.
No messing around before marriage, " you get what you demand, nothing less, and nothing more.
Why do close marriages, that have good faithful, strong, and moral behavior that last? They live the truth, living it, and demanding it, by accepting nothing less.

You set the level, if you start by buying dinner, you will not be able to turn the hands back to were he should be buying you dinner with his money. He should be treating you with respect, if mom did not teach him, you should. Keep yourself for marriage, for the right man, do not past yourself around, with possibilities of this guy being the right one. How many right ones have you been with? Do you feel cheap? Love true love, will never feel cheap, because it will last for ever. Have you spent your life, believing that " he is the one, having pre-marial sex is all right, he will be my husband, and then he ends up " gone"? Ouch, I feel for you, but time to change your habits, and lift that selfworth.

If you are going to have a future husband, does he have a right to expect that you have kept yourself decent for him. I know, when the right one comes along for me ,he will not have had multi-partners. YUCK!

I will know, because he will be the kind of man, that practices what he should, and lives a life of pride, faith in God, and is interested in marriage lasting forever.

It will also , show in his past record, does he show inconsistencies in his behavior, in money, spending, working, and commitments. Not just in marriage but in other areas of his life. When he makes a commitment does he follow through, or bank out early, of not show? Huge warning signs!

Look deep, clean your own house, " your heart, your soul, and your mine", and make a firm commitment to take a stand, and not fall. If he is decent, he will respect you , even if he walks off for a short time, or make noise about it. Like you don't really love me, and you can't know if we will be good together. Listen plenty of couples found this out after marriage, and if you are in love, that love will bring out the best in both of you.
He is full of bull, ----, so hold on to you, and do not give in. It is a line, and there are plenty of those, he is uses to using them, to get what he wants. Gee, I have met guys, that have multi-levels of stagedy. It depends on how easy she is to convince, or how hard she is to convince. They is not a male alive, that does not know this game. You will frustrate him, so keep yourselves busy. Plan your dates, like we are going to a Movie and dinner, and home, his home for him, and your home for you.

Plan constructive time together, if he is a keeper, and there are those guys out there, " their just not in the same places as the guys, you have pick out in the past". If he wants to get to know you, it is not in bed. Marriage is not based on sex, after marriage it has only 1/4 to do with it. The rest is work, bills, planning keeping up your home, your job, you financial ends, etc. Kid, add on about another 1/2 of you life. So, do not let him make sex seem so important. If he wants to fine out who you are, every day, what you think, what you like, where you like to go, and how you think, then show him. Do things together and do not let him bring you to a place, of sex, and dead end. When that is over so is most relationships. I think society has need an old fashion boost of old values, they are what would make it last. Making a guy wonder, wait, and treat you with respect, a respect that she and only she could demand. That is why marriages lasted, he knew he had someone special. There was allot less divorces, and more hard work. They mad it, like my parents, 68 years of marriage.

I have several sons, with many friends, they were jocks, and they were popular, these guys talked about girls that were easy, it was horrible, I felt sorry for them. Do you want a pity party, or do you want some guy to, tell his mom, " she is not like all the rest, she is a good girl, she won't have sex mom. " This is what my son told me about his wife, today she can do no wrong in my eyes, or in his eyes. The other daughter in laws, are good girls, too. Guys, tell the good stuff to their families, and keep the bad stuff to themselves, but that is a give away to a mom, we know, when she is easy, and when she is not, he tell us.

I was easy with my fiancee in high school,never with anyone else. I married, but I was pregnant, when I married him. He had no respect for me, his family had no respect for me. He was mean, rude and treated me less than I deserves. But I set the pace, I felt if I had waited, he would have respected me more. I know his family would have, but they knew, I was having sex with their brother, I was pregnant. They came from the old school, and today, they are still all married. I stayed married for 25 years, but he was abusive, verbally, and mentally. I am waiting for the right one, and I am not going to spend myself on losers, I am waiting for the right man. If he does not come around, well, I am better off than being spent on losers, and losing my own self worth. Most parent even if they are quit do not respect, their sons, or their girlfriend sleeping together. Believe me , I know this as a fact.

If a guy leaves and does not come back, because it is easier to get what he wants out there, then he was always going to take the easy way out, in everything. This includes, problems in your marriage, if he is not a man with character for really he will bail for the easy ones. But they never last, they are just easy, but then, there is always another easy piece of you know what, so he will not stay in a relationship for the right reasons.

Stand firm, keep your money hidden, tell him your credit sucks, and that you have no money. Lets see, why he is interest, is it your smile, your heart, your kind way, your ability to love. Do you want to know the truth, or are you one of thousands of easy ones.

Sincere heart