boyfriend wont have sex

jessica050785 · Joined: 24 Nov 2007 Posts: 0

i've been with mine for only four yrs and we have two small children together, he is the sweetet man i ever met and i know he loves me but the sex is pretty much non-existent, he never wants to do it or ever show intrest in me in that way at all, we also only have sex like once every four to six weeks and i practly have to beg for it sometimes even start a argument i don't understand it i 100% know hes not cheating if hes not working hes always home and i know i'm a ""very"" attractive girl even more so then him and its not like my kids destroyed my body cause thay didn't i'm a 22yr old exotic dancer and can pretty much have any man i set my eye on i just cant understand how he dosn't see it anymore

rosebuttons · Joined: 04 Sep 2007 Posts: 145

It may not be you. He sounds like he is depressed. or may have some other type of problem. ask him if he wants to talk to a counselor. How does he feel about you being an exotic dancer?

cautiousandwise · Joined: 10 Jul 2007 Posts: 8

Maybe he doesn't find the idea of the mother of his children taking her clothes off and dancing sexy to turn other men on, acceptable employment. I am sure he realizes that you guys need the money, and it is a LOT more money than you would make in a professional career, but that doesn't mean it settles well in his heart and in his mind. I know that I wouldn't be pleased if my spouse turned the opposite sex on by being nude, for a living. I wouldn't want him to touch me. I wouldn't feel special. I would feel like ANY woman could have what I get for enough money. I would look at him as a dirty bird who is available to the highest bidder.

rosebuttons · Joined: 04 Sep 2007 Posts: 145

cautiousandwise is right on with her post. You also have 2 children to think about too. I think its about time you get a more acceptable type of employment. I really dont care about needing the money either. Im a single mother of 2 myself and work my ass off in a respectable manor to take care of my family. I couldnt have sex with a man who made a living taking off his clothes for other women.

brightred601 · Joined: 11 Nov 2007 Posts: 0

He doesn't touch you because you shake your twat in guys faces every night no telling what else you do for the money. Damn are women really this damn stupid these days?

brightred601 · Joined: 11 Nov 2007 Posts: 0

Lawd I'm still laughing at this stupid ass girl. I really can't BELIEVEEEEEEEEEEEEE women are this stupid. I blame parents the reason why these girls don't know any damn better because I have friends in relationships that don't know up from down right from wrong. They are just confused and it all isn't their fault. Their moms don't talk to them and they see them going thru all the bullshit that keeps going on in an endless cycle. Ladies get counseling or some kind of help break the cycle.

impeccable · Joined: 11 Dec 2007 Posts: 0

I think that alot of the other replies are coming down a little too hard on you.I don't have the balls to do it myself but I don't think that there is anything wrong with being a stripper and if you were stripping when your man met you then I'm sure that that probably isn't the problem.I hate to say this but the harsh reality is it's not that he doesn't want to have sex....it's he doesn't want to have sex with you.I know you think that he may not be cheating but take it from me because I have seen what's behind the curtain he probably is.You can't keep tabs on him 24/7.If he's missing something in this relationship trust me when I tell you that he's getting it from somewhere else.BRACE YOURSELF!!!!

brightred601 · Joined: 11 Nov 2007 Posts: 0

Impeccable come n. Get real please. I'm not knocking anybody that strips because if thats the best way u know how to get money at this time fine. But if you think that her stripping isn't affecting their sex life and relationship period you're dead wrong. Men are men and what I mean by that is they are very judgemental of women I don't care what type of man he is. If a woman wears heels that's too damn high first thing that comes to mind is SLUT, HO, LOOSE, SKANK, etc and will treat a woman differently just cuz of it. Just how they are face it. So if you don't think that her stripping is not affecting the relationship you're dead wrong.

GPinkBunny · Joined: 29 Dec 2007 Posts: 0

Maybe its time to switch teams. I'm sure one of your lovely co-workers would mind giveing you a hand or a tongue.

square813 · Joined: 25 Jul 2006 Posts: 246

i feel for you im in the same boat. but i agree with both comments. where theres a will theres a way