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mandability
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 Posted: Fri Feb 15, 2008 8:47 pm Post subject: Ex's profile on Facebook - revenge? |
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Hi, first time poster here. I've found my daughter's dad's profile on facebook and he is using it as a dating site, trying to attract women. I don't care about that as we're long finished - it's just that he describes himself as kind, caring, compassionate and all that *&^%, but although he earns over $100,000 a year, he just slashed his daughter's child support, which has left me in financial difficulties (I may even have to rehome her puppy). Naturally he doesn't even mention on his "Mr Wonderful" profile that he has a child.
So I am thinking about writing on his facebook wall, something on the lines of "Caring, kind? how about being a little kinder to your daughter?"
Does anyone have any thoughts on the ethics of doing this - because it feels like pretty good revenge to me at this point in time! I don't care if he writes on my wall in return - my friends all know about him anyway.
Your opinions would be greatly appreciated! |
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Jess_388
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| Posted: Sat Feb 16, 2008 3:42 am Post subject: |
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I sense bitterness here. If I were you, I wouldn't concern myself with him. There are ethical avenues to getting the child support you deserve. I know that a noncustodial spouse has no power to unilaterally slash child support, but must receive approval by the court.
My question is this: how would hurting him benefit you?
My advise is: rise above it and seek revenge by doing nothing other than living well. |
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MusicRocks45
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| Posted: Sat Feb 16, 2008 5:45 am Post subject: |
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I agree with the poster before me. It probably would not benefit you to do a wall post. But, if it would seriously make you feel better, go ahead!
I can also see your point, you are financially strapped because of him, and you want to defend your daughter by making this post. Though it won't make him acknowledge her or help you monetarily, but it may give you some happiness. I don't know, and I am sure you won't know until you do it.
Flip side to this is if you do it, beware, he may bash you and ruin your credibility because of the post. I would post personally to any of the chicks he has on his friends list. Tell them to be cautious and poke suggest them asking about any children. See the women will keep this in the back of her mind, but if you post on his profile, he will just delete it anyway.
Good luck! |
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rosebuttons
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| Posted: Sat Feb 16, 2008 12:54 pm Post subject: |
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| I agree with Jess on this one. getting revenge is only going to make you feel better in the moment. the best revenge is him seeing how well you are doing without him. Child support can be handled in court, he cant run from that. Move on from this jerk. There are nice guys out there. |
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Diva 214
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Listen girlfriend you need to get your revenge any way possible! write on that dogs page he deserves it. All those girls that are looking on his page need to know that he has a child! So I say go for it girl you have nothing to lose.  |
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bipslittlegirl
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| Posted: Tue Mar 18, 2008 4:43 pm Post subject: |
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| DO IT! DO IT! DO IT! |
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2differs
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| Posted: Tue Mar 18, 2008 8:55 pm Post subject: think first |
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DOn't do it girl. WHat goes around eventually comes around. Your daughter will know how bad of a dad he is just because she is a smart girl. I would print his page out and possibly use it in court in case he tries to claim no W-2. Think smart and be strong!  |
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keshiamoore99@ya
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| Posted: Thu Apr 03, 2008 12:35 am Post subject: SORRYBABYS DADDY DONALD KUYKENDALL |
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| WELL THIS IS A STORY OF DONALD KUYKENDALL FROM HOUSTON TX HE'S 43AND HAVE 16 KIDS THAT HE HAVEN'T HAD NOTHING TO DO WITH HE HAVE HAD EVERY FEMALE IN HOUSTON EVERY COLOR. WHEN I MET HIM HE WAS WORKING AT A CLEANERS AND QUIT AFTER HIS FIRST BABY MOTHER FILED CHILD SUPPORT I MET HIM AT 28 AND IN THAT TIME HE DIDN'T HIT A LICK AT NOTHING BECAUSE HE TOLD ME THAT IF HE WAS TO WORK THAT IT WILL ALL GO TO CHILD SUPPORT,AT THE AGE THAT HE'S AT HE DATES 18 AND 21 YEAR OLD GIRLS AND STILL MAKING BABYS. SO IF YOU COME TO H-TOWN RUN. IF YOU MEET A GUY THAT NAME IS DONALD RUN BECAUSE HE'S A SORRY SORRY SPERM DONOR. |
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oceanlvr
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| Posted: Tue Apr 08, 2008 3:44 pm Post subject: |
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Geeze whats going on in Texas anyway? 16 kids? My exhusbands daddy has been married 8 times with 14 kids and he's in texas also.. 
My ex has 5 kids and wants as many as he can get. Another good ole texas boy.  |
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sincereheart55
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| Posted: Thu Apr 24, 2008 4:24 am Post subject: Re: Ex's profile on Facebook - revenge? |
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I am a member of Face Book for a long time, so are many members of my family, I say, POST IT!
It is more of a Religious site, and they do monitor. He is be fround upon.
Give dad what he deserves.
| mandability wrote: | Hi, first time poster here. I've found my daughter's dad's profile on facebook and he is using it as a dating site, trying to attract women. I don't care about that as we're long finished - it's just that he describes himself as kind, caring, compassionate and all that *&^%, but although he earns over $100,000 a year, he just slashed his daughter's child support, which has left me in financial difficulties (I may even have to rehome her puppy). Naturally he doesn't even mention on his "Mr Wonderful" profile that he has a child.
So I am thinking about writing on his facebook wall, something on the lines of "Caring, kind? how about being a little kinder to your daughter?"
Does anyone have any thoughts on the ethics of doing this - because it feels like pretty good revenge to me at this point in time! I don't care if he writes on my wall in return - my friends all know about him anyway.
Your opinions would be greatly appreciated! |
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anacarrera
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| Posted: Thu Apr 24, 2008 6:54 pm Post subject: |
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| i say do it... i know someone will appreciate it at some point...yes what goes around comes around, but as long as you do it for the noble reasons, u dont ned to fear karma! |
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rosebuttons
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| Posted: Thu Apr 24, 2008 8:38 pm Post subject: |
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| resentment is setting myself on fire in hopes that the smoke bothers you. in other words "Its not worth it" move on |
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sincereheart55
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| Posted: Mon Apr 28, 2008 1:22 am Post subject: Disagree |
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Rosebutton, what is good for you is not always good for someone else. If I had listen to my friends, I would still be in love with my X fiancee, but I posted here, and I feel so much better, and recently he choose words to get me to change what I wrote, "manipulation", and he knew it would affect me, it was a lie, so I decided after I figure what he was up too, to repost it. I did not lie, I agree, I should not have mentioned his mothers home, that was tasteless, but that was only because he lurse woman with the whole Hawaii, culture. It is nothing compared to what heart ache he can cause you, and I want other woman to be fully aware of it. Posting he is a dead beat dad is not a crime, being a dead beat dad is. So, if you feel you might save someone from being fooled, and taken, post it.
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| rosebuttons wrote: | | resentment is setting myself on fire in hopes that the smoke bothers you. in other words "Its not worth it" move on |
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rosebuttons
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| you missunderstood me. Posting here is one thing to warn other women which is great but it should end there. by messing around on facebook is another. if you continue to seek revenge you are just hurting yourself. I know how you feel I have been there myself. but there is a point where you have to move on for yourself. |
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sincereheart55
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| Posted: Mon May 05, 2008 11:27 am Post subject: |
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| rosebuttons wrote: | | you missunderstood me. Posting here is one thing to warn other women which is great but it should end there. by messing around on facebook is another. if you continue to seek revenge you are just hurting yourself. I know how you feel I have been there myself. but there is a point where you have to move on for yourself. |
Rosebuttons:
I do agree there are limits to what you should say, and as long a each individual is aware of her own part in the relationship, her own limits as to what is just plain revenge vs, allowing other woman to know, he is a man with no honor, no loyality or character. A man that does not support his children, is the lowest. My dad and mom, sold coupons in the streets to feed us.
I would even go as far as to say, there was a time, when my son would have needed someone to post about him, and his lack of interest in his children, and his lust for one woman after another. I would not have thought they were trying to get even.
These man, ruin others lives, and place false hopes, dreams and lies and then end it with sleeping with other woman.
This is a plain statement of "No character, never going to offer any woman loyality, fidelity, or trust.
Believe me, I am not an easy target for falling for the wrong one, but I was fooled.
I am no longer angry, I actually think a man is in my path, that is meant to be, but only God and time will insure whether or not he is. But when I posted , if I were out for revenge believe me, there is allot worse.
So that is part of being responsible girls when we post, separating the revenge from the facts that may help someone elses understand, just how far a man will go.
Name calling, profanity, and down right filth is not necessary, and the more you leave theses out, the more legitimate you sound. All of the mention ones here are the root of anger.
So, Rosebutton to the man that deliberately seals the peace from a womans life, watch out, other woman will know you and if they are smart, they will avoid you like the pleague.
Perhaps, this is truly what men that behave like this need, they need to know, other woman will know their profile, in advance, not after you walk on them, stomp on their hearts and lives and the lives of their children, and in my case my grandchildren.
The man I was with did not mind, bring woman in and out of his families lives, like water, but I do and my sons do. Why, because we want our children to know what is normal, and what is abnormal. What is stable, and unstable, and what is moral right and what is not.
The only way, I would ever bring my grown children and their children into the picture again, is to know for sure, we are going down the isle and not before.
So , ladies Revenge, or justice. Be aware of what and why you are writing it. It is usually transparent.
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