Financial Security

stella2559 · Joined: 17 Dec 2008 Posts: 3

Why is it when a women lists "Financial Seurity" as what she wants she is labeled a gold digger but when a guy does the same thing he is just looking out for his well being.. Talk about a double standard..

Has anyone else ever been dumped cause they did not make enough money?? .. I know these are tough times we live in but what ever happen to love and finding that right one that you want to spend the rest of your life or all we all so jaded by the real world that those things dont really matter .. How do you get pass the fact that the only reason you are not together is money and your lack there off..

raven_lady · Joined: 03 Apr 2009 Posts: 53

I went out with a few guys who were total cheapasses - didn't pay when they were the ones who did the asking as has always been the case with me, and with one I even had to pay for him! We went to a concert and I had to pay for the bulk of his ticket and after the show I had to pay for his drink! Never again will I give or lend a guy even one red cent unless perhaps we are in a committed relationship and it's a necessary situation. Giving a guy money makes me feel as if I've sunk very low, and the guy not paying makes me feel as if I'm not even worth it. And it's not even a lot of money I'm talking about here.

The funny thing is not to blow my own horn but I never go out without full makeup and my hair done and dressed well and I've been told I look great not only by men (in one instance a stranger stopped me just to tell me I was very pretty) but also by women who are strangers. So my attitude now is I'm not going to 'waste' my efforts and my looks with men who don't appreciate it. Hey, if you want someone who looks good and you like being seen with then you're going to have to give something in return. It's a fair trade off.And I like how these men peg that attitude as being a goldigger because they probably wouldn't give me a second look if I went out just as I am when I'm at home. And men usually don't ask a woman out unless sex is the goal so if we're going to make generalizations here then it can be said that men just want sex.