Frank Torres Seattle Heart Doc

[DontGetMadGetEvi]

I met this man off a dating website nearly 11 months ago. Frank Torres, He’s a well known doctor in Seattle.explorer325@yahoo.com
I was very leery and cautious at first because he was a smooth talker and made a ton of promises that most guys would never make. He promised me trips around the world to locations I had always dreamed to see. He emailed me wonderfully written emails everyday he really new what to say. He would call me several times a day. I never imagined meeting someone who seemed so honest and sincere. After about a month after meeting him we decided I would move to Seattle from where I live and he would take care of everything. He even offered me 5k a month for living expenses and trips etc.
What a joke! I know if it sounds to good to be true,,,,,,,blah blah,a girl can dream cant she?
From that point on it was once lie after another......His mother died, He lost all his ID ,He was in the hospital, you name it I heard it.
I was supposed to move to Seattle by Aug 1st. I have everything I own packed up and in storage facility and I was staying with a friend because I let my apartment go. I quit my job and was actively searching for a job in Seattle. The closer it got to the 1st the more lies he began to tell. The 1st came and went and I was frantic going out of my mind while he tried to feed me ridiculous lies. I begged him several times to be honest with me and he insisted he was sincere and that everything would be ok. He never followed through with his mountains of promises.
I’m now stuck here without a place to live and all my belongings in a storage facility that I can’t afford to pay because I gave up my job. Not to mention my beloved cat went missing because I have stayed with several friends while waiting to move and someone accidentally let him out. That above everything else hurts the most. I’ve lost something because of all this I can’t get back, Thanks Frank!
When all the lies started falling apart I decided to do some checking and I called a friend who works in a court house in Washington. He had previously told me that his wife had filed for divorce and she had kicked him out of the house because she was mean and crazy ( his words not mine) I just knew that too must have also been all lies, it was.
No papers were filed that she could find so the next day I confronted him about it and I haven’t heard a word from him since!
I’m almost sure his wife has no clue what so ever what her husband does in his office on his computer everyday if she does, well that’s a whole other story. I’ve tried contacting her because if I were her I would want to know but I haven’t to this point been able to.
I should have listened to my inner voice but I wanted so badly to believe this dream he had so masterfully sold to me over the last 11 months.
I wonder how many other women he has been involved with from the internet, am I the only one that fell for this? Who knows!

[broadview]

so sorry this man did this to you.

[DontGetMadGetEvi]

Thank you Broadview but I should have known better and listened to my inner voice. He still won’t return my phone calls or emails; I just really wanted an apology or at least an explanation as to why he lied to me for nearly a year. It’s going to take some time to put my life back together again, and I will. I just hope that people that might know him see this and at some point he's accountable for his actions.

[DontGetMadGetEvi]

Thank you Broadview but I should have known better and listened to my inner voice. He still won’t return my phone calls or emails; I just really wanted an apology or at least an explanation as to why he lied to me for nearly a year. It’s going to take some time to put my life back together again, and I will. I just hope that people that might know him see this and at some point he's accountable for his actions.

[slhaynes]

You have to be responsible for YOUR actions and not lay them on some one else. I know you have heard that if it is to good to be true it probably isnt true. I do hope you learned from your mistake. But like most women you will do it again and then cry again. You should have made him prove to you that he was sincere before you quit your job, gave up your apt and put your things in storage. That is the funny thing about it. What desperate women will do for a dream.

[ScornedandWarned]

I have always accepted responsibilities for my actions and for being in a desperate situation. I know that if had I not allowed myself to be vulnerable I would never have let him treat me the way he has.
He always tried to prove himself several times with gifts and money and a whole lotta sweet talking, just enough to keep me believing in his sincerity. he lead me to believe for 10 months by contacting movers and shipping companies and looking for jobs in Seattle and on and on that his intentions were genuine.
It’s a cruel world with cruel people in it and I guess that’s just the way the cookie crumbles and I am the one left dealing with it. The point of me posting here is making others aware of his actions and hopefully inflicts some amount of accountability on his part.
I have heard from him again and the excuses he gave me were that he was "severally depressed and had to much on his plate" FOR 10 MONTHS??????
I don’t and won’t believe anything he has ever told me, he told me his wife filed for divorce, she never did, he even told me his mother died, who knows if that’s true, I don’t.
I just want to say that before you go posting replies on matters you might want to think about it because were real people with real pain and there isn’t anything funny about that !
I can’t help but think because of what you said that you know him or are him.

[catscalw]

slhaynes,
A bit uncaring and insenitive, there, don't you think?

The time to talk to someone about the consequences of their choices is not when they are trying to stop the bleeding, but in reflection. Yes, people need thier pain to find their motivation to grow, and no, it is not your job to rub thier nose in it. Kindness is a much more effective approach, if you want to make a point, in any situation.

And cut the predicatable misogynist crap-, you clearly are not an expert on women, other than serving up a cold plate of leftover cliche's which make all of us guys look like troglodytes.