guys use SEX TOYS

ghantol · Joined: 12 Jul 2008 Posts: 11

like fake vagina/anus and blow up dolls.
i think its perverted isnt it?

do you think its a turn off of a guy owned a fake rubber vagina or a blow up doll.

do you think only those guys who cannot get real women would use such toys?

catscalw · Joined: 15 Mar 2008 Posts: 154

Don't you think there is just a bit of a double standard here? Would you have the same argument and warning about any woman who owns a dildo?

Absurd statement....sex toys are endorsed by every therapeutic professional working in the field of human sexuality, for a host of reasons.

I wonder what is really the issue here...it sounds like you have an ethical or moral objection, or that you have experienced being with a man who escapes from intimacy through obsessive masturbation. For a man who is afraid to show up emotionally, it is far easier to have a sex toy at the end of his penis, than a real woman. (SO sad!)

This is not confined to one gender or another, however; it also holds true for women. It comes down to this: if you are using a sex toy as a substitute for any form of true intimacy, and to the exclusion of any human contact, then it is likely that ghantol's warning to steer clear of this person is validated. (Not because it is innately disgusting, however, that is your own closed minded value judgment)

If, however, the sex toys are used in the relationship as merely another form that love, intimacy and sexuality can express itself, then it is a healthy practice which can engender closeness, trust and variety, moving a couple’s sexuality forward, where it might have been stagnating. Not to mention the mind blowing orgasms that they can share.

Not all women feel the way you do, ghantol. My wife has bought me several of these kinds of items over the years for Christmas and Birthdays, and they are a somewhat small part of the way we express our sexuality in a loving, committed and healthy marriage. I prefer the touch of her skin any day, but it is also fun to play...

Don't be so quick to make your own uninvestigated sweeping moral prejudices and state them as facts. Sexuality is an intensely personal realm, and what is true for you might not be true for another. To make statements like you made are simply divisive and continue to breed an atmosphere of misogyny which supports all the predicable and tired clichés about men which have nothing to offer the healing process that sites like this one can support.

Guitarista · Joined: 15 Aug 2008 Posts: 121

I can assure you, everyone uses sex toys regardless of their gender.

I used to work in the Emergency Room.

All I will say here is that sometimes you have to be careful with sex toys....whether you're male, or female!

lol

JohnJSmith · Joined: 26 Apr 2009 Posts: 5

Men don't need a sex toy as much as perhaps Women do but that doesn't mean it is any more or less moral.

I think society is a funny thing, we are so used to the concept of women using vibrators that we just call that normal behaviour but when a guy does a similar thing he is a "pervert?" huh?

Maybe the issue here isn't your guy friend using sex toys but instead with your own confidence in the bedroom. If you aren't comfortable with him having fun then I dread to think what you yourself are missing out on.

AskAverageGuy · Joined: 12 Sep 2009 Posts: 19

to have a good sexual experience. I think it just enhances the experience they are having. It's like owmen who are pretty without makeup, but put on a little makeup to enhance the way they look.

Confident women in the bedroom are definitely a turn-on for guys, so instead of focusing so much on the sex toys, focus on getting your confidence up and rock his world!