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ghantol
Joined: 12 Jul 2008
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 Posted: Sat Jul 12, 2008 7:03 pm Post subject: He really degraded me during sex .....should i complain ?? |
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i was really attracted to this guy and i approached him a few times and he was giving mixed signals first but then one day he just took me out and had sex with me. although i didnt want to but he sort of convinced me and i couldnt say no bcos otherwise he wouldnt want to have a relationship and i was the one who walked upto him so i let him.
but he handled me badly. he just groped me and then stripped me and made laughed at my genitalia saying they were funny and hairy and after that he just stopped and pulled his pants back and said he would drop me home.
he ignored me after that and i am feeling degraded. its like he raped me. i want to tell this to someone. i want to file a case against him. is it possible since he co-erced me and degraded me. like rape or molestation |
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jaja7
Joined: 14 Jul 2008
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| Posted: Mon Jul 14, 2008 6:24 pm Post subject: ur kidding......right? |
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| You were willing to be intimate with this guy. He may have thought you looked better with your clothes on rather than off......... who knows I have a lot of guy friends and I know their thinkin.....But for you to claim rape or that he molested you is far fetched simply because u ad a choice in that...........my suggestion is MOVE ON........... let it go and find a guy who is a lil more mature |
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darksupanova
Joined: 15 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Fri Jul 18, 2008 2:26 pm Post subject: Shouldn't have sex with him he's a dick |
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You cant file a case against someone just because they were a jack ass during sex. Him laughing at the way your vagina looks is just weird...but its highly insulting. He is an ass! And you should just move on because the fact that he couldn't even ejaculate while having sex with you and that he ignored you after is highly offensive and it hurts believe me I know! But you have to move on babe.  |
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jh1981
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He sounds like a jerk to me. You deserve better!  |
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Tracey111
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| Posted: Mon Jul 21, 2008 6:17 pm Post subject: |
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First of all, He didn't JUST HAVE SEX with you....you allowed it to progress to that level. Don't play victim.
Second of all, set some clear boundaries, WITH YOURSELF. Decide how you want to be treated and stick to it! If the guy or guys don't like it, they are not the guy for you.
Third of all, most of us teach people how to treat us. If you want to be respected, respect yourself FIRST.
Fourth and last, this guy did not sexually assault you. You offerred 'up' for fear that he wouldn't want to have a relationship with you....he didn't want one anyway...he was just taking what you allowed him to take. Open your eyes to the reality of the situation and get accountable! Decide that you will NEVER be treated this way again! You deserve better but have to believe it FIRST>
Good Luck |
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DJ_MI
Joined: 16 Apr 2008
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It's obvious! He is GAY.... 100% gay. Probably he hasn't come out of the closet yet... but he will. Have you ever seen a real man refusing to have sex with a woman just because her genitallia is hairy? C' mon. A real man, would NEVER miss an opportunity for sex. He obviously noticed he wouldn't be able to have a hard-on so, in order to not look bad, he decided to blame you. ridiculous... Forget this man...
But just in case.... get a Brazilian wax..  |
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MenaLouise7
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| Posted: Thu Aug 07, 2008 10:10 pm Post subject: |
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| Well since you consented, its not rape. Just extremely RUDE of him and I can imagine hurtful to go through. Next time be more careful. |
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theonlyoneleft
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| Posted: Sat Aug 16, 2008 1:51 am Post subject: |
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| i'm so sorry about what happened.. but take it as a lesson and be careful, try not to let any guy get what they want. You deserve better hun, and you'll find a guy that will love you for who you are |
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diegogrl
Joined: 22 Oct 2008
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| Posted: Wed Oct 22, 2008 7:46 am Post subject: |
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| 2 WORDS FOR HIM -- BUH-BYE!!! |
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usmc8408
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| Posted: Mon Nov 03, 2008 10:54 pm Post subject: |
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you know it's girls like you that dick it all up for girls who actually get raped. feeling like a hooker, or feeling shameful because you did something you didn't want to do is NOT the same thing as some dude forcing you to have sex. learn the difference, and until you do, keep the word rape out of your vocabulary. there are actual victims out there who are not believed because girls like you throw that word rape around like it's casual conversation. so congratulate yourself, because every guy that reads your post will now, along with every other bullsh@t claim, second guess one of these poor girls who actually do get raped.
yay you!
i wound up on this site for bullsh@t reasons, so i'm going to call out each and every thing i read on here that is the same. maybe it will knock some sense back into some of you.
i am pretty impressed though at some of these responses that don't follow along with your crap ass claim.......so thanks for being women ladies! |
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ghantol
Joined: 12 Jul 2008
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| Posted: Tue Nov 11, 2008 10:43 am Post subject: |
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| DJ_MI wrote: | It's obvious! He is GAY.... 100% gay. Probably he hasn't come out of the closet yet... but he will. Have you ever seen a real man refusing to have sex with a woman just because her genitallia is hairy? C' mon. A real man, would NEVER miss an opportunity for sex. He obviously noticed he wouldn't be able to have a hard-on so, in order to not look bad, he decided to blame you. ridiculous... Forget this man...
But just in case.... get a Brazilian wax.. |
No he is not GAY.
he has been with other girls since. and never seen or heard about him being gay. |
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ryan85
Joined: 13 Nov 2008
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| Posted: Fri Nov 14, 2008 6:08 am Post subject: DJ_MI is just lying to you |
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he is not gay.
DJ_MI is just saying this to calm you that it was his homosexuality that made him reject you. so you dont feel there is something wrong with you.
be rational. he rejected you so what. you dont have to care about him. if he was not interested then why are you?
the hair was probably not the reason he didnt want to have sex with you. he just didnt feel sexually attracted to you in bed and made this silly excuse |
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aeris_
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um, actually, that is EXACTLY rape and all of you saying it's not need to revisit consent laws.
if you are COERCED into sex (although i didnt want to but he sort of convinced me and i couldnt say no) it is NOT considered valid consent. it has nothing to do with whether or not you could say 'no', consent is defined by many parameters which does NOT require the woman to literally say "no". CONSENT is needed, not a LACK of no.
unfortunately pressing charges is very very difficult to do in cases of rape. but don't let others tell you it wasn't and that it's your fault... it's ENTIRELY his fault as a RAPIST. you cannot be held responsible for his actions. |
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barton71
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| aeris_ wrote: | um, actually, that is EXACTLY rape and all of you saying it's not need to revisit consent laws.
if you are COERCED into sex (although i didnt want to but he sort of convinced me and i couldnt say no) it is NOT considered valid consent. it has nothing to do with whether or not you could say 'no', consent is defined by many parameters which does NOT require the woman to literally say "no". CONSENT is needed, not a LACK of no.
unfortunately pressing charges is very very difficult to do in cases of rape. but don't let others tell you it wasn't and that it's your fault... it's ENTIRELY his fault as a RAPIST. you cannot be held responsible for his actions. |
By no stretch of the imagination could this ever be considered rape, unless you live on the planet Feminazi, in which case you probably consider a guy looking at a girls ass, as she walks past, rape.
Ghantol never, at any point, said to the guy that she didn't want to have sex with him. She never protested. In fact, she encouraged him. It was reasonable for the guy to assume that she wanted to have sex with him. The fact the guy seems like a dick to you, is neither here nor there. Being a dick is not a crime. It could have been a lot worse. He could have screwed her and then dumped her. But he didn't. He refused to have sex with her and then offered to see her home safely. Granted the guy could have handled it better, by not pointing at laughing at her unkempt erogenous zone.
How about you offer the girl some advice on personal grooming, instead of filling her head with nonsense about "Almost Rape". http://www.encyclopediadramatica.com/Almost_rape |
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__penchant
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| aeris_ wrote: | | if you are COERCED into sex (although i didnt want to but he sort of convinced me and i couldnt say no) it is NOT considered valid consent. |
ok honey, you obviously dont know what coerced means..
and you purposely did not post the full sentence when you quoted her:
| ghantol wrote: | | although i didnt want to but he sort of convinced me and i couldnt say no bcos otherwise he wouldnt want to have a relationship and i was the one who walked upto him so i let him. |
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