He really degraded me during sex .....should i complain ??

ghantol · Joined: 12 Jul 2008 Posts: 11

i was really attracted to this guy and i approached him a few times and he was giving mixed signals first but then one day he just took me out and had sex with me. although i didnt want to but he sort of convinced me and i couldnt say no bcos otherwise he wouldnt want to have a relationship and i was the one who walked upto him so i let him.
but he handled me badly. he just groped me and then stripped me and made laughed at my genitalia saying they were funny and hairy and after that he just stopped and pulled his pants back and said he would drop me home.

he ignored me after that and i am feeling degraded. its like he raped me. i want to tell this to someone. i want to file a case against him. is it possible since he co-erced me and degraded me. like rape or molestation

jaja7 · Joined: 14 Jul 2008 Posts: 3

You were willing to be intimate with this guy. He may have thought you looked better with your clothes on rather than off......... who knows I have a lot of guy friends and I know their thinkin.....But for you to claim rape or that he molested you is far fetched simply because u ad a choice in that...........my suggestion is MOVE ON........... let it go and find a guy who is a lil more mature

darksupanova · Joined: 15 Nov 2007 Posts: 11

You cant file a case against someone just because they were a jack ass during sex. Him laughing at the way your vagina looks is just weird...but its highly insulting. He is an ass! And you should just move on because the fact that he couldn't even ejaculate while having sex with you and that he ignored you after is highly offensive and it hurts believe me I know! But you have to move on babe. Crying or Very sad

jh1981 · Joined: 21 Jul 2008 Posts: 1

He sounds like a jerk to me. You deserve better! Very Happy

Tracey111 · Joined: 07 Jul 2008 Posts: 2

First of all, He didn't JUST HAVE SEX with you....you allowed it to progress to that level. Don't play victim.
Second of all, set some clear boundaries, WITH YOURSELF. Decide how you want to be treated and stick to it! If the guy or guys don't like it, they are not the guy for you.
Third of all, most of us teach people how to treat us. If you want to be respected, respect yourself FIRST.
Fourth and last, this guy did not sexually assault you. You offerred 'up' for fear that he wouldn't want to have a relationship with you....he didn't want one anyway...he was just taking what you allowed him to take. Open your eyes to the reality of the situation and get accountable! Decide that you will NEVER be treated this way again! You deserve better but have to believe it FIRST>

Good Luck

DJ_MI · Joined: 16 Apr 2008 Posts: 10

It's obvious! He is GAY.... 100% gay. Probably he hasn't come out of the closet yet... but he will. Have you ever seen a real man refusing to have sex with a woman just because her genitallia is hairy? C' mon. A real man, would NEVER miss an opportunity for sex. He obviously noticed he wouldn't be able to have a hard-on so, in order to not look bad, he decided to blame you. ridiculous... Forget this man...

But just in case.... get a Brazilian wax.. Smile

MenaLouise7 · Joined: 30 May 2008 Posts: 1

Well since you consented, its not rape. Just extremely RUDE of him and I can imagine hurtful to go through. Next time be more careful.

theonlyoneleft · Joined: 04 Jun 2008 Posts: 4

i'm so sorry about what happened.. but take it as a lesson and be careful, try not to let any guy get what they want. You deserve better hun, and you'll find a guy that will love you for who you are

diegogrl · Joined: 22 Oct 2008 Posts: 1

2 WORDS FOR HIM -- BUH-BYE!!!

usmc8408 · Joined: 03 Nov 2008 Posts: 5

you know it's girls like you that dick it all up for girls who actually get raped. feeling like a hooker, or feeling shameful because you did something you didn't want to do is NOT the same thing as some dude forcing you to have sex. learn the difference, and until you do, keep the word rape out of your vocabulary. there are actual victims out there who are not believed because girls like you throw that word rape around like it's casual conversation. so congratulate yourself, because every guy that reads your post will now, along with every other bullsh@t claim, second guess one of these poor girls who actually do get raped.

yay you!

i wound up on this site for bullsh@t reasons, so i'm going to call out each and every thing i read on here that is the same. maybe it will knock some sense back into some of you.

i am pretty impressed though at some of these responses that don't follow along with your crap ass claim.......so thanks for being women ladies!

ghantol · Joined: 12 Jul 2008 Posts: 11

ryan85 · Joined: 13 Nov 2008 Posts: 12

he is not gay.

DJ_MI is just saying this to calm you that it was his homosexuality that made him reject you. so you dont feel there is something wrong with you.

be rational. he rejected you so what. you dont have to care about him. if he was not interested then why are you?

the hair was probably not the reason he didnt want to have sex with you. he just didnt feel sexually attracted to you in bed and made this silly excuse