He still keeps photos of his Ex!!

[miami1059]

I am in a serious relationship with a great guy. It has only been 3 months. I was being a lil nosey the last week and went thru his photos. He had a rediculous amount of old pictures of his ex's on computer! I was upset by it. He came home and I told him to delete them. He did, buuuuuut.....come to find out he has a copy of the CD at his other parent's place somewhere. He said "you can't erase my past. Maybe I want to look at those pics like 50 yrs from now. I did some traveling with them and stuff" . I flipped out when I heard this :/ I get super jelous sometimes.
He made it sound like he didn't want to permanently get rid of them. But how can he move forward with me if he wont let go of the past?? Then again we have only been together 3 months. Do I really have the right to put up such a big fuss over it??

[thisguysaloser]

Get over it and grow up!!! Do you remember what your ex's look like? Do you have memories of them? Can you erase that? No you can't. Who cares about a few pictures? Be happy that he's with you right now. If you keep acting like an insecure little girl after only 3 months...he'll move on. Hopefully he'll keep a few pics of you too.

[mealstrom]

Keep in mind that just because he's keeping old pictures doesn't mean he's still in love with her. I am a picture-aholic and so keep pretty much every picture I've ever taken or been given.

You've only been together for 3 months, which is a VERY short amount of time relationship-wise. I've made the mistake before of throwing away old pictures or old gifts for a girlfriend, only to have it not work out with her. Then I was left without my girlfriend and without items that might have had sentimental value to me.

If you're secure in your relationship then you shouldn't worry about him keeping old pictures. I can pretty much guarantee that what's going through his mind is "Wow, if she's freaking out about some old pictures then there's a good bet she's going to freak out about everything else too. Maybe she's too much drama for me."

Good luck!

[chemistryfox]

I say you're overreacting to this whole picture thing. I keep photos of my exes because there are good memories and they are part of my past. I would be worried if he keeps a photo of her as his desktop background or posted around his apartment/house/room.

[HauteCocoa]

get rid of his ass and don't make excuses for him. it doesn't mean he isn't an ok guy, but i went through the same exact thing...
my ex said he would delete their pics and contact info from Facebook and his phone and everything... although he kept talking about the one he had right before me and that was annoying as hell. come to find out none of it mattered- especially not his facade of being the perfect boyfriend (and in retrospect i still can't remember any glaring red flags that would have indicated such heartless behavior later)- because he had to have cheated on me during the time we were together. he was a police officer in the navy, a pathological liar, and a damn good actor. i am naturally cynical and fell for all his bullshit. he had to have cheated on me because i had seen his test results from when we first starting dating, then like a month later became intimate with him (not straight intercourse, but he and his sister told me he was sterile because her bff dated him for 4 years and never got pregnant and she was fertile...)
i was fine until the last month we dated and i returned home to get my FIRST gynecology exam THE DAY AFTER I LEFT (never wanted to go before because when i met him i was a VIRGIN). he even encouraged me to get the exam. i go and a week later find out i have chlamydia. i get hysterical, pissed off and when i confront him about it (he had just left for Bahrain) he says something dumb like you can get it from toiletseats and bedsheets- i don't sit on public seats, eww... i get so mad i retaliated in an immature manner b/c he was consistently immature with me, and broke up with him via Facebook. a month later i find out i'm pregnant. his sister is horrified that he wouldn't even talk to me about the std issue and kept ignoring my attempts at apology and contact, so she tried to help me. i decided to get an abortion although his dumbass tried to get me not too and told me he 'still loved me and wanted me next to him everyday of his life' when he found out i was pregnant, but never offered an apology or anything- actually said he got tested and DIDN'T have anything, which is a lie. i told him never to speak to me again. it's still very painful for me since i used to be religious AND that was my FIRST really serious relationship. just please don't go through any shit like i did, don't believe his BS, and don't ever feel sorry for him/make excuses for him. PEOPLE DON'T CHANGE- JUST THE SITUATIONS DO. so can his ass, honey because you can do better! sorry for the long reply, but learn from others' mistakes and good luck!

[tampa_girl]