Help

[2love]

I have been in a relationship for about 2 years. Before that I was in a very bad marriage for 11years, abuse and drugs lies...all the best stuff. So before we even started dating I warned him that I had tons of baggage when it came to honesty. I explained how important it was to me. He told me that he understood and that I was worth anything he would have to do. So since then I have found suggestive text messages on his cell. Twice, months apart with different girls, who he has promised were just "friends". Lost time where he couldn't account for where he had been, found profiles of his on dating sites, pictures of him at clubs with women when I didn't know he was there (and we were living together at the time)..there is so many times when I know he was lying but just can't prove it. And whenever I have told him that I can't deal with his lies, that I am leaving him, he cries and tells me that I can check up on him as much as I want because he deserves it for lying to me. I don't think that is a relationship, I want to be able to trust and love who I am with. I know that the best thing for me is to leave him and start fresh again, but it hurts so badly. He promises that he will never lie again. He tells me that he loves me so much. But I have a hard time believing him, if he loved me so much why does he lie? He is such a big part of me now, but can he change? And do I give him another chance?

[divatam]

First of all, you have to put your foot down I noitce with men if you give them a inch they will take a mile. you let them slide they will keep going. He has broken his trust with you and thier something about trust and us-women we need to have that to be secure in our relationships. Once u brea k or cross that path it is hard for us to trust even we lie to ourselves when that nagging inner voice is continuing to tell us that something is not right. I know one person that you can trust is (You). You are being emotionally abused and you dont have to stand for it. Now if you want to forgive him agian and try for another chance go ahead, but I warn you if you let it continue it only will get worser.

[square813]

first of all you have the proof which is pictures of him at a club and dating sites.

NO HE WONT CHANGE
NO DO NOT GIVE HIM ANOTHER CHANCE

come on girl you dont need this crap. you got out of one bad relationship and right into another. hes not a part of you. he fed you what you needed for him to get with you. if he knew you were vulnerable then you were easy pickings for him. and the crying yeah i love when guys cry especially when they get caught. please dont fall for it anymore.