How do you deal?

Hannah8907 · Joined: 12 Aug 2007 Posts: 0

I was with this person for 3 1/2 years. We broke up on mutual terms, and everything was great...Then my friend died, and three days later he decided to tell me that he cheated on me 3 times while we were together. He had sex with his ex, my brothers gf, and my best friend. His excuse was he doesnt know who he is, and he is trying to figure it out. Well long story short I was talking to him on the phone one night deciding how to nicely give him back his property, and he (now married) asked me what the chances were of him and I having sex when we did the property swap. I told him ZIP. and he got pissed. Anywho, we didnt talk for awhile, and I liked it that way. I still love him, and kinda miss him but I also know it will never work...He is now moving to the town I live in, and is living prolly 2 blocks away from me with his pregnant wife...How do you deal with seeing someone you once loved so deeply everyday with his pregnant wife...ugh I'm going to go nuts. It wouldnt be so bad, but his family still constantly calls, and tells me ""I'm part of the family""...GUYS SUCK

cautiousandwise · Joined: 10 Jul 2007 Posts: 8

For one, you tell the family to stop contacting yu. Tell them that as sad as it is, you do not feel like part of the family, not do you want to be part of the family. Explain that he cheated on you repeatedly and betrayed your trust. Change your telephone number and perhaps, you may have to move. As to him, perhaps knocking on his door while the wife is home, and explaining to him that you will have to inform his wife of his proposition if he doesn't cease all contact. I know it is rough, but you have to stand strong on this one, or you will suffer more and more...

LAPeep · Joined: 28 Mar 2007 Posts: 6

Think about it. Really. You don't love this man you love the man you want him to be. Or do you really love a man who cheated on you 3 times? Do you really love a man who cared so little for your health that he most likely gave you herpes or some other std. Get yourself check. You are not living in reality, girl. And moving to your town?? This is the ultimte insult. He thinks that you are so pathetic, with low self esteem, that as soon as he is close to you he will convince you to sleep with him. After all, his 9 month pregnant wife probably is not willing/able to have him stick it inside her right now. This guy is the lowest of them all. And, I'm sorry but if you are even considering talking to him I don't have any respect at all for you. What to do? Don't have anything to do with him. He will not take your seriously. I guarantee it. That's how little men like this think of their targets. You might mistake it for affection; it is not. It is a total disregard for you as a person and certainty that you will give him what HE wants. If he continues to call after you TELL him to leave you alone and put it in writing, then call the police. This is a life changing event coming your way. How you handle it will affect your life for many years to come.