How do you let go ?

Iwashismuffin · Joined: 13 Mar 2008 Posts: 2

Hi ladies i have been with this guy since i was 16 im now 18 and im so in love with him even now. But i found out hes not the person i really thought he was. He asked me to marry him and to have his babys. Basicly told me everything i wanted to hear. Come to find out this week i found out hes been doing nothing but like to me and calling phone sex girls. lied about a facebook account that he said he was single on. and my grandmother died last year and it was so hard on me. he was calling phone sex girl while i was at her funerule. I broke up wit him i just need to know how to let him go im trying but he keeps calling me and i try too no pick up the phone

catscalw · Joined: 15 Mar 2008 Posts: 126

LoVeStuCk21 · Joined: 08 Mar 2008 Posts: 6

i no it is hard i dated a guy through my whole high school career....

letting go isn't easy to tell you the truth...you feel like no one understands you and and you feel as if you are in a rain cloud all the time. my advice is dont be afraid to cry and show your feelings...holding them in could make you more depressed. you are still young and i know it is hard to see past this but believe me once you can defeat him you will be so proud of yourself and realize that you don't need anyone but yourself to make you happy...but you need to find your own way to let go..hang in there i promise it gets better...time is the best healer.... Wink

square813 · Joined: 25 Jul 2006 Posts: 246

its one of the most hardest things a person has to deal with and everyone is different but in the same sense the same. dont surpress your feelings if you want to cry do so, yell, throw stuff, get it out. my advice is stay busy

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craya07 · Joined: 28 Feb 2008 Posts: 5

I was in a situation similar to yours awhile ago. I was dating a charming, intelligent, repectful guy... or so I thought. He was my first love and I was head over heels for him. I was close to his family, and most of his friends. I was the same age you were and I thought he was THE ONE. We would talk about marriage, kids, and so forth. While I caught him cheating, and doing other things behind my back that I didn't approve of, but I still ended up staying with him. Well long story short I finally said my goodbye's. The reason I told you all this is because after I finally let him go it was so hard for me to stay away. I always thought about him, wanted to call him, and a few times the temptation was so overwhelming. I never did! I severed all ties and completley left! COLD TURKEY! It was the best thing I ever did for myself, and now, thinking back, I'm so proud of what I did. You really need to realize there are far better men out there that are capable of treating you so much better. The truth is, I found out about so many more devasting facts after I was already through with him. The things you know about this guy now, are probably not nearly as bad as the things you haven't found out yet. Stay away as hard as it may be, and trust me when I say you will get over him. Of course it will take some time, but soon you will find that just the thought of him will disgust you. Good Luck!