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[Ms Kimba]

Its not unheard of for a woman to pay on a date if that is what you decide before you go out but women should not get into a habit of ever paying when eating out. If the guy invites you out to dinner then he pays period.

[cautiousandwise]

The very first date I went on with my husband was dutch. Not because he asked me to or expected it, but because I wanted to. I didn't want to feel beholden to him. He was uncomfortable with it, but he let me. Later in our relationship, he told me that was what had made him want another date with me- It let him know that I was the kind of girl that would work side by side with him as his partner and for our future. He was right, and we have. Not to say we haven't had our ups and downs, and that we haven't had our financial problems. As it stands now, I have been a stay at home mom a few times, but I JUST got a part time job to help pay for two houses. He took care of me and the children for years, but when he needed some help to pay the bills, I stepped right up. Paying dutch lets a man know you are self sufficient, independent and capable. Don't pay dutch every time, but don't be afraid that he is a gold digger simply because he isn't rich. Don't be afraid to have 'rent a movie and stay in' dates. Be understanding that sometimes, money is tight, and it doesn't mean he doesn't want to spend time with you, it may just mean he can't afford to see you, if you are a spending kind of gal.

[Foundthebestman]

My man paid for the first date then and he pays every date we go on to this day. He wouldn't think of having me pay. I used to help pay and sure enough every time you start doing that they know that you'll do it again and again and again. You went on a date with this guy, see what he's made of by expecting him to pay. You don't need to persue him, he should be making the effort for you. Raise the bar.

[GPinkBunny]

Whoever asks who outthat's who pays. So if you ask him to coffee or bowling then you pay. If he asked you then he pays. If you want to be treated equal a relationship then don't be dependant on him to pay for everything. When you decide its time to get romantic why don't you get a hotel room for the weekend. Let it be your treat. Its ok to share power/control in a healthy relationship.

[mattg356]

I was raised, as a man, Always offer to pay. Even if it's hanging out as friend. The man should at least offer.