how do you stop having sex with a man you love?, how do you

[perfectlove]

I have been struggling with a situation I've been seeing a person for a very long time and he seems to hate me as much as I love him he has been all I think about for so long and a love to see him and be with him dive tried to go without talking to him knowing that when he was with me he cheated all the time and after that every woman he has been with he has cheated with at least me I try to stop having sex with him but I still love him and miss him when he is gone I know he is not good for me or anyone but when I try to let him go I feel like I'm dying

[toots2375]

Yes... I recommend MOVING and THERAPY. YOu have mental issues, and until they are addressed, you will continue on with your self destructive behavior. This man is only a result of you believing he is all you deserve. You have self esteem issues and issues with what you believe is a healthy male role model. Go get some therapy honey.

[Jasmine 57]

You need to get some self esteem. It seems like you feel you deserve to be treated like crap but why? Get some help to get your self esteem back and realize you deserve to be treated like a human being not a whore.

[warrior62503]

Take it from a sister that's been there and done that, jasmin and toots are telling you true. I understand how you feel, especially about the dying part, but you need to read what you wrote and listen to what you are saying. Nothing is going to change about this man. He is a cheater and a user and always will be. He will continue to use you as long as you let him, and believe me, he is using you. And all it's doing is hurting you, and entangling you in something that is destroying your self-esteem, self-respect and self-confidence. You are wasting valuable time with him, that should be used to heal yourself instead. You MUST distance yourself from him, and become healthy. Free yourself, get therapy, become involved in a worthy cause, surround yourself with only people that love you and treat you with respect. The website www.lovefraud.com has some advice on how to protect yourself from men like him. Good Luck.

[moondancer01]

Giving up a woman-hater like this man is extremely hard, because he has demeaned you for so long that you actually think you can't breathe without him. STOP! STOP BEING USED NOW! You have allowed yourself to be beaten down to the point of loosing all dignity. Refuse to see or talk to him. Stand up for yourself: you deserve so much more! Yes, you will feel like you are dying but be strong- the hurt will gradually go away and you will get your self-esteem back. I'll send a prayer your way- just stand tough, lady- you WILL get over him when you decide you really want to.

[secretdoor]

I totally understand where you are coming from. I'm going through the same thing too. And i feel like no one understands why i love him still. People can tell you what to do to get you to fall out of love with him, but only you know what will work for you. So dont feel too pressured.

[Valencia101]

I know what it feel like to love someone so much that it hurts deep down inside like it never did before. But you can get pass the pain. Heal yourself first, or he will be winning by causing you to go in a downward spiral. Don't let this pain define who you are, help it make you a better and stronger woman.

[Kaleolani]

You know he cheated on you which not only means you can not trust him but that he does not respect you. He did not respect you when you were together and he does not respect you now. He is treating like object, not a person,every time he has sex with you. He is using you. Thats not love. Everytime you have sex with him you are allowing him to disrespect you and you are not respecting yourself. Stop allowing him to treat you this way, stop talking to him, erase his number. Once you get him out of your life you can live a healthier and happier life. Love and respect yourself and you will attract a man who will love and respect you.