How Long Should You Wait Before Sleeping With a Guy?

[j pierre]

http://dontdatehimgirl.com/news_view/how-long-should-you-wait-before-sleeping-with-a-guy-286.html


this is so bullshit. this article is in the main stories on this website.
it says wait for atleast 6 months !!!

okay so what do you want the guy to do during that time....fuck whores ??? we all have needs.

who is writing this material... (apparently the average guy). i think its some die hard feminist old hag who never got laid.

[courtneyiscool]

his pants for 6 months while he's dating a girl? How about you try masturbation instead of whores like you're post says. You're obviously a guy that no woman would want to be with. I think it's more than appropriate for a woman to wait 6 months to sleep with a guy or else she might run into a guy like you who wants to make sure he gets into her panties before then, right?

Oh please! That's the problem. Guys can't keep it in their pants!

[j pierre]

i was being sarcastic with 'whores'

but think RATIONALLY. we ar eall human beings and we have needs. why wait 6 months for sex? why are these people making sex such a big deal. okay fine im not even going there thats a different issue altogether. you tell me what should a guy do to control his desires??

are you saying that during those 6 months of 'trial period' the guy should keep on having casual affairs ???? and one night stands ?? just like he was doing before the relationship started. do you favour such a situation with an OPEN-RELATIONSHIP period.... like "okay as soon as this relationship gets serious.... i will stop looking for sex elsewhere and by that time we'll start having sex anyways"

either you agree with such an OPEN RELATINSHP period OR you have sex with the guy after a few weeks.

oh wait...i forgot you people are also against men masturbating at porn (read the article on this site...how to stop your guy watching porn"
so why dont you cut off their dicks.

[j pierre]

on a different note....i just wanna know... why do some people specially some women make sex such a big deal. why do they make it such a huge STEP in life.

i cannot understand their hypocricy...when a women has a CRUSH on a HOT guy and is really attracted to him she will go upto him and have sex....the first thing.

but when the SAME woman is interested in a guy and sees him a good potential husband material she will keep depriving him of sex for months untill the relationsip gets serious.

why should men suffer bcos of these stupid tactics. if sex is really such a big step for you then try and make the HOT-GUY-YOU-HAVE-A-CRUSH-ON wait for 6 months !!!

[square813]

why does everything in your life revolve around sex. im a female and i have a high sex drive but it doesnt control me or the relationship ive been in for the past 2yrs. sex is great but you cant f**k 24 hours a day. so what your saying is if you go say 8 hrs without getting any you'll be curled up in a ball sweating, possibly vomitting because you havent had a fix.

ok heres a question since this post is titled how long to wait to sleep with a guy, and your saying it shouldnt be a big deal just do it. my question is this my hub died so should i have started having sex the next day or after i buried him or better yet 6 months after he died maybe i should have brought home 1 night stands to my 3 kids and tell them its ok to FUCK anytime you want because if you dont your not normal.

[j pierre]

ya and i had precisely your situation in mind when i wrote this topic.

firslty you dont start dating somone RIGHT AFTER your spouse has died or do you??? so why are you bringing sex in.

[square813]

first of all no i didnt it took me a couple of yrs to find someone. you got nerve j your the one bitching about why wait. and you dont even know me so you got alot of balls trying to write about my situation so unless your my family or one of my best friends who do know me and my Kids and what we went through back the fuck off. buts lets talk about you, since you cant control yourself for a couple of months are we all to assume your a minute man

[j pierre]

"ya and i had precisely your situation in mind when i wrote this topic"


im saying this sarcastically you idiot.
i mean i am NOT talking about a situation where someones spouse has died.
im just talking generally about a normal relationship.

why the hell did you have to talk about your situation just to prove me wrong??

[rosebuttons]

I think women should wait as long as she needs to wait for herself. If a guy doesn’t want to stick around then he can move on. I don’t agree with the 6 month rule that’s a long time. Every relationship is different. I feel as long as you’re in a healthy monogamous relationship its fine. It’s about self respect. There are a lot of guys out there who just want to get in your pants and move on and it’s about weaning those guys out.

[square813]

because you bitch to much about not putting out. and normal relationships people wait at least 2 months because that gives them time to know each other. and dont call me idiot shit for brains. because i know someone whos husband died and she was with someone else 2 wks later.

[courtneyiscool]

Your heart will tell you whether or not it's right. Women need to trust their intuition more. It's the reason God gave to us.

[Shey_bennett]

I'm kind of on both sides. I love my girlfriend very much. We waited 5 months before we did it. I had time to get to know her for her. Not just her for the sex. It was a really hard 5 months, but it was all worth it. I don't agree at all that a women should feel pressured to give it up right when the guy wants it. I think it should be a mutual decision. If a women tries to completely control the sex in the relationship by making a mandatory "Trial Period" as said earlier for 5 or 6 months she does not love the man. She wants a man that she can manipulate and completely control. But on the other hand, if a guy can keep it in his pants and control his urges for a women he loves, then the guys not worth it. I think it should be something that should be discussed. I think it is healthy to talk about sex, makes it not such an awkward subject. I will just happen when you are both ready.

[gingersnapd]

You're the guy we're all looking for...

I certainly don't agree with setting some kind of inflexible time limit on sex, but I sure want to know that the guy is interested in ME and not just getting into my pants. Just check out the profiles posted on here....thousands of men who are just interested in fucking as many women as possible.

The reality, J Pierre, is that a woman would like to be as sure as is humanly possible that she isn't going to be the victim of a hump-and-dump. For women, sex = relationship, for men, sex = sex. None of us can really help it...it's just biology. And, by the way, that hot guy she has a crush on, don't kid yourself....she wants a relationship with him, and she stupidly thinks that giving it up at the beginning is going to ensure that. It rarely works out that way, and after she's been used a few times, that's when the limit thing starts.

[catscalw]

I agree Shey,
It seems to me that there is a lot of differing opinions about this one. There are generational differences, and differences based on location and religon. I think that how long you wait to sleep with someone id highly personal, and doesn't really have all that much to do with geneder. I know quite a few single women who aren't interested in a long term relationship: they are clear about what they want and don't have a problem with going after it. My wife was confused when I hadn't become sexual with her after the fifth date...she thought I wasn't interested, or that she had landed in the "Friend" category.

[Bluebeast19]

ok fist of all j pierre asked what women think men should do to feed their desires or some bullshit like that. If he is a true man he will have self control and wait for the woman to be ready. Its only respect and honor that he would do that. If he doesn't want to wait then he isn't worth it. Communication obviously is the key with this too. Talk about it with your significant other. Yes all men and women have desires but they can be controlled. Its really not that hard. Do something to keep you busy if self-control isn't a strong point for you. Play sports or get a hobbie. Works for me. and it keeps you in great shape and expands your opportunities. =)