I know I just posted but....

[garf21097]

My husband and I have been married for about 8 years. I love him but I dont know how much longer I can put up with being second or third or even fourth. I don't understand him. He has to do everything for everybody in the world except me. He thinks I am suppose to understand that he is tired from running around and taking care of everyone else(his friends) and then I get whatever left over energy he has which is hardly any. He puts alot of effort into maintaining his friendships but not our marriage. I have to get angry for him to even listen to me. I had a fight with my husband today about sex. We have not spoken all day. We had a fight about sex last night and it escalated into other things this morning. I feel like he does not listen to me unless I get angry. Since I can remember he doesn't change or even attempt to do anyting about our marrigae unless I get very angry. If I say we don't spend enough time together, you need to help with the chores, you never listen to me and the worst one you put everthing and everyone before me. He doesn't listen when I say it calm when I'm not mad and want him to take me serious cause Im not yelling. He only pays attention when I yell. What is up with that? IF his friends, cousins, or anybody besides me he jumps but I can ask him for something and it is a chore. It is so bad I don't like asking him to do anything for me. I don't know what to do???? I feel like I am just here. The fight about sex was because he gets what he wants but I don't. Then his solution is ok we just wont have sex. How does that sound. I am so tired of his childish behavior. He says that I have changed I just think Ive grown up and he hasn't. I dont want to get a divorce cause my children will be devastated. I am just tired of having to get angry to get any kind of a response from him. House work is up to me and the kids and he does work and provide for us but that is not enough. I work and go to school and maintain the house and children. I just want some support. His friends are so important to him. I don't know if it is because I dont have any friends I dont understand. I just think even if I have friends my husband comes first and that is how I treat him. I do not understand this and don't know what to do about it. Advice Please.

[square813]

wow this reminds me of my marriage. well i did a silent protest. what i did was feed me and kids. kept our stuff clean and faked sleeping. oh and i didnt clean the house. he asked if something was wrong and i said now that you mentioned it yeah. well he wasnt happy at first but hey this family comes before all else. after that he did help more. this is very short version