IF A MAN WANTS YOU

[jiggaboo]

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition or spirit to save you from heartache. Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be. Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then HELL NO, you can't ""be friends."" A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don't stay because you think ""it ! will get better."" You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, Why would he treat you any differently?

Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.

Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are... even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more, nothing less. Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. ALL MEN ARE NOT DOGS. You s! should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.

You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage...deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.

Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right. Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always knows where you are, and you're always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.

Never move into his mother's house. Never co-sign for a man. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

Share this with other ladies.....You'll make someone SMILE, another RETHINK her choices, and another woman PREPARE. They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love! them and an entire lifetime to forget them.

[choco718]

i just read your message and what you said is so true because i am married but seperated for almost 3yrs. and its hard because you dont wanna let go but then you do and its like what do you do? this has got to be one of the most horrific things that i have ever been through in my life and to be honest im sick of holding on but im scared to move forward i am trapped mentally and him telling me one thing just to make me feel good at the time then me finding out another is driving me crazy we just have so much to work out if we stay together but anyway thank you so much that was right on time for me.

[jaymn]

I say yay! awesome advice. Very smart!!!

[Schweinstein1982]

i've never read so much uneducated crap in my lifetime. HA HA HA.

[Femme249]

Thank you. This is just what I need to read today!

[cache0256]

Jiggaboo, you are right on point.

[Forever_Summer]

Best advice ever....and even when you know it, it's hard to follow when you meet a certain guy. Takes a lot of courage and self love to walk away and know you deserve (and will get) more. Thanks for visual slap/reminder; very timely and validating for me personally. K