Im so sad

[leecy]

I need to be more grown up though, Im 35 and Im coping like a teenager.

My husband of 2 years and partner of 7 has left me for someone else. And what hurts the most is that he never gave me a chance to help heal our marriage.

I was so stupid! Although I met him after he split with his last long term girlfriend he had cheated on her with 3 women. He gave me some story about how they grew apart, she didnt need him etc to justify why he cheated on her and as I didnt know him then I just fell for his story now Im the one who has been cheated on.

He didnt even instigate the split, I made him lunch one day and sat him down to discuss our issues - they were things we could have fixed because even now he says Im his best friend and soul mate but he said he just didnt want to try!

I suspected he was chasing another girl but he just denied it and made me out to be neurotic and in the end it was true so I didnt even have the facts to work with. I gave him space because I thought he was thinking about our future not so he could work on his new relationship