Lying to GF about age.

[jd0729]

Hello all,

My name is John D and recently someone wrote a profile on me here. I think that maybe an explanation is in order.

I met this girl who is much younger than me. I had my age posted on FB or myspace as 37. She ASSUMED that is how old I was. I asked her once "do you know how old I am?" She stated "somewhere in your middle or upper thirties. But it doesnt matter anyway." So I rolled with it and never cleared it up. Yes, basically it was lying if i didnt! I admit that - I am guilty as charged. I have had women lie to me numerous times (come on... some of you do it) LOL

Well, during our relationship, we had little arguments over stupid shit. Mostly because they were handled via text messages. (Bad move) The first one started because she was texting someone and when I asked if that was her mom, she stated "No, it was just some guy I use to fuck!" It wasnt the fact that she was texting a guy... it was the way she said it! It bothered and we argued over that.

The next argument started over another text that she sent TO ME by accident. She was planning on meeting an "old friend". The guy stated that he cant let his gf know they were meeting and he was coming from over 1 1/2 hrs away for "coffee" LOL I asked her about it and she said they use to like each other and they never slept together. I said, "well why does he have to hide it from his gf? Do you think he wants to get with you?" She said, "Isn't that whats on all guys minds? Probably but I wont sleep wIth him" Hmmmm... If he is traveling that far behind his gf's back with that in mind... why even meet him? Just set it straight now and see how he acts. We argued over that. It wasnt that I dont trust her... It was the fact that she knows that is what he is coming for... if it upset me and he expects that.. why even bother? I wouldn't!

Oh, during arguments we both said stupid shit to each other. I told her that I didnt think she meant what she said, and the same for me... I didnt mean it.

She started getting very cold. No affection... less texts and communication.. etc.. so I figured this is on its way out the door, but i tried. I was going to break up with her and her friend convinced me not to... just give it time.

I was always a giver... little surprises. I would show up at her work and throws dozens of rose pedals on her car with a card and balloons... stuff like that FOR NO REASON. i did give gifts as "make up" gifts once or twice but that is not why I did it most of the time. Once, in NYC she just mentioned that she was never in a limo. As we left the restaurant, I hired one for a half hour just so she could see what it was like. i just loved to see her smile.

One day, she was sick and I decided that maybe i could relieve some of her stress and sickness. I bought a gift bag and put in a can of soup, tissues, medicine, flowers, and a dozen mylar balloons and tried to deliver them to her house. i know her brother doesnt like me so when I saw him at the door, I jumped back in my car and let the flower shop deliver them. I didnt want him to start giving her a hard time again. WELL, she thanked me by breaking up with me!! Caught me so off guard! Then she just shut the door on me completely.

I sent email after email.... text after text... and things got worse and worse.

She said that she found out that I had a "criminal record" I told her prior that I got arrested for some things and what they were. Once, one of my employees left paraphernalia in my work truck and when I got pulled over the police found it and charged me with it. My employee never fessed up to the authorities and I took the fall for it. Around the same time, someone that borrowed alot of my equipment wouldn't return it to me.I went to the police and they told me it was a civil matter. So I decided to take it back on my own. I went into his garage/store and took it back! Well, I got caught and charged with Burglary. All this went to court and I received probation. It was never a secret and I told her stories of all this. But I guess it was another reason to throw into my face.She said I am an Alcoholic & Drug Addict. Both are not true. I dont even drink and the drug PARAPHERNALIA was not mine.

My son loved her 2 yr old and her very much. This affected him because they were getting close. Her son would sometimes call me dada. I was falling for her and accepted that she came with alot of baggage. Dog, son, work & school and this distrust for men. She would say, "How can u fall in love with someone in 3 months?" I dont know!!! I wish I did.

Now its gotten out of control. She is blaming me for everything and saying how bad the relationship was LOL We both know that is a lie. But, so be it!

I have moved on but she thinks I havent. I have been dating but find myself comparing them to her. That sucks! Sh thinks I am sitting home trying to figure out what she is up to. IM NOT! Im living my life with my son.t rying to forget her. We could never forget those we had in our life. I think she wants to hate me so its easier for her. Also, by using my age and so called "criminal record" LOL against me. I never hurt anyone and I dont hide the fact that I got in trouble. I learned from it and that is whats important. I treated her very good and she seems to forget that and only remember the arguments, which I understand is common.

I wanted to stay friends with her but I can see that will never happen. I have this expensive toy that she wanted to get her son for his B Day and I am stuck with it.

What is the best way to move on? I cant convince her that I am not "checking up" on her. i really dont care what she is doing. But she thinks i am nuts or something! maybe I am... I stayed with her for a few months. Do I move? What do I do? I dont want her thinking I am checking on her or if i care who she is with. I wish her all the luck in the world. I dont hate her even though she hates me! She is very Christian ya know LOL I hope she finds happiness in life... but the way she looks at men or what she thinks they are only good for... affects the way she acts towards them. I hope someone can overlook that and the fact that she comes with alot of baggage.