Married Peoples' Opinions Needed: What Can I Expect?

[Orion23]

I am engaged to the best woman I have ever known. We have a great relationship and it's weird how great everything is for us (feel free to vomit at anytime). We argue like normal people so I am not saying that we are perfect.

My issue is that I am sure that most engaged people felt the same way that we do right now. Mind you, I do not have cold feet. I would marry her today if we did not already have plans (and money) in place. I expect what we have to become even better as we live our married lives together. I cannot see us NOT having a great life together. So, my question is this, does what I expect actually exist? Can this feeling and bond strengthen or I am delusional? I mean, the divorce statistics indicate that most people see that bond lessen, not increase.

[rosebuttons]

the bond doesnt lessen it's the lack of communication that lessens. If you have great communication between you this will for sure strengthen the bond. I have a couple of friends that have been married for over 20 years and they both told me the same thing "always, always communicate."

[square813]

definitely communicate thats the biggest piece to a successful marriage. if you look at married couples that are open with each other youll see a happy couple. it only lessens if you let it. dont worry about stats. when i got married they said your sex life decreased well we proved that to be a lie. you have to look to yourselves not what stats say

[Orion23]

I feel both of your points, square813 and rosebuttons. And, i am not worried about the stats. I just feel like EVERY engaged couple probably felt like we do and things broke bad at some point. But, when I look at us, I just can't imagine us suffering the fate of many married couples. We communicate well and we are very open with each other. Again, I just want to gauge what is a realistic expectation. But, I figure that depends upon us.

[square813]

i know im not giving you anything solid. the only thing i can tell you is do what feels right to you two. marriage isnt a competition and its not the end of the world. my hub and i tried doing ours the way our other married friends were. that made us miserable so we was just ourselves. needless to say everyone i know that was married back then are divorced. if you two are fine now then the only thing that should change is her last name. lol.