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MysteriousLurker
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| The don't give money "thing" applies to new relationships only. If the guy has no job, but is capable of working then a woman shouldn't support him. As for women remaining financially independant, I believe it is essential. I prefer financially independant women for one reason alone: I know they are with me because they *want* to be and not because they want something from me. Of course, I am referring to a new relationship here also. As the relationship and trust develops, finances should be less important. |
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MysteriousLurker
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| Posted: Mon Oct 13, 2008 1:01 am Post subject: Re: The perspective from my age |
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| Guitarista wrote: | | Imagine someone there for you every day...to help you grow, to challenge you when you are wrong, to support and to love you . I cannot imagine anything worth more and to me, any sacrifice made would be inconsequential if I could find that for myself. |
Good luck. I've been looking my entire life...  |
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Guitarista
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| Posted: Mon Oct 13, 2008 1:04 am Post subject: Inside |
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You have to look INSIDE, Lurker.
It's an inside job.
Also, it is work, even once you find the person. You have to be willing to work and to feel things that are sometimes uncomfortable. You can't keep running away.
But it is the only thing worth doing....
The close relationship is the thing that challenges us the most, and makes us grow. That is the key to happiness.
When things don't go right, you have to do more than just see what is wrong with the other person...you must ask, what did I do to create the distance between us? And you must be willing to talk it through.
Of course, for this, you need someone who's willing to listen.
But it does happen. I have seen it.
So I haven't given up, yet. |
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MysteriousLurker
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| Posted: Mon Oct 13, 2008 1:05 am Post subject: |
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Thank you! 43 actually. 
Some of my views on support, etc. are likely a bit antiquated and i realize this. Sometimes, I find that a bit of self-analysis is in order to keep myself in check. |
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MysteriousLurker
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| Posted: Mon Oct 13, 2008 1:08 am Post subject: |
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| Oh, my name is Charles, BTW. |
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Guitarista
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| Posted: Mon Oct 13, 2008 1:09 am Post subject: Still young at 43. |
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Well, you're still very young and you've got some time.
But self-analysis is always a pretty good tool to have around....just don't be too hard on yourself.
It's a journey, isn't it? |
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Guitarista
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| Posted: Mon Oct 13, 2008 1:10 am Post subject: Nice to meet you |
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Hey,Charles.
I'm Pat.
Nice to meet you. |
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MysteriousLurker
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| Posted: Mon Oct 13, 2008 4:48 am Post subject: |
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| Nice to meet you too, Pat. |
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Humanity2008
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| Posted: Mon Oct 13, 2008 7:38 pm Post subject: Why A Site Like This? |
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Hello Mysterious,
Situations can get pretty bad with these guys. I just typed "Stratsteve", Steve John Krantz's username on the Internet and he showed up in many,many places. You never new who is reading about you on the Internet. In today's world, employers are checking to see if individuals are showing up on the Internet. Some you would think, especially older men would have the wisdom and integrity to deal with women or society. Or have some ethics about their behavior. I'm no angel, but I would never engage in some of these things these men have done. Read my blog. It's the only way I had to get closure. I think if these people would have at least faced the people (men or women), they hurt, a site like this one would not exist.
www.justperfectinLA.blogspot.com |
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courtneyiscool
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| Posted: Mon Oct 13, 2008 8:28 pm Post subject: What is amazing to me is that men have a problem with a |
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woman they dated talking to other women about what happened in the relationship. DDHG is not just for women to talk about the guys who did them wrong, there are plenty of posts of guys who have gotten raves for being kind and generous.
So what's the problem? Are men just going to continue to say that the site is unfair to them, slander, etc. when they know fully well that the site is protected from liability for third-party comments, i.e. the ones posted by the women who use the site, by the Communications Decency Act. It's a federal law for Pete's sake!
So why are men so up in arms? Because they don't want to get called out for their behavior? The voices of the many women who visit this site every day is much stronger than the cries of foul from men who want to behave a certain way in a dating relationship, but then don't want to take responsibility for their actions.
Instead of railing about the existence of this site, guys, why don't you just learn how to behave properly when you're in a relationship. Don't cheat, lie or steal. Instead, treat the woman you're with with decency and diginity. That will go a long way in not having a negative profile about you on the site. And to the guys that are on here for being awesome, thanks and keep up the good work. Hopefully, you'll find a great woman to have a relationship with one day.
That's it, end of my rant. I just really believe in this site and its mission. What do you gals think? |
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Guitarista
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| Posted: Mon Oct 13, 2008 10:06 pm Post subject: Okay with me |
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The site's fine with me, too.
Anyplace a woman can go for the closure she needs is both necessary and good.
I think Lurker is okay with that. |
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MysteriousLurker
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| Posted: Tue Oct 14, 2008 12:02 am Post subject: |
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| I'm just fine with *anything* that helps these women find closure. The nice part about being honest is that I don't have to worry about having my name splattered over sites like this. The only ones crying foul are the ones who have something to worry about. |
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MysteriousLurker
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| Posted: Tue Oct 14, 2008 12:03 am Post subject: |
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| I actually found this site from a link on Literotica.com. I had no idea that such sites even existed. |
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Guitarista
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| Posted: Tue Oct 14, 2008 12:19 am Post subject: An eyeful??? |
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Liteerotica, huh?
Woo woo, Lurker!
Hotsy totsy!
Tell me more!
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MysteriousLurker
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| Posted: Tue Oct 14, 2008 4:07 am Post subject: |
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I had an account on Lit around 2 years ago and I haven't been back until i stopped in last week. I saw a post about this place on their General Board and because the post was negative (like most on Lit tend to be) I decided to check it out for myself.
Anything that is hated sooo much by the Literotica trolls can't be all bad.... |
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