Sex questions. ;D

[xxmusicfreakxx]

My boyfriend and I have only been having sex since February 16, 2008. He is 17 and I am nearly 16. The sex is really hot and I've always enjoyed it. I just have a couple questions.

1. His tongue is short. It's hard for him to eat me out (other than licking my clit) and his tongue will cramp up. Any solutions for that?

2. Last time we had sex, it hurt super bad. We were doing it doggie style and it started hurting really bad. It wasn't because of friction or anything, but it felt like he was hitting something. I'm thinking it was my cervix. I think that position is really hot. Is there any way to avoid that pain? We've done it multiple times that way and that pain only happened once.

3. I would love to try some new sex positions and surprise him with them. Got any ideas?

4. He and I have talked about some 'fantasies' to act out. Any suggestions & ideas on how to act them out?

5. Last question, what are some simple but sexy things we could buy from Spencer's or something like that? Like whipped cream? Edible body paint? Remember, he's only 17! ;D

[shellyk71]

Oh sweetie. First off I don't think you should be having sex to begin with. But that aside...seeing as how you are so young I wouldn't jump into anything just yet. I know there are a lot of things out there to aide in the enhancement of sex but remember this, it's like a drug. You start out taking a little and it gets you high, when it stops working you take more or add something to it and then when that stops working and forth and so on. You don't want to burn out just yet. There will come a time when "regular" sex will become mundane and it never should. Sex isn't about orgasm or heights of pleasure, it's about sharing a part of yourself with the person you are with. If you try to add to that you will be left wanting. Take it easy, take it slow.

[MissPrissy7]

WTF your ass is too grown! Why are you on this message board asking these damn questing and your barely 16 sexing a young ass 17 year old!.... my advice to U is SLOW DOWN Sex is going to be there... what is the rush to be a top freak at your age? Do you want a bad reputation? Do you want to get to experience everything now so when your older NOTHING will be fresh and new to you?

All I can say is I hope you are protecting your self because STDs are real! And some are 4 life. Babies are no joke either!

Talk to your mother or a school counselor you have all of these QUESTIONS! Because you have NO IDEA what you are doing and just need to STOP until you are more mature!

[brichelle]

first and foremost, i would like to say..that i feel completely offended when people say that when it comes to sex,teenagers have no idea what they are doing. i can proudly say that i know EXACTLY what i'm doing, and most younger ladies do more,and have a healthier sex lives than older,but that aside..i honestly believe that as a teenager,we SHOULD wait,but what i mentioned before was because i'm 17..and i didn't wait. i try to convince others to do so,but seeing as how you already are sexually active,i might as well help you out a little bit. i've had problems with my stomach hurting while my boyfriend of nearly 3 years was hitting it from the back. and as silly as it sounds, come to find out, it was purely that he was "filling up" my stomach,and therefore my intestines were squished. simply put: he is more than likely ramming against your colon. that happens to a lot of girls, i've found. and as in new sex positions. you can pretty much make your own up. all different ways. you just have to be open and willing to do WHATEVER. as for his tongue,it's not like you can MAGICALLY make his tongue longer,but there are like vibrating tongue toppers that he can put ON his tongue,which brings me to the sex toy question. there are PLENTY of things you can buy at sex shops and spencers, or even the grocery store. WHIPPED CREME,CHOCOLATE BODY PAINT,VIBRATORS,PORN,but i definitely wouldn't advise you to buy the edible underwear or anything like that..they are truly disgusting. and fantasies..it seems to me MAYBE you shouldn't be having sex.it is possibly to STOP. because you are asking some pretty naive questions. "how do we act out fantasies","what sex toys can we buy"? they are YOUR fantasies, you act them out the WAY you want them.and you can buy any toy you want. sex is all about being in sync,having fun,and taking care of each other. but you really do have to be emotionally,physically,and mentally ready. i wish you the best of luck!

[MissPrissy7]

One thing I learned when I was YOUNGER is to never be offended by something not pertaining to you especially if it’s not true but being directed towards you…. So why are you offended about being a teen that is sexually active if you truly believe you are ready and are making the correct decision?

& I’m not sure what kind of household you grew/ are growing up in where teens have “healthier” sex lives then grown adults…. Don’t you have to sneak around & worry about a tarnished reputation? Don’t you have a CURFEW! lol

Half of the advice you gave to the little girl about sexual positions was incorrect anyway. “he is more than likely ramming against your colon” “ he was "filling up" my stomach,and therefore my intestines were squished”

Wow you should be very proud of yourself …. The little girl is having pain during sex because her guy friend is im sure being too rough and worrying solely about himself and not her pleasure at all I mean he is 16!

Just because you’re a teen having sex does not mean you know what you’re doing. I’ve worked with teens my entire career and was actually in the delivery room with a 15 y/o in labor yesterday crying her head off and sucking her thumb (with not BF in sight mind you). Sex brings in a truck load of other responsibilities and emotions that can sometime be very hard to deal with. If you read up on the board you’ll see half of the grown women on here have a difficult time dealing with men, sex, break ups, unplanned pregnancy, and worst of all disease.

Sex is not a GAME and like you currently are I once was a TEEN so I have been there and I know how kids your age are and the mind set. Trust me when I say you’re not ready but I encourage you to live your life, make mistakes, and grow from them. I guarantee you 5-10 years from now or better yet when your grown raising teenagers you will be singing a totally different song.

Good luck and remember condoms are your fiend…lol

[square813]

im saying you guys should wait. im 37 and yes sex was fun when i was a teen and my 20s but i also married that guy. the only thing i can say is when your my age its better.

MissPrissy preach on they need it. it pisses me off when little kids want to act grown. you want to be a big then be a role model for someone thats fullfilling

[MissPrissy7]

Lol @ Preach on! Girl I’m trying to school these little girls… life is very short they need to enjoy their youth (I would LOVE to relive some* of my college years and not have to be concerned about working everyday and paying never ending bills)…. So many of them are in a rush to be BIG & do big girl things…. Like I tell the teens I work with Sex is not going ANYWHERE!

They need to be on a Seventeen magazine message board with this hoopla or better yet http://www.plannedparenthood.org/ !

[ex-mrssmith]

Speak on and speak out!! My fellow sistas! Yes sweetheart you are too young to be so concerned about sex. I'll let you in on a little secret( sex ain't goin now where) you have the rest of your life get refocused on a thing called education and sit your lil hot tail down somewhere before you end up a mother before you are ready to be one. or end up with an std as permanent luggage.

[square813]

thats what i mean you can have fun without running around and worrying about stds and pregnancies. thats what i tell my daughter enjoy being young because before long you have bills. lol

[TheHeartbreaker]

OP, don't listen to them. You seem pretty smart, and intelligent enough to realize that even at that age, sex can be enjoyable as long as you are safe. I'm almost positive that you're smarter about sex than at least half of the older girls who post on these boards (some of them truly do amaze me with their questions), and at least are in a healthy and loving relationship where you can trust the guy. I know, just because you're young doesn't mean you're clueless -- I've been there, and I hope you didn't feel too badly about being attacked up there! haha

To answer your questions..

1. Eating a girl out is not all about stuffing your tongue in a vagina. There are so many other techniques that definitely do not involve the length of your tongue at all! I'm not sure about the policy on outside linking here (gotta read up on the rules, haha) but I will tell you that on a certain porn site (similar to YouTube), there is a very popular tutorial on this. PM for more details, if that's allowed.

2. If you haven't felt any pain in this position since, I wouldn't worry about it.. it was probably a bad angle, or maybe he was hitting your cervix. If it happens again, suggest that he slow down or perhaps not go so deeply.. and if it keeps happening regardless, switch positions and maybe ask a doctor in the future.

3. The Internet is a wonderful source.. use it!! There are so many mind-boggling things out there, I guarantee it. There's also an expansive section on this in Barnes & Noble, hahah.

4. Well, it kind of depends here, haha. Dressing up will help, I'm sure. Not too experienced in this field.. sorry!

5. Handcuffs. I think food is a fuzzy area, because it gets really sticky.. but the shower is also a nice place to experiment (bathtub as well, if you have one).


Have fun, and don't forget to be safe (prove all the "you're-too-young!" people wrong!). (;

[square813]

im curious as to whether you would tell your own daughter what your telling this little girl. it doesnt matter how smart she is. shes still a kid. im very open with my daughter and i know for a fact i wouldnt say honey tell him to do this. people who give advice like you should also be made to help them pay/raise a kid that she will have soon.

[catscalw]

xxmusicfreakxx-
I consider myself to be pretty liberal, and generally would agree with the statement that most people have a judgment about teenagers having sex too young. I would usually say that these people are more conservative than i, and that they are projecting their values on somebody else.

In your case, though, i think I have to agree with the ladies above. There is a sense of uneasy maturity to your inquiry, which makes me wonder just how you became so sexually active at such a young age. I sincerley hope you haven't had anything abusive happen to you in the past, and that you can ease up and enjoy being a teenager, as tough as that can be. You will wake up in a day or two, and you will be an adult, and will be wondering why you were in such a hurry to grow up so fast. Youth doesn't last. Savor it, in all it's confusing and uncertain glory, little sister.

[lady_jane]

I think you must watch the film which named "13" ..I m sure when you read my post you will say "what stupid people, I m not like you, I m just sexy and smart girl. I just wanna have fun with my boy. Even I m not 13, silly lady_jane" I know you think in this way, because I was 16 just 2 years ago.

You have sex already, nobody can blame you. dont be regretful,dont think your faults too much. BUT I suggest to you to be careful. you have no need many time, just when you will be 18 you can understand that you made a mistake. this mistake is NOT "have sex". but you are going too fast I really shocked when I was reading your post. sex is really like drugs, if you DONT be careful, you LOST your pure and nice life in jerk. you know, sex is so enjoyable BUT IF YOUR EYES ARE NOT WIDE, sex can be really painful experience for you.

I know, you hate hearing that but it's true definitely. "YOUR EYES ARE NOT WIDE YET, BECAUSE YOU ARE JUST 16"

Believe this experienced people, please. enjoy and have nice days with your boyfriend BUT be careful and think your future.

good luck pretty girl

[Milysmic]

I agree with most of the women in saying you sound a bit immature to be having sex. It hurts b/c he doesn't know what he's doing..duh. Oh and if you go to spencers for sex aids...Obviously you are too young.