She cheated with my man and skipped town

[chris artist]

...but I found her.

It seems my story continues. Recently I had heard that the C**T who slept with my man last year has fled the state of CALFORNIA for beautiful downtown ALBUQUERQUE, NEW MEXICO. It appears that she may have transferred there from her ANAHEIM, CA Parts Planner position at NORTHRUP GRUMAN. There is a facility in ALBUQUERQUE, NM.

She was known to me as JUDY A RIFFLE of GARDENA, CA (CALIFORNIA) but apparently is originally from NEW MEXICO and has returned there now using her original name of JUDY ANNETTE AGUILAR. She may have originally been from either ESPAGNOLA or HERNANDEZ, NM (NEW MEXICO). She also appears to be using another of her aliases by using her first married name of JUDY GURULE with or without her middle initial of JUDY A GURULE.

So it appears that she may have left her 2nd husband BOB RIFFLE AKA ROBERT RAYMOND RIFFLE originally form HESPERIA, CA CALIFORNIA but still listed in the GARDENA, CA white pages .


For those of you who don't know my story I'm tracking the names she uses because I want to ensure when people google her name this post as well as others are located so they know who they are dealing with.

Here's a synopsis of my story but feel free to look at my other posts or just google her name but add Gardena or you will find all sorts of Judy's that aren't this b**CH if you want more details.

Anyway her friends JOSH M THOMASON AND JYME ESTRADA MACIAS THOMASON of La Palma, CA helped her cheat with my boyfriend TODD JOHNSON while still married to her husband BOB.

JUDY AGUILAR RIFFLE and JYME THOMASON are/were very good friends. JOSH THOMASON is/was probably the best friend of my boyfriend TODD. Todd is, in fact, the godfather to their youngest child. Last year, after Todd and I had been dating for a long time (8mos dating but knew each other for over 2 years) I met the infamous J & J. They decided after meeting me once for about a 3 hour period that they didn't like me and within a week had invited JUDY and themselves over to Todd's apartment in Santa Ana, CA. Judy had just had FAKE TITS installed and was happy to show them off. Rumor has it that she got them to help her in her COUGAR hunts. She apparently sleeps around quite a bit. Anyway, The flirting ensued and within a week Judy had gotten all Todd's contact information from Jyme (without Jyme asking Todd if it was ok) and began to email and call Todd. Todd had wanted to "do her" since J & J got married because JUDY AGUILAR GURULE had gotten smashed and thru herself at him with husband BOB RIFFLE watching. So J & J thought it a great idea to set up their MARRIED friend JUDY RIFFLE with their committed friend TODD JOHNSON because they didn't like me, knew both JUDY AND TODD had commented about F**KING eachother and "if it worked out" it would be great for the THOMASON'S. TODD began F**KING Judy Feb 15, 2007 at his apartment, hotels near her work at Northrup Gruman and near her home as well as in the bed she shared with her husband. The THOMASON'S advised both JUDY AND TODD to lie to me and BOB. It's one thing to kept the secret from me, a stranger to them, but they were also keeping the lie from someone they knew alot longer - JUDY'S HUSBAND ROBERT. I sensed something was going on but couldn't put my finger on it and since I had no reason to suspect TODD was cheating, I didn't even consider it. However, I did meet JUDY once at Josh's birthday party in MARCH 2007. (Yes Todd invited me to be there knowing we would both be there.) All of them JOSH, JYME, JUDY and TODD all knew about their affair and I, of course, was the fool who didn't. I could feel the hatred in the room and even asked TODD point blank if he was sleeping with JUDY because no one hates a stranger that much. He lied to my face and so did they all. I already knew the THOMASON'S didn't like me from the month prior when I'd first met them but the hatred was even more apparent at this event. Little did I know the actual level of hatred and direction manipulation these people were all capable of.

Todd was seemingly having the best time of his EGO life F**KING Judy and me, sometimes on the very same day. Within a month of them F**KING, Judy began pressuring Todd to leave me and be with her. She wanted him to help take care of her and her youngest grandchild from her teenage daugher MONICA GURULE. Please, 44 and with a grandchild what does that tell you - generational teenage pregnancies! (The records indicate she has 8 GC'S now.) According to Todd, he was only interested in F**KING her and the fact that she was a screamer and a squirter was enticing as well. He kept telling her that he wanted to be with me but that I wasn't available as much as he wanted. ( I lived further away) The truth is that both our marriages had ended within the last year and I wanted to take it slow and wouldn't commit. We had been friends for a long time and I didn't want to jeopardize that while trying to create a more intimate relationship with him.
JUDY AGUILAR went so far in her manipulations that she decided to leave her husband BOB and that's when the pressure really began. She started telling him how much in love she was with him. He had to repeatedly tell her that the only reason he was with her was for the mid-week or week-end F**K when I wasn't around. She even went so far as to try and find them a place for them to live in together. He kept telling her NO and watched while her natural destructive behaviors took over. Apparently, she has always had a spending problem and as soon as she moved out she began to spend lots of money, first on new furniture and then a new car, all the while complaining that she had no money even on a Northrup Gruman Parts Planner salary!!! This is a woman who bought her NEW TITS ON LAY-AWAY!!! Even after she got her own place she pushed Todd until he became brutal and told her that he was in love with me and was only F**KING her because she was an obliging "hole". Not only did they have nothing in common because she can't really hold an intellectual conversation but she was/is old and the sex was getting old as well. He stopped F**KING her in JUNE 2007.
JOSH AND JYME were of no help and washed their hands of the whole affair. (And we all know if it had worked they would be the first "high-fiving" eachother.) Of course, their gamble didn't pay off. Not only, did they underestimate me, they overestimated their pals. All the friendships are now very strained. Judy apparently had reconciled with her unsuspecting husband because she couldn't hack taking care of herself and her manipulations didn't work on Todd. (Current evidence to the contrary - AGUILAR, ALBUQUERQUE, NM) Allegedly, JYME no longer really talks to her. I imagine it's because she also thinks that JUDY is pathetic. JOSH has stood by his hatred of me (Confident women must intimidate him) and has badmouthed me all along to TODD. His latest tactic is to accuse Todd of not being a good friend for myriad reasons all of which display the emotional maturity of a 10 year old and Todd and I have spent the last 8 months healing the damage the betrayal caused. (I found out about all of it when he left his email open on my studio computer.)
Oh yeah, and apparently Bob is still none the wiser.
None, but Todd want to admit their guilt and take responsibility for their mistakes. None, but Todd will admit they made a mistake and are truly sorry for their vile unethical manipulative behaviors so here I am posting once again to ensure others aren't drawn in by these people.

I think the THOMASON'S made a huge mistake and manipulated their friends to the point of hurting all of them. Everyone wants to hide their head in the sand but I believe that betrayal deserves consequence. And that consequence is not being able to hide their head in the sand. The justice I am seeking is that each one of them, like Todd should address their behavior, take responsibility for it, and seek forgiveness. Until that happens the world will have an opportunity to judge for itself by reading this post and posts just like it.

Feel free to share the information goggle search their names

JUDY ANNETTE AGUILAR GURULE RIFFLE formerly of GARDENA, CA and now in ALBUQUERQUE, NM.
JOSH M THOMASON, formerly of FOUNTAIN VALLEY, BUENA PARK and now in LA PALMA, CA.
JYME L ESTRADA MACIAS THOMASON of LA PALMA, CA

[courtneyiscool]

important thing here is that you need to move on and find a guy who is worthy of you.

[chris artist]

I agree with you, however, moving on can take time.

The first thing I did was call my counselor to discuss with her how to deal with it and the huge blow it was to my sense of self.

All of us who have been the victims of a cheating lover or spouse understands that it can take many months and sometimes years to work through the variety of emotions at play.

Thankfully, I do have a wonderful counselor and TODD has a counselor now as well.

My most profound insecurities would occur when TODD wanted to see his friends. Because of their manipulations and hatred of me, I refuse to be around them, but TODD didn't want to give up his buddy JOSH THOMASON.

I do not trust them and everytime Todd would visit there was a chance that Judy might be there as well. That's now changed much to my relief because JUDY AGUILAR now lives in ALBUQUERQUE, NEW MEXICO.

However, over the last few months TODD and I have discussed his friendship with JOSH and JYME and its lobsidedness. Todd has begun to realize how selfish they both are. He has realized that the THOMASON'S and especially JOSH are "Toxic Friends". They demand his help and time when it's convenient for them but refuse to help him when he is in need. They call him last minute to do things and then when he can't they give him a hard time. They give him a hard time when he hasn't called them back right away yet it might be days before Todd will get a return call. They won't come to visit because they say he lives too far away now (43 miles - he's with me), yet will drive more than 30 miles past me to shop at an outlet mall. Very hypocritical. They refuse to admit they did anything wrong in manipulating he and Judy and still won't accept me as part of Todd's life.

So, basically, I'm watching nature take it's course and seeing this friendship dissolve slowly.

Todd has much better, more supportive, less toxic friends to play with and so we now do alot of things with them.

As for me, the less I'm reminded of his betrayal via JOSH and JYME THOMASON or JUDY AGUILAR GURULE RIFFLE the better.

[broadview]

that is some story.

[chris artist]

I feel it is important to provide an update.

It seems that counseling hasn't helped either TODD or myself deal with the betrayal.

I have been unable to completely forgive him and TODD is having difficulties taking responsibility for his actions. I feel that in order for us to get to a better place he needs to have an understanding of why he carried on an intimate sexual affair for 5 months and lied to me about it. I don't think he can change his future behavior as he says he wants to if he doesn't understand why. And, I think I need to understand what in me wants to be with him, wants to love him in order to forgive or break away completely.

Like I had said we have been working on this for months and I thought we were in a better place so I asked him to move in with me but the day-to-day pressures got the better of both of us and we ended up fighting virtually every day.

One night a few weeks ago, we fought and he left. He said he was going to stay with his friend LEO but low-and-behold he went to stay with his friend JOSH THOMASON and his wife JYME THOMASON.

After sleeping on their couch for a week he told me he was coming back. I told him he wasn't and that he should stay where he was. That's where he is now.

I told him that if he and I were going to work out our problems he needed to do alot of work on himself first. I also said that I thought it best that he should be staying with JOSH and JYME THOMASON because obviously there is a bond between all of them that I don't understand having been excluded from knowing them by TODD and them. Part of me thought, fine, stay with your pals, buddy. Let them support your ass for a few months to see how they like it, but I realize as legitimate as that might be they are actually helping him find himself and are being good friends to him.

So, although, they haven't told me they were sorry and I do not forgive them or their actions, they are being good to TODD and so I must reassess how "TOXIC" they are. Maybe they simply decided not to like me because TODD excluded them from me as well. They weren't about to be mad at TODD. It was easier to not like me. Maybe they thought that if they found someone for TODD that was near them or their friend (JUDY RIFFLE) then they would see TODD alot more and they could all hang out and be happy.

The problem was is that they really weren't paying attention to their friend TODD or they would not have told him to "lie". They would have tried to get to know me better and they never would have given their "married" screwed-up pal all TODD'S contact details. They would have never gotten themselves involved and pushed them together.

If they all had just thought about it a little more none of us would be in this fine mess we find ourselves in.

And JYME you of all people should know better having betrayed your first husband JESSE MACIAS and then went on to have an affair with a married man who left YOU to be with his wife. Which one of those hurt more? Of course, this may be the answer as to why you and JOSH were so gung-ho on getting JUDY RIFFLE and TODD JOHNSON together. Obviously, you don't think that lying and betrayal are that big of a deal.

You would be wrong.

Other than watching my grandfather die and having to put my dog down, finding out that the man I loved was sleeping around with your SLUT pal JUDY RIFFLE was the most painful thing I've experienced.

Your manipulations were callous and self-centered. Not only have you hurt me, but you've also hurt others with your idiotic advice for TODD and JUDY to "hook up". You've hurt, TODD JOHNSON and his children. How do you think they felt when dad told them he was a liar and cheater? You've hurt JUDY RIFFLE, her husband BOB RIFFLE and all their children and grand children. You've especially hurt yourself, your husband JOSH, your children and family because anyone who knows how to do a "GOOGLE SEARCH" for a name will be able to find this post and others describing in detail this "embarassing, hurtful" time in everyone's life.

And just in case you didn't already know, any advice that involves lying and betrayal is bad advice.

Try the truth and honesty next time.

And the next time a friend of yours wants to bring his "F**K Buddy" and his girlfriend to the same party and you know about it. Don't let it happen. Make sure that everyone knows the rules of the game, because if they don't and find out that you knew but said nothing, chances are some of that vengeful rage is going to be spent in your direction.

[becki1223]

Why are you so mad at her? I think that all she did was show you your boyfriends true colors. Even if he was just sleeping with her for a piece of a$$, he shouldn't be doing it at all. And maybe part of the reason that you have a hard time letting go, is because you are still stalking her every where abouts. Who cares what she's doing or where she's living now? Let her go f**k up her own life, get rid of that loser of a man and move on! It's not worth it. I don't mean this to disrespect you, but by continuing to track her every move, you are only further increasing the pain that you are feeling. You are spending every day reliving it. If you can't trust him, then why are you with him. You say you're in love with him, but love stems from trust, and you don't trust him, so how can you love him?

[Humanity2008]

Chris,

You will move on to something and someone better. Yes, it is hard. It's more than someone throwing a cliche to you to " Move On". You work through it day by day. You go over in your head how you want to prepare for the future in meeting someone who will love and appreiciate you. Too many people do not take relationships seriously. To these immature adults, relationships are games where they are always looking for "new players". Read my blog. I hope it can help you. There is pain but also humor displayed as I got better. I loved someone completely. He was not truthful about the status of a divorce. He had a girfriend of 7-10 years, who I later discovered was just one of many. I also found his profiles on gay men's website, which I was never able to confront him, because he simply stopped speaking to me. It has been devasting not having closure since he would not face me and explain.

Hopefully, my blog will help you: www.MoveOnToWhere.blogspot.com