This site is a joke

[Chalene]

Nice guys don't end up being posted on Dont Date Him Girl. If a man cannot remain civil with their ex after the relationship ended - there is a good reason to avoid him. Of course, you are just the poor victim who is being slandered. By the way, slander is UNTRUE things being SAID and Libel is UNTRUE things in WRITING, genius. If what is being said is true then it is not slander if said or Libel if written, it is simply your history. This site and womansavers are two sites that millions of women check to see if the newest, greatest guy (ha!) is posted. Also, this site will end up popping up when your next target types your name into google, or when a client or prospective employer, or well, even your sister or friend. They may not say anything but they will know. The days are long gone when what you do can be swept under the rug. Women now know the truth about you and can run when you even look at them.

[cjgilc]

Exactly the problem with this site. I've been listed here for 5 months and only found out a couple days ago. Somehow being arrested once for a DUI = shady, bad past and several run ins with the law. My criminal record is clean.This site is completely void of justice. The anonymous poster should be required to submit the subject's phone number and email before being able to post. If they don't know them well enough to do that they shouldn't be allowed to post crap online. After they post, the man should be notified that someone has posted about them.

[stefan_BELGIUM]

I agree!! they should take this site down, in Belgium this is not allowd, makinge someone look bad with false reasons, you get get al law suit for that and 95% of the cases you wil winn that.

[courtneyiscool]

have you been? Did you not hear about the moron that tried to sue the site once before and LOST? The site is protected by a federal law that says that the people who POST here are liable for what they say, not the owner of the site.

This site has helped millions of women and help them avoid dating bad guys, but also helped them find good guys. Have you read the articles? Did you not see that any guy can post a rebuttal on the site? It's at the bottom of every post.

This site is no different from MySpace, Facebook and other forums online where people can post what they want when they want.

It's about time people - MEN INCLUDED - start taking responsibility for their behavior and stop trying to blame their problems on a website or anyone else!

[probity100]

I have been rather interested in this thread and feel like I would like to make a comment. I think that there is a percentage of women who have posted about men on this site for revenge and other reasons. I am not saying that is the case for all women but you would have to be silly not to realise that a small percentage have not well-intentioned reasons. I posted about this man in Germany and everything I posted about him including his relationship with other women and his sex dates with men and women both in Germany and here in Australia can be proven and I have kept the evidence in case he decided to go down that track of litigation. I do not want to see any other woman fall prey to this person's web of lies and his secret sex life. If he had been honest with me about it I could have then asked questions and made an informed choice about whether or not I continued the relationship.
There are some men on the internet and in life that are predators and if I ever come across a man that I am interested in who appears on this site I will read the comments and posts and then decide for myself as to whether there is any validity in them or not. I think most smart women would do the same and all our experiences are vastly different and our motivations are different. I only expect that if another woman searches on this site for this man's name and comes across what I have posted, she will make up her own mind but at least she can be just a little wary and not jump in boots and all and have a similar experience to mine.

[barton71]

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[MovingOn2009]

probity100,

Your situation has little similiarity to mine. Steven John Krantz is posted on DDHG and I also have a separate blog. The writings helped me get through a traumatic time. Steve did not tell the truth about a pending divorce. He had a long-time girlfriend of 7 years. I also found his profiles on several gay men's sites. He did not have the "balls" to talk to me, once I discovered all this information. His lawyer and busy body sister, tried to have my post here and my blog shut down. However, I have First Amendment Rights. What I have posted about him is true. As stated on this forum, a NICE GUY WOULD NOT BE POSTED ON THIS SITE.
Read my blog: The Steven John Krantz Nightmare. After the pain, I can now deal with some of it with humor. I am not a victim, but a woman who deserved an explanation from the man, I cared about. You be the judge.

http://moveontowhere.blogspot.com/

[barton71]

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[Jeremy4653]

I just need to make a comment here. Jimmy count your self lucky that you got taken off the site lol I have been on here for years....one idividual said something about a small percentage of women posting out of revenge.....I can honestly say that I did make some mistakes in the relationship but man did everything get twisted on this site. I eventually left the girl because she had some issues with certain things that I didn't feel I could deal with.(which is the basis for all break ups right) and things spun way out of control. I did consider getting back with her agian but then this popped up which confirmed what type of person she was "at the time" some time as passed and things could have changed for her. but yeah slander is slander. even if it's the truth. you're out to specificly hurt some one, which now that I think about it, isn't that the cat calling the kettle black here? in reality this site should be held accountable for people who have been more seriouly affected by this stuff( in the respect that proof should be availble or something like that).....I'm going to say that I do see the plus in saving someone for getting hiv and stuff like that but come on. why don't we just kill every criminal right? my whole point I guess is that even the most perfect person on this planet has made some mistakes in there day and the question is should that be broadcasted for the rest of their lives, no. I have been in bad relationships before. does that mean they where bad people...no it means just at the time they suck at being in a relationship. no different the wrecking your first car. me I'm completely different now than i was then( not that i was this bad person or anything just different) this site has had liitle to no effect on me or my dating life or marriage.
just some questions:
is it possible to abuse a freedom? like the right to bare arms or the "freedom of speech"
should every person be punshed for every mistake they have made for the rest of their lives?
Even if someone did cheat, which the percentage of cheaters( cheaters being defined has you going outside the bondaries of your relationship on some one in your life time. note boundaries may differ per relationship) is staggering. does that mean that people don't grow, change and will always be like?
and what if someone does change do they still deserve to be pursecuted over and over?
let the first person with out a flaw cast the first stone....I think someone important said that once along with a few other things.....

"every relationship you have will fail except one, this is by design...." we have to find the one we end up with by "trail and error". this is just life.

[raven_lady]

[lojack25]

First of all, nothing any of you say, men included, has any validity. You are all cowards.
My name is LeRon Perry Ellis, and when you can write your name on your post then you might just be someone that people will believe. My current girlfriend found a posting of me on this site. Did it bother me? No. Did she believe it, No she is intelligent and she knows how jealous women get when they don't get what they want. I know who I am, I know where I have been, and no one will ever change that. I am not afraid of all of you who hide behind a screen name, jabbing at eachother, trying to hurt eachother, to what? make yourself feel better?.... it's pathetic.
Remember, my name is LeRon Perry Ellis and I have contacted and post the names of the only 2 girls I ever dated in Oregon. Guys, stop your whinning!!! If your not a player like you say than you can surely remember who you dated and who would make a false post about you. Otherwise the post is probably telling the truth. It's been 4 years and I knew instantly who could of made the defamatory post about myself. I am blunt and painfully truthful when it comes to telling someone it isn't working out. Clean break no contact, some women don't like that but who cares. Women you really should do the same and you wouldn't have so many problems with men.
It is her bad luck though that 1.) I have a good memory, and 2.) I didnt date as many people as she thought. Well, I have contacted them both and I have made a comment because for some reason the rebuttle link isn't working. You cannot do anything to this site for what people write, but if you guys know who it is you surely can call them out and prove to every doubting woman on this site that your telling the truth. If they were telling the truth then they will have no problem taking up the challenge and bringing it to the forums. Paula Jackson http://www.facebook.com/home.php?#/PaulaGoldieloxJackson?hiq=paula%2Cjackson%2Coregon&ref=search&__a=1 would be my first choice of who wrote the post, Tylara Clark
http://viewmorepics.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewAlbums&friendID=390254357 would be my second. So I am waiting. If you don't add your name to your post your nothing, you may as well not post. Show some integrity for God's sake.