This site is a joke

[accujimmy]

I can't believe this place even exists - then again I suppose in this world of all types of information at a click of a button it was inevitable. Having just recently found myself the product of a hateful and half-truth laden write-up I can say that it hurts to see someone post BS about what they feel about you. How do you know the veracity of the poster? How can you be sure they aren't just inventing things to make themselves feel better? When all is said and done what is the ultimate point of this website? It appears to me to be a site for women to "fix" the guy they're dating.

Here's an idea, if the guy you're dating needs to be fixed, you're not dating the right guy. Stop trying to fix us, we don't need your help.

But that's not why I came to post this. I came to say to the women who use this site - you should be ashamed. This site is about spiteful backstabbing and nothing more. Is that the kind of world you live in? Where stabbing someone after the fact is a good idea? It must be if you think this site is the bees knees. A website like this does nothing more than reinforce the sexist views that many men have of women. As a target of a smear here, I can say those views might be justified.

[courtneyiscool]

believe that you are just a perfect man who never did anything wrong in your life and now you're being persecuted by someone you dated who posted a negative review of you here on DDHG, right?

Oh please! This site serves a great purpose for the many women who use it and the nearly 1 million who are subscribed to the site. This site has saved women from getting conned, being infected with HIV and most importantly, being cheated. Obviously, you haven't seen the TV stories posted on this site about this very thing.

DDHG is a place where women can do much more than review the guy's they've dated. There are helpful articles that don't try to "fix" men. In fact, most of the articles on DDHG flat out state that women need to give up this notion that men can be fixed, repaired or changed.

So, don't give us this nonsense about you being smeared on DDHG. What else are you going to say? Yes, I cheated.

The site gives you the opportunity to tell your side of the story with the touch of a button. So get to it and stop spamming our forum with your crap!

[accujimmy]

[courtneyiscool]

express her opinion of what happened in your relationship? And all the articles you reference give women advice on how to have better relationships with men, not how to fix them. Nowhere in any of the articles does it tell women to fix their men. 5 Things You Didn't Know About Men and Monogamy is telling women general things they probably didn't know about men and monogamy. The other article gives women ways to communicate with their men better in an effort to have a better relationship. Congratulations, you've got an obvious comprehension problem.

Whatever happened in your relationship, this site gives both you and the woman you dated an opportunity to express your opinions and it's the posters right to say they believe the "health department should be involved", just like it's your right to post uncensored, rants and raves about ragging on this site.

For all we know, you're the one that's lying and the woman who posted you is the one that's right. The point is, the problem is not the site, the problem is the men of this world who treat women badly in relationships.

[accujimmy]

[courtneyiscool]

argument was your most ridiculous one yet! Do you think DDHG is forcing women to log on to the site to get love and relationship advice? You say your biggest problem with this site is - who says the women who use it need DDHG's help. C'mon Accujimmy. You've spent hours in the forum on the very site you continue to bash instead of thinking about what you did to get yourself put on in and how you can be a better boyfriend or husband.

You registered, became a member of DDHG and made several posts to this forum, although not the most intelligent posts I've ever seen (especially your last one). That's a lot of work for a guy who hates the site.

There are no victims here. Just empowered women looking for ways to have better relationships with men. The need for companionship is a basic human one. Perhaps you haven't learned that yet, hence, why you were posted on this site. You seem to have problems being a good dater and your behavior landed you on DDHG.

Concentrate on being a better significant other and date responsibly so that you won't be outted on DDHG again. Don't waste your time postings your rants in this forum.

[accujimmy]

[courtneyiscool]

that this site is about many things, including advice and that there are many things to do on the site besides out guys. BTW, I thought you weren't coming back! Couldn't resist, could you?

[thizzzmeng]

[k12171]

This one was way too good to resist!

First, I think the statement regarding giving both people the opportunity to speak out is referring to the "rebuttal" button.

Personally, I never thought I would ever find someone I chose to go out with or spend my time with so inhuman that they would end up becoming a post on this site. But guess what, it happened. But it happened for the mere fact that I didn't think any other woman should have to go through the hurt that I did. He was a really good liar, pathological I believe, and I fell for it. So it is my right, not to bash him because everything is the utter truth, but to inform the next woman he comes in contact with to be aware that he is not how he presents himself. I am sure that given the right timing and opportunity, he would have gotten away with everything I am worth.

This site, to me, is not about bashing (but thanks for the outlet anyway)...it is about putting the truth out there and saving someone else the heartache and if they choose to give the man a chance, at least they were warned. Leopards don't change their spots.

and if the guys are so damn jealous that they don't have a site like this, then start one. who is holding you back?????? Perhaps another weakness in most men, they can't think, perform, act, find a their way out of a box without the help of a good woman! (ok, that was bashing but sure felt good! )

[thizzzmeng]

When you say perform in what demeanor do you mean?

Sexually? if that's the case the man you were with simply didn't take the time to hear what you liked sexually and to get to know your body because the man i am with now knows every single button to push to have me experiencing a mind/body numbing orgasm, hence you did not TEACH him what you liked and etc etc .

[k12171]

Nooooo..........I meant perform in life, in everyday functions of the average person. But nice to see that men are the way they are for other reasons than they were just born that way!

[Humanity2008]

In today's so called Modern World, lot's of "stuff" prevent people from just simply being happy with another person. I think many don't know how to be happy in general and they bring chaos to others in relationships. I made a post, not for revenge. I just want to vent and also get through a tramatic experience. I would rather do this thant get a gun a shoot Mr. Steven John Krantz. Also, others may be going through horrible experiences and this website may give them insight for better relationships. I think of this site as a way to prepare for future and better relationships. By the way, tell me what you think of my posting of Mr. Steven Krantz. Finding out the man you love is spreading his love in all kinds of places is devastasting. Plus he is a straight out liar. Dealing with his ignorant relatives and another girl friend who is defending his behavior is quite exhausting.

[J_voyager]

Thinking that this site is only for women to backstab men is simplistic and naive.

This site is here for one reason and one reason only....because there is, all too often, tons of unfinished business and unresolved feelings that women are left with when men simply walk away.

Men very often do not give a tinker's damn about a woman's need for closure....or for that matter, their feelings in general.

Look at what is written here and actually read it.

There is story after story of men who just walk out when there's a little bit of conflict....about men who are fakes....about men who go from woman to woman and leave as soon as they get bored...about men who are addicted to sex.

This behavior is very harmful to women, and there are not many places where it can be dealt with in any sort of honest way at all. Mostly what the women get are platitudes and false reassurance.

But here, at least they can tell their truths.

Men can tell their truths in their locker rooms, at their clubs, on the golfcourse, wherever the hell they feel like it.

If you don't like women telling one another theirs, here, then don't come here any more.

I have met so many men that tell me they're "feminists" and all for women's freedom, open internet, and freedom of speech, etc etc etc...

...that is, until some woman really wants to tell an ugly truth.

Then, oh dear me, how quickly they suddenly become conservative and old-fashioned about things.

I am sick of the hypocrisy.

As far as I'm concerned, this site is a breath of badly needed fresh air.

[joni509]

you were brought to the light for other woman to see and you can't deal with it. Suck it up