Timothy Pazos

[Lovely7237]

I met Timothy Pazos on MySpace. He emailed me on the 1st of July, saying that he thought I was pretty and wanted to get to know me. So we wrote back and forth through out the afternoon. By the evening, he was saying that he wanted to meet me. I had just started to talk to his person and it is the Internet, so I didn't feel I should, and said no. Then he suggested that we talk on the phone. I agreed. He seemed very nice, his daughter was down, and I was listening to him talk to her and just be a dad, and I liked that. He really seemed like a sweet person. Have me laughing and smiling. He continued to ask me to meet him that night. I felt very comfortable, so I agreed as long as we met somewhere public. So I meet him at Dunkin, and right away it is like we click. Came back to my apartment, and we made out a bit. He wanted to go further, but again I just met this guy. He wanted to see me right away the next day. Talking to me through text while I was at work. He called me all the time. It was like we were a couple, right from the first day. He would re-arrange all of his time to just see me for a little bit. Just one day alone, he text me 39 times, called me 4 times, emailed me 3 times, and we saw each other twice. He made me think that he is all about me. He called me his girlfriend after like four days, and I was so excited about that. This guy had a house, a car, a great job as a diver, made good money, and was looking to settle down and start a family. Made sure to ask me if it bothered me to date someone with a kid, no way I told him. His daughter was going back home to her mother's in ..:namespace prefix = st1 ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:smarttags" />New York, or that is what he said, who really knows with this guy. He even introduced me to Madison. She is a very beautiful girl, I feel bad that he is her father. I was trying to find the problem with him, and there wasn't one. He was in the Army, he called me all the time, he seemed so into me. I was in heaven. He even asked me after I knew him for maybe five days, if I wanted to contribute in this charity for divers, and that they were putting a bunch of money in a wet suit and donating it. I donated $ and was suppose to get tickets to a Dive Show in September. He wanted like $60, but I was like I can't afford that, I will give $20.

Unfortunately, he had the mishappening of having is wallet stolen. He sent me a text saying that he couldn't find his wallet. So I was like that sucks. Then a couple of days later, he texts me and says I am going to kill someone. My wallet was actually stolen, and someone went to three different ATMs and stole $1500. And he was flipping out. I tried to calm him down and just really didn't know what to say, I felt so bad. So I went back into work and my best friend works with me, so I emailed her and told her what happened. She offered up to lend him $100 until he got paid, and he could pay her back, so that way he wasn't with out anything. Very nice of her, right? I emailed him that and he was like thank you so much, tell her thank you. Can you do me a favor? Can you call my house and leave this message for me, Cause I am suppose to work tonight but I want to see you, I want to spend time with my baby. I need you to leave this message on my machine saying that I have to pick up this prisoner, and escort him back from Georgia. So I did it. I wanted to see him, I was really starting to care about him. This was the 10th of July. That night he came by, picked up the $100 that my friend was going to lend him, said he had to go talk to his boss and have his hear that message then he would be over. He never came back.

On Friday (11th), he emailed me at work and said that his direct deposit had to be re-set up, and he had to wait until he got paid with a check on Sat, his parents weren't around and didn't want to ask his girlfriend, but he was wondering if he could borrow $100 and if he could pick it up at lunch. So I told him I can lend it to him, but I have to have it back. He promised that he would have it back to me. He came at lunch and we went to the ATM and got out $100. He came over that night and we had our last intimate night together. He had to go back home though cause he had his daughter and couldn't spend the night. On Sat, he called me and asked me to go over to meet Madison before she left. I was so taken back, and felt so honored. I hadn't showered or anything, but he was like I don't care, I just want to see you, and I want you to meet her. So I went over. He gave me the grand tour. Told me that he built a shelf in the kitchen, told me him and his friends built the porch. He was telling me how his "roommate's" girlfriend did all the decorating in the house, and all the garden work. He was telling me that his dog, the reason why it is at his house is cause his parents house has to many stairs for him to go up and down. Brought me downstairs and showed me the basement, he showed me ever inch of that house. Madison was so cute, trying to get my attention. He told me he could get me a bag of weed so I gave him $40, and he was suppose to get it for me and give it to me when we saw each other.

Then he texted me later on in the day and said that he really didn't want to have to ask his girlfriend again but he had this bill that had to be paid and he liked that he could depend on me, he needed to borrow $120. Said that he would have it all back to me that night, when we got together to hang out. So I agreed, but I told him at this point that I had a bad feeling. Something wasn't right in my stomach. And he said, what you don't trust me. I said I just have a very bad feeling, and he said, I would not screw you over, Trust me. So I did. He is in the Army, is a Sergeant, in the National Guard, and he uses that to make you trust him. "I am in the Army, so I can't be that bad" And he just had something bad happen to him, right. So I went against my gut and gave it to him.

As I am giving him the $120, he tells me that I shouldn't go to this show I had planned, we should just get together, "You have a boyfriend now, you don't need to be going out to the bar" He said that he had to pay the bill and put Madison to bed and he would call me in like two hours. Then he text me and said that he had was putting Madison down and he would be over. I started to text him at like ten and he never responded. I was so pissed, cause I was looking forward to that show so much. I was so mad I didn't really talk to him on Sunday. Thought I was teaching him a lesson about breaking a date with me, haha, little did I know. So Monday comes, and he had to work, Tuesday he emailed me and said that his cousin gave him a blank check and he needed $120 and I told him I couldn't, he was like how about $100 and I said I couldn't, I was like I can only afford to give you $80, but I need it back, he was like I have the check. So he came to my work, and had the check but it wasn't filled out. So I gave him $80 without the check. And said we would get together that night, and then he got called in to Chesterfield or Boston I don't remember. Said he was so tired that while he was working that he passed out under the water for a couple of seconds, but woke up and just continued to work cause he is that good at his job. He was working all day Wednesday, and emailed me again on Thursday and was like I have that check for $80 and another check for $90 can you lend me the $90. So he comes to my work and I take the $90 out and he gives me the check, he says, this is from my cousin. It might take a couple of days to clear, since it is a credit union. I say that is fine, my bank will cover it until it clears.

Now he was saying that he couldn't cash these checks because of his accounts that weren't up correctly and he couldn't deposit it or whatever he said. I am a nice person and very gullible. When I gave him the $90 he gave me the check for $80 but said that he forgot the check for $90 on his desk at work. Said the bank hadn't reimbursed him yet and that they were doing an investigation. Every night, this guy is telling me that we are going to spend time together. And he blows me off every night. Then tells me in the morning that he is working and he is sorry. Got called into work again Thursday night, and on Friday I get another email asking for another $90 and he has two checks for $90. So I say to him, I really need the rest of the money you owe me and my friend, she is asking, about it, and you promised you would have it back to her by now. He was like I know I am sorry tell her I am sorry, I will tomorrow. Then he asks if he can come get my bank card and take the money out and bring it back to me, I was like, um no. You can wait until I get out of work. Then he calls me and is like, My mom called I have to report in full dress uniform, never had that happen before, So I am not sure what to expect. He saying he wants to meet Walgreen's in Ludlow, cause it is close to his house and he can just jet to the meeting. He gets there and he is not in full dress uniform, I was like what the hell, and he was like I decided to get changed there. I give him the other $90 and he is like, I am so sorry I forgot the checks on my desk at work. I was like, dude I have no money. I can't go grocery shopping. He was like I will bring them to you when I get done with this meeting, promised to take me out to dinner. Now he has $480 of my money and $100 of my friend's money. When he left me that day, that was the last time I saw him in person. He never called me that night. I was flipping out. I drove by his house, to see if his car was there. I was freaking out crying. I went and bought a bottle of rum and got drunk, and then I went to visit a friend of mine to cry on his shoulder. He wanted to hurt Tim.

Finally he calls me on Sat morning at like five. Saying that he forgot he had Drill and they came for him. That he would be home that night, and we would get together, he promised. He got called into work. Then he was working all day Sunday but kept promising that he was going to be there. Like every two hours he would call and say, soon I swear. Same with Monday and Tuesday, then he tells me that while he was diving, a wave came and bashed him into the boat and he has a concussion, but they still had him working, I am a stupid gullible person huh. Then I tell him on Wednesday I was over drawn in my bank account. Because he kept promising me, I had bills I had to pay, so I paid them thinking he was going to pay me back. We had planned to get together Wednesday night, but as I am sitting there waiting for him, I get a call at like eight and he is crying, said that someone he worked with died. He would call me back with more information.

So he calls back and tells me that, this was a good friend of his that worked under him. That this guy had two kids and a wife that was six months pregnant and he got caught up on some line and drowned. He said that he had to go pick up the body and sit in a meeting about how he died and start the investigation. I told him I was charged an over draft fee and he said he would pay it, $39. I got paid on Thursday so my account was brought back to normal. He told me he was at the memorial for his co-worker that had died; I think he said it was in Danbury. So I knew I wasn't going to see him that night. I let him do his thing, I got a phone call at midnight, he was crying uncontrollably. When I asked him what was wrong he just said, "She's dead, she killed herself. Dead, She killed herself and it is all my fault" He said that the wife of his co-worker who was six months pregnant swallowed a bottle of pills and drank vodka and killed herself. He was blaming himself, saying that he was responsible for the duties of his co-worker and he should have known he couldn't do it, and did the job himself. I tried to calm him down, told him it wasn't his fault, he said, "If I did my job right, these kids would have parents, because he wouldn't have died and she wouldn't have killed herself" I finally calmed him down and he told me I would see him on Friday. And he asked me if I am going to go to the wake with him on Sat. I said "Yes if you want me there I will be there." Still thinking we are in a relationship and he is just busy at work. I mean this guy is great. What a scam artist. And what a terrible lie.

Friday comes and he tells me he has to go to her families to pay respect, I told him that I really needed to be paid back and he promised, tonight. Yeah, ended up being gone all night again and never called. I flipped again. That is a lot of money to be continually blown off about. So Sat comes, and he tells me he is sick and is just taking a nap and he will call me in a bit, then I say, are we still going to the wake and he said yes. So I got all dressed up and let him rest, it was about 4 o'clock and I called him, he calls back and says that he is still sick and isn't going to go now cause he didn't want to get anyone else sick, but we will still get together. Then he doesn't call me all night. He tells me Sunday morning that he was called into work. Cause they are going to let him dive with a head cold. So I yelled at him, I was like with a freaking head cold. Thought that was against the rules. He said some bullshit, Whatever, Excuses after excuses.

By now, it is Monday the 28th. Couldn't really get a hold of him all day, but when I am leaving work I have a feeling that I need to check my bank account. So I check it and I notice that it is off exactly $80, I call my bank and they tell me they don't know what it is yet, they won't know until Tuesday. But I had five posts and this negative $80 will put me overdrawn. I am sitting there at home, thinking what the hell could I have bought, Tim had all my money, and there is no way I would have spent exactly $80 on. The more I thought about it, I realized the check that he gave me from his cousin, it bounced. Oh my god, what am I going to do, Five post at $39 a pop is a total of $195. I was calling him and calling him, but he said he was stuck at work. That is what I have heard ever day, I am stuck at work. I started to have a mini panic attack. I drove by his house again.

The check actually bounced on Tuesday and I was sitting in my living trying to get a hold of him and he wasn't answering. I sat there and thought about what I was going to do. He had all my money, and I was -$250 in my bank account, and I have rent coming, and I was getting paid on Thursday but my paycheck wouldn't cover all the fees, nor leave me money for car payment or gas or anything. I finally got a hold of him and I tell him that the check bounced and he was like what, no way. Oh my god, I will do what ever it takes to put your bank right. But he couldn't get away from work until tomorrow. I was freaking out.

I had no one to ask to borrow money from. My mother would kill me if I told her what happened. And I would have to listen to how stupid I was for the rest of my life. I could not live like that, I could not live without any money, and someone I only knew for ten days has it all. He was making all these promises and breaking them all. I started to write a letter, a very serious one, a very direr one. The way I was feeling, I didn't think I had any other choice. I really didn't want to do anything drastic, but I was sitting there just thinking, I was played, and I was never going to see my money back. He put me in such a mind set. I had spoken to him and he was a complete asshole on the phone, saying that he wasn't doing anything to me, just brought me down more.

I didn't care about the relationship anymore; I just wanted what I lost. The total for what he owes me at this point is $754 plus the $100 he still owes my friend. It had been over a week and a half since I had even seen him. After I finish writing my death note, I was sitting there with a handful of pills, crying, just staring at them. Thinking I don't want to do this, I don't want to die, but then all these problems will be gone and no one will have to deal with them and I won't have to be a burden on anyone. I put them back in the bottle. When I spoke to him he promised again that he would have it and be back on Wednesday. So I came up with a plan. I would wait until Wednesday; I had to pick my friend up from the airport, and didn't want to leave her stranded. Nor did I want her to hear that I was dead and have to fly like that, so I thought to wait. I plan everything so I planned my death. I was going to pick her up, then I was going to drive to where he said his parents house was and the car he said was his, I was going to slash all the tires, and fuck up the paint, then I was going to go home and swallow the bottle of pills about 30 really strong muscle relaxers, with a nice stiff drink, and make sure that I was stoned, so right when I took the pills I would just fall asleep.

When I woke up the next morning, I felt nothing. I was so numb. I knew that I was going to end it if I didn't get paid back. I could not deal with what he was doing to me. I am not that strong a person. I just went to work and didn't speak to anyone. Everyone at work is now starting to get worried about me because I have not smiled or acted like myself, for weeks. When someone constantly promises to see you and constantly blows you off or stands you up, that brings you way down. Anyway, he emailed me in the morning and said that he wouldn't be able to get it until the next day from some guy. I was like whatever. He was like, I am sorry, I was like well I am going to get charged again, I was talking to him and I was crying and couldn't breathe. He was like well I will have to pay it then won't I.

While I was on my lunch, out of nowhere, my mother called me. She was like what is up how are you? Now I hadn't told her anything that was going on, and just started to cry. Told her everything I could and she was like how much do you need, but I didn't want to borrow money cause then I have to pay it back and if he never pays me back, I still have to pay her back, and that is more money I am out. So I told her no.

I sat there at work and started to bawl. What was I going to do, my mother is willing to help me, but then I have to pay it back. Or do I go home and swallow all those pills and just fall a sleep. I really did not want to kill myself. I gave in and told my mother I wanted to borrow the money. Since then he has done nothing but blow me off. Making a bunch of broken promised, every day saying Tomorrow. Finally I got sick and tired of it and I was like, this is over, I just want my money, I was like, why don't you just mail it; It will get here faster than you. So I text him my address and told him to mail. Still haven't gotten it. He kept telling me that he mailed it, but he said that he only mailed $450 and he mailed Cash. I was like come on your stupid retard, you mailed Cash, who does that. He kept on promising. Told him I had his Captain's name, he seemed scared and was like, don't do anything I am sorry, please. If anyone wants it please contact me and I will give it to you. I just recently went to his house since he said he car broke down and he was waiting for a ride so he could pay me back, so I say to him in a text, where are you home. No answer, I say, I am on my way over, no answer. So I went over to "his house". Yeah, when I got there, and knocked on the door, an older man answered the door. I knew that it was his dad right away, and as soon as I saw him I knew, this was not his house. I had questioned him on the fact that the phone bill was in his mom's name, he said she paid it as a gift. Ha. I told his dad a little bit, that he owed me $854 and I haven't seen him in five weeks. He says well we have your number I will let him know that you stopped by.

So now it is the 22nd, and he text me in the morning, and is like, I talked to my mom and she is going to pay you back, she is going to send you a check for $200 and a check for $100 every week until the debt is paid off. All day I was arguing with this kid. He is telling me that I can not talk to his mom, that I have to talk to him, I was like yeah ok. So we will see if that is true. I kinda told his dad that I am going to get him kicked out of the Army. I almost ended my life because of the state of mind he had me in. I had all these walls up when I met him and so quickly he broke them down. He is really good at what he does. Be very careful.