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baldwin29w
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 Posted: Tue Aug 18, 2009 3:23 am Post subject: Very Tired |
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| I am truly tired of women acting like they are the only ones who get treated like crap. Its as if society makes women out to be the victim ALL the time as if they NEVER do anything wrong. Its sickening to me that a lot of times women get away with all kinds of BS and no body ever says a damn thing about it. One thing that really burns me up is this really stupid attitue women have about about nice guys. I mean, really - would you rather be with an asshole or a man who treats you with respect? Half the stuff women say is a bunch of lies, like how much they love thier husbands or boyfriends.All you have to do is take a look at anyone of the hundreds of dating websites out there to see a ad after ad of women who are already in "committed" relationships wanting a one nite stand. How many women tell that BS lies when it comes to intimacy?!? Most women aren't happy with their sex lives even though they tell their husband or boyfriends that the exact opposite - aka LIES! What about women out right dump men with absolutely zero reason? or who cheat? That doen't account for anything?? I mean its just silly that all the women who join this site act like the female gender is the ONLY side who gets hurt in relationships. Women cheat all the time and its soo tired how they or society blame some man for that womans behavior. Just because some woman has a messed up relationship does not give her the right to emotionally screw with a man that has done nothing wrong to her. If you want talk to violence; what about the woman in california who kidnapped, raped & killed that little girl!!! Or what about that mother who drove drunk & high miles the wrong way on the highway with her kids in the car killing them and all the occupants in another vehicle!!! Or the teacher who blamed a medical condition on her reasons for having sexual relations with her teen student!!! I could go on and on - but, the fact is that a lot of women are NO DAMN better than a lot of the men who they blame for the same offenses PERIOD!!! |
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gingersnapd
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| Posted: Fri Aug 21, 2009 6:36 pm Post subject: You are absolutely right. |
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I'm sure there are just as many women who behave as badly as the men posted on this site. I think the reason this site exists is because this is the way women deal with the pain of being cheated on, lied to, and just generally being treated badly by men. Some of the guys posted on here are truly dangerous, and for years have been able to get away their horrific behavior because there was no way of letting other women know what kind of creeps they were. Unfortunately, many women don't know about this site until they've been hurt. As a man, do you think a site like this featuring awful women would help you, and other guys? I would imagine if it would, it would have been created by now.
From reading your post, I'm thinking you have been recently hurt by a woman. I am truly sorry. I know what that pain is like. Addressing the nice guys versus assholes sentence...well, duh, of course we prefer nice guys to assholes. The thing you have to bear in mind, though, is that just being nice isn't enough. How many really nice women are out there that are, say, overweight or in another way not attractive by men's standards? These women are alone, because men aren't physically attracted to them. Well, women feel the same...we need to be physically attracted to a man, and of course we hope he's also going to be nice! Assholes get away with being assholes because they are physically attractive to women, and when one person gets sick of their crap, there's always someone else who wants to get with them. Just an annoying fact of life.
Anyway, I agree with you that women are just as capable of being as bad as the men posted on this site. The difference is that most men don't seem to care; they move on to the next woman with apparent ease. Women need a kind of closure, which includes letting other women know what they've gone through with these men. And, hey, if it stops just one of these creeps in their tracks, then that's a good thing for everyone. |
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baldwin29w
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| Posted: Fri Aug 21, 2009 11:34 pm Post subject: response to your statements with all due respect in mind |
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Like some of the women here I didn’t do jack wrong, I gave-she took. I tried to communicate-she pretends I don’t exist. All of the sudden I’m dumped for no reason. So yes to be 100% honest I have been hurt and the thing about that is emotional pain from being wronged in a relationship Has No Gender Bias.
You said:
Assholes get away with being assholes because they are physically attractive to women, and when one person gets sick of their crap, there's always someone else who wants to get with them.
See, it’s that type of thinking that makes me not in the least bit remorseful for any woman that gets involved with a “bad boy” aka asshole in the first place. So let me understand this’ as long as men in a women’s eyes are sexy; most will allow demeaning treatment just because of his physical appearance!?!
You said:
The difference is that most men don't seem to care; they move on to the next woman with apparent ease. Women need a kind of closure, which includes letting other women know what they've gone through with these men.
This statement suggests that ALL men are mentally incapable of feeling heartbreak, how does that in any way make sense? Women that think men don’t care or think about the feelings that go along with a breakup are seriously delusional. As for the closure, EVERYBODY needs closure to move on. There is no gender divide on this, especially if you had feelings for that person.
You said:
Some of the guys posted on here are truly dangerous, and for years have been able to get away their horrific behavior because there was no way of letting other women know what kind of creeps they were.
I’ll reply to this from you’re own statement “women are just as capable of being as bad as the men posted on this site.” |
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gingersnapd
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| Posted: Sat Aug 22, 2009 12:58 am Post subject: Re: response to your statements with all due respect in mind |
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| baldwin29w wrote: | Like some of the women here I didn’t do jack wrong, I gave-she took. I tried to communicate-she pretends I don’t exist. All of the sudden I’m dumped for no reason. So yes to be 100% honest I have been hurt and the thing about that is emotional pain from being wronged in a relationship Has No Gender Bias.
I never suggested there was a gender bias. We all know there isn't. But because this is a site for women to post about men who done them wrong, you can't expect to read posts about women hurting men. I know you're in pain. It must be tough being in love with a taker who pretends you don't exist and dumps you for no reason.
You said:
Assholes get away with being assholes because they are physically attractive to women, and when one person gets sick of their crap, there's always someone else who wants to get with them.
See, it’s that type of thinking that makes me not in the least bit remorseful for any woman that gets involved with a “bad boy” aka asshole in the first place. So let me understand this’ as long as men in a women’s eyes are sexy; most will allow demeaning treatment just because of his physical appearance!?!
A lot of women will put up with it for longer than they should, just like some men will put up with a lot from a bitch, as long as she's a hottie. I didn't say it was right, I think it's stupid, but I've seen it happen...I didn't invent it.
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The difference is that most men don't seem to care; they move on to the next woman with apparent ease. Women need a kind of closure, which includes letting other women know what they've gone through with these men.
This statement suggests that ALL men are mentally incapable of feeling heartbreak, how does that in any way make sense? Women that think men don’t care or think about the feelings that go along with a breakup are seriously delusional. As for the closure, EVERYBODY needs closure to move on. There is no gender divide on this, especially if you had feelings for that person.
I am in no way suggesting that men don't feel heartbreak, because I know they do. I said MOST men, not ALL men, and I meant that MOST don't show that heartbreak the way that women do. I know this stuff doesn't apply across the board, that's why I say SOME, MOST or A LOT. I'm sorry if I was unclear on that. Closure comes in different forms for different people. Some women vent, some men just move on. Or vice versa.
You said:
Some of the guys posted on here are truly dangerous, and for years have been able to get away their horrific behavior because there was no way of letting other women know what kind of creeps they were.
I’ll reply to this from you’re own statement “women are just as capable of being as bad as the men posted on this site.” |
Again, I'm referring to SOME of the posts on here: men who are violent, riddled with STDS, taking women for money and worldly possessions. These are the men who are "truly dangerous". The rest of the guys are your garden-variety dipwads who lie and cheat. Bad guys, certainly, but usually women escape without having the rest of their lives ruined. Yes, some women lie and cheat. They could be physically violent, etc., and I wouldn't be the least surprised. I'm intolerant of ANYONE who behaves like that, because it makes things difficult for the rest of us who are good, honest people. And if you want to set up a site called Don'tDateHerGuy, I'll be the first to sign up as a member. |
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baldwin29w
Joined: 18 Aug 2009
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| Posted: Sat Aug 22, 2009 10:59 pm Post subject: My response |
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Actually there is a don't date her site out there but, doesn't get anywhere near as much fan fare as this one.
Well then I will leave a final thought about this:
Men & Women need to stop rushing into relationships
Take as much time as possible to KNOW who you are with before committing yourself fully
Think with your mind and not your gentials
Stop blaming others for you're own bad judgement
Don't blow off a potential mate just because they don't have all the bullet points on your must have list
MOST IMPORTANT - FOLLOW YOUR HEART |
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gingersnapd
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| Posted: Sun Aug 23, 2009 1:38 am Post subject: AMEN!! |
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I agree with you!
You sound like a intelligent, decent guy, and I hope you find someone who's worthy of what you have to give.
Take care! |
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