what happened?

[Aisworking2]

Okay here's my question….

I met this guys about six months ago online. Things were going great, we talked everyday, got closer it and it seemed like things would work. He did live out of state and that concerned me but I had long distance relationships before so this didn't bother me.

I was completely honest with him about what I wanted and my pet peeves….being lied to was on the top of the list.

He went as far as to come and visit. We spent the weekend together and what a wondertime we had. I thought to myself, we had a good time and everything else was icing on the cake. I really didn't know if I would ever see or hear from him again.

When he got home, he pursued me even harder. It was like I couldn't blink with him "being there" as far as communication was concerned. I felt myself starting to open my heart to him. I completely let down my guard.

Then out of nowhere he disappeared for about two months. My calls, emails, texts, were all ignored. Then as a last ditch effort I sent him an email saying I hadn't heard from him in a while and that I was his friend and if he ever needed me I was there. His response to me was to apologize that he didn't stay in better contact. However, he recently started seeing someone else. That he prayed about it and that this is what God told him to do. He apologized that our relationship didn't get the chance to grow.

I was completely devastated, wished him well in his future relationship. His statement to me was he hoped this wasn't the last time hears from me and that he really considers me his friend. Did I miss something? Any insight as to what might have happened?

I was completely dumbfounded and blindsided by this event.

[lady_jane]

this is so harrowing and weird situation...Nobody knows what happened except him. my suggestion, try to forget him and be glad that you get out of him. if he doesnt deserve you now, he never deserves you later.

dont think too much about it, dont be sad

[J_voyager]

Oh how I hate it when people use "God told me" to justify their lousy and irresponsible behavior. God had nothing to do with it.

He could have called you and told you what was going on and should have.

He is NOT your "friend". He is a jerk.

Be glad, because someone else got stuck with him instead of you getting stuck with him.

[rosebuttons]

The only thing you missed was that this guy is an ass. "God told me to do it" was a cop out. be very glad you are rid of this guy. He is a player and he met someone else, wanted to end it with you and didnt want to look like the bad guy. People will tell you what they want to hear make sure their actions follow the words. good luck

[WasSoBlind]

Hmmm, was this guy from the midwest? Do let me know? But someone in a previous post mentioned how they hate "god told me." I agree, with his sentiment. Because if God told him "God" would not say use someone and ignore them ending things wrong, thus hurting them. God would say be a man and live with the consequences of honesty/dishonesty. He is nothing buy punk with his you know whats way up there!