What would a guy say about this?

[2smart2Bused]

I've been dating a guy since Dec 2007. I haven't seen him in the past 7 weeks. That was my choice. I'm at a point where I think all he does is lie to me. He's always "broke", I usually pay my share. The only thing I'm getting out of this "relationship" lately is anger. He tells me I'm "jealous". I tell him I hate liars and guys who are players.
He used to have the same excuses for not seeing me on the usual Fri nites & Sundays, which are my days off. I later found out he was still seeing his ex, but she was "just a friend". She lives nearby and stops in to visit once or twice a week, drink wine, hang around. He says she is fat and she is "dead" down there! He claims they don't have sex. She knows about me, and she has stopped sleeping over. At first she slept with him in his bed - while he was naked. Then she slept on the couch. He says she wants to meet me. He has a small boat and she goes with him while he's sunbathing in the nude!!!
She has a 34 yr old daughter & her 3 yr old son that he also spends time with. He didn't take me to the son's recent birthday party because he didn't want anyone to "know his business".
He also has a niece who's 24 - but she's not really his niece, he's just known her since she was little. She also hangs around with him, she likes to drink & party with him cuz he's so "cool". This guy is 56 YRS OLD!!!! He claims he doesn't have sex with her, either!

He told me in his past he used to go to nudist colonies, his exfiancee and him would have threesomes (she also liked women). I've seen a photo of her. Both exes I've seen are not pretty and they are both fat. He even admitted that I looked like a "goddess" compared to them! I've broken up with him a few times, but he tells me he loves me, but not IN love with me. After this last breakup he said he thinks he's falling in love with me. Have you ever heard so much bull from one guy?
When I go to his house he has porn on the TV and sometimes he's on the damn computer checking his email and several "myspace" friends, including his exes. He has a photo of his niece as his computer wallpaper and a pic of her boobs on his cell phone. He still has his exfiancee listed on his IM as "my baby".

It all sounds so sick to me........NOT normal. When I first met him he looked like a sleazy porn star with a mullet. I didn't think I'd see him again, but we have incredible chemistry and the sex used to be intense. Now I don't know if I would feel that way again after all this crap I've had to deal with.
I can just imagine the laugh you must be having after reading this, but this is a TRUE story and I want to see what you have to say about this!!!!

I can't believe I'm writing this, but HE thinks there's nothing wrong with him, HE"S perfectly normal and I'm the one who has issues dealing with this. I'm just amazed that some guy would actually think a smart woman would believe all this crap and I'd like to hear your advice!!!
Thanks!

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2smart...

I know some people are truly into an alternative lifestyle. My wife and I have been involved w/the Tantra Community in the city where we live, and I can tell you that most guys who are saying that they are involved w/an alternative lifestyle are not doing it with any intergrity or consciousness. It's generally an excuse to have multiple sexual partners.

The irony is that, to live an alternative lifeatyle like that takes a hell of a lot of work, really good communication, and is far more involved than most people realize.

It's not for me, my wife and I are involved with the Tantra Community to deepen and enrich our own relationship.

This guy sounds like a lying sack. I don't ususally give this kind of advice, but I say dump the loser, and make room in your life for the kind of love that you want.