Why Men Will Listen To Anyone Else BUT their Women

Orion23 · Joined: 11 Apr 2008 Posts: 22

Ladies, have you ever given your man your opinion on something, only to have it fall upon deaf ears...then when his friend says the exact same thing, he talks about the great idea that his friend had? Or have you ever had to ask your man to do something several times but his friend can ask him once and he's all over it? Have you ever wondered why?

Well, here's the thing, we know that once we are too responsive to you, it's a slippery slope. Even if we wholeheartedly agree with what you say, we have to give it a while before reacting. If we are too responsive, before you know it you will be trying to plan all facets of our lives and we can't have that. So, sometimes we act as if we do not hear (or care about) what you say. And no, there's nothing that you can do about it. Ha!

courtneyiscool · Joined: 26 Mar 2007 Posts: 130

they are too responsive to their women, then we're going to start planning your lives?

Orion23 · Joined: 11 Apr 2008 Posts: 22

I am not speaking for ALL guys, because that would not make sense. However, I have seen guys do exactly what I just wrote about and for the reasons that I wrote...and other reasons. Some guys simply tune out (or pretend to) to avoid "life micromanagement" that can happen if a feels like they have abundant influence over what you do and/or should do. But, by all means, do not take my word for it. Ask a man (not one that you're in a relationship with) who you have seen do what I wrote about and see what he says.

courtneyiscool · Joined: 26 Mar 2007 Posts: 130

lives micromanaged. I always thought it was the guys who wanted to control everything their women did. But I guess I see it from a girl's point of view and you're looking at it from the point of view of a guy who has been micromanaged.

How does a guy get to the point of micromanagement by a woman?

Orion23 · Joined: 11 Apr 2008 Posts: 22

Courtney, I believe that you misunderstood me and/or made an erroneous assumption. Nowhere in my post did I say that I had been micromanaged nor did I imply that (all) guys were easily vulnerable to it. However, speaking from what I have observed, some guys simply employ the tactic that I stated to avoid "nagging" and/or to rebuff excessive attempts at the "micromanagement" while keeping any friction to a minimum. Some guys are also less that immediately responsive b/c they feel like that means that if they "give a woman an inch, they'll take a mile". For myself, I employ a different tactic. I love to listen to my lady. When she comes to me with a great idea or opinion, I am all ears. However, it does not bother me to also let her know if/when she comes to me with something that is absolutely off-base. Also, I don't mind being responsive to her when she asks for something because I accept no less than equal reciprocity of my responsiveness and I get that from her.

So, do you understand my point?

square813 · Joined: 25 Jul 2006 Posts: 246

actually this subject goes for both sides. because ive had men ask why does she do that i tell her she dont listen and women saying i told him that last week. i also know some that do it just to hurt the other. so whatever the excuse is it still comes down to this in a relationship there shouldnt be a control issue