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ryan85
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 Posted: Fri Nov 14, 2008 6:41 am Post subject: women, do you think its EASIER for you to get CASUAL SEX |
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women, do you think its EASIER for you to get CASUAL SEX compared to men.
(1) women are more selective about looks and personality of the casual sex partner.
(2) there is a supply demand gap. if 90 out of 100 men want casual sex only say 60 out of 100 women want casual sex. so the 60 women can choose from 90 available guys meaning guys will have a tougher time.
(3) men are willing to lower their standards. even an average looking woman can expect to have casual sex with a much better looking guy. maybe not date him but sex
(4) its more effort for men. they have to charm the women, they have to show all the confidence and make the moves etc. women just have to be willing.
do you agree with these points.
do you agree that women can get casual sex more easily than men.
do you think a lot of women have a problem recognizing this fact |
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gingersnapd
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| Posted: Fri Nov 21, 2008 3:12 am Post subject: Re: women, do you think its EASIER for you to get CASUAL SEX |
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| ryan85 wrote: | women, do you think its EASIER for you to get CASUAL SEX compared to men.
(1) women are more selective about looks and personality of the casual sex partner.
(2) there is a supply demand gap. if 90 out of 100 men want casual sex only say 60 out of 100 women want casual sex. so the 60 women can choose from 90 available guys meaning guys will have a tougher time.
(3) men are willing to lower their standards. even an average looking woman can expect to have casual sex with a much better looking guy. maybe not date him but sex
(4) its more effort for men. they have to charm the women, they have to show all the confidence and make the moves etc. women just have to be willing.
do you agree with these points.
do you agree that women can get casual sex more easily than men.
do you think a lot of women have a problem recognizing this fact |
Well, DUH....of course it's easier for women to get casual sex. But here's the deal, my friend:
- 99.99% of women aren't looking for casual sex, no matter how much they may be telling themselves that's all it is. Even if the sex is really bad (judging from some of the posted profiles on here) women are still hoping it will evolve into a relationship. On a side note, I have been amazed to see how many women made comments about how bad their men were in bed, and yet they stayed with these a**hats until they got dumped or discovered them cheating.
- There's a hormone called oxytocin that is released during sexual arousal that, according to studies, helps to create a bond between partners. Apparently, a boatload of this stuff is released in the woman, which may explain why truly casual sex is next to impossible for most females.
I'm not saying that there can't be casual sex for you out there if you're really looking for it, but in my observation, it's pretty rare. Your points are valid, but you would do well to think past just getting a woman into bed. Most women will not put up with the ol' hump-and-dump....they'll track you down, and maybe post you on this site. My advice for anyone looking for casual sex: get a hooker. |
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ryan85
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| Posted: Fri Nov 21, 2008 1:00 pm Post subject: |
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@ above
"get a hooker"
thats what straightforward guys do. but they get only hate and pity of women as if they are doing some sin.
strangely women hate the player guys less and would still be attracted to them. but they wont go near a hooker visiting john.
also i dont know why women dont admit this. i mean a lot of women like casual sex too. they will say "you can get it just have to be confident and all" they are such confused man. |
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gingersnapd
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| Posted: Fri Nov 21, 2008 2:32 pm Post subject: Look, |
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why would a woman know you've gone to a hooker, unless you tell her or the town you live in is so small that everyone knows your business? Keep that bit of info to yourself.
The reason women seem to dislike a player less is because they're all hoping they will be the one to make him stop his playin' ways. Just a fact of life. Just like the hot woman who can be a total selfish b*tch and still have guys lining up for her. Totally unfair, but that's the way it is.
I don't believe in casual sex, but I'm wondering why you're having so much trouble getting it, if there are lots of women who want it, like you seem to think. Maybe it's your approach. No woman is turned on by a guy who makes it clear from jump that all he wants is to get in her pants. Except maybe psychos. Confidence does go a long way, so work on that, and rethink your moves. If you're desperate, a woman can sense that. |
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catscalw
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| Posted: Sat Nov 22, 2008 6:02 pm Post subject: This guy can't do casual sex.... |
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I've had the opportunity a few times, and my heart always gets involved...not an apology, I'm glad that I'm made the way I am.
The few times I've tried to have a casual, no-strings fling, it's ALWAYS ended up with ME getting attached, and wanting a committed relationship with that person. I just can't leave my heart at the bedroom door. It doesn't work for me: I always fall in love with that person...sex literally won't work for me, unless I have some emotional exchange with that person. A hooker would probably not work for me...it would probably be disastrous. Even the few times I’ve been picked up on at a bar, there has always been some kind of heart component involved.
I guess for me, the heart is simply a part of physical attraction that I can't factor out of the equation.
I'm not making a value judgment about casual sex...two consenting adults, honesty and responsibility...mutual respect and clear communication....It's just not in my DNA. I'm a one woman guy. |
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gingersnapd
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| Posted: Sun Nov 23, 2008 9:17 am Post subject: Bravo! |
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And you, Cats, are the man women are looking for.
Men like you are taken early, and all the good women have to weed through the young and not-so-young, casual-sex-seeking, commitment-phobic, cheating goofballs out there, hoping to find a gem.
Sigh. |
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courtneyiscool
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| Posted: Mon Nov 24, 2008 3:27 pm Post subject: Cats, you seem like a really great guy! Too bad most guys on |
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| the dating scene aren't like you! Thanks for sharing your "guy" insights with us here on DDHG! Bravo, indeed! |
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ryan85
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| Posted: Tue Nov 25, 2008 7:37 am Post subject: |
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@ coutrnyiscool
then what it is like? do you disagree that getting CASUAL SEX is easier for women? |
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