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My boyfriend has filed for divorce from his soon-to-be ex wife. However, they're not divorced yet. They have no children together. I am three months pregnant, though. Recently, she called to say that she was going to be coming to our city on vacation and she wanted to know if she could stay with us for a few days. I've already said I'm not comfortable with this at all. I am beside myself because he asked me to go back to my apartment while his wife stays with him in what I consider our house. He says that his lawyer told him to not only let her stay with us, but for him to pay for her expenses during her vacation. I'm ready to leave this relationship. What should I do?
Wondering 06 May, 2008 - 09:50
Wondering 06 May, 2008 - 09:50
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You should be the number one priority in your boyfriend's life right now. You are pregnant with his child and he's asking you to stay somewhere else while his soon to be ex stays with him? This request is horribly wrong. He doesn't owe her anything if he's divorcing her and his story about his lawyer sounds like a blatant lie. If your friend were in this situation what would you tell her to do? The reality is that if your boyfriend can't put you first now, he's never going to put you or your child first. Is that the kind of life you want? Assuming you have a family member or a friend who can give you emotional support during your pregnancy, tell your boyfriend to take his ex and his lawyer and shove it.
Don't let another woman into your house. The advice from the lawyer must be based on the fact that the financial settlement isn't completed. However, you are going to be the mother of his child and that has to be respected. He shouldn't pay for her and she damn sure shouldn't stay at your house. Don't leave the relationship because of this. You are acting out of fear of something that hasn't happened.
As a pregnant woman, you should NOT be in this situation. You need to be firm and stand your ground with this guy. You've also got to wonder what kind of guy he is if he will do something like move you out of the house so his ex-wife can stay there. You should be his priority, NOT her!