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Hi there! My live- in boyfriend of 4 years walked out on me unexpectedly on the 1st of September (we have been living together for 3 and a half years).
He packed up all his things while I was at work and he left me a note. I'm trying hard to understand what's going on. We've had a rough year. He lost his job in November last year and only recently found another one. I know he's not happy with the job he is in right now, but it was just a job to pay the bills. He is such an intelligent and talented young man. We've been having some problems sexually because we're both so tired and stressed all the time. But it was something we've been trying to work through.
He told me that I'm not what he wants (even though I've been the best girlfriend, so loving and supportive) and that he doesn't feel the same anymore (even though he never mentioned to me or his friends or his family that he was unhappy). I don't know what to do. My life is in ruins. I don't know what happened in his mind that he thought he couldn't continue anymore.
It was so sudden. I don't believe for one second that he doesn't love me anymore. Please help! -- Jessica
Wondering 21 September, 2009 - 17:11
Wondering 21 September, 2009 - 17:11
Answers:
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Dear Jessica, That's the problem - you don't believe what this guy is telling you. Even though he's saying loud and clear that he doesn't want to be in a relationship, you don't believe him. The reasons why aren't important at this point. He's telling you in no uncertain terms that you're not what he wants and he doesn't feel the same about you anymore. Although this is devastating to you, it's your reality. You've got to accept it and move on. So, do both of you a favor, and let this guy go. - The Average Guy
Girl, please! LEAVE THIS MAN ALONE!!!! He is not lying to you. He is telling you the truth and as hard as it is to hear, it is what it is. He doesn't want to be in a relationship with you. It's his loss, of course, because from your letter, you sound fabulous, but it's over. Move on and find someone who will truly love you, girl!