Alison James

Of course you will feel attracted to other men in your lifetime. It is very normal to have feelings for an ex or for other people who have played a positive role in your life. The real question is: how do you feel about your fiancé? It sounds as if you are very sure your fiancé is the one for you and you do love him. So your attraction for your ex is no big deal. We can't walk around every day totally oblivious to other people. You should, however, cut down on the amount of time you spend communicating with your ex simply because there is no good reason to put yourself in a situation that makes you feel anything other than love for and commitment to your fiancé. Temptation is a normal part of life but we do have an obligation to avoid situations where we know ahead of time that we will be tempted. You might always crave the ice cream on occasion, but if you don't buy it, you'll never give in and eat it.

Sonia Torretto

You would be highly upset if you found out that he had lunch with an ex. Not to mention finding out that he has feelings for this ex. Can you see where you've gone wrong here? You should not have gone to lunch with your ex. Are you trying to make sure your current beau is the one, so you decided to go to lunch with your ex? He's your ex for a reason. Think about that and exorcise your ex from your life so that you can move on and find happiness with your fiance!

The Average Guy

You just told a guy that you would marry him and accepted his ring and then you go to lunch with your old boyfriend? If your fiancé did the same thing, you would have put him on this site. That being said, attraction is normal. But, you can't step over the line though into inappropriate behavior, even though you already have. You need to cut off contact with you ex and move forward in this relationship. There is a reason the other guy is your ex and you said that your fiancé is a 'great guy'. Right now, you're remembering the good parts of the ex, not the reasons that he is your ex. Whatever unresolved issues you have with this guy, work them out in therapy. Also, ask yourself how you would feel if your 'great guy' did the same thing to you.